We have been together 5 years and we have both always felt we were it for each other. He has been addicted to perc and more recently heroin for the past 2 years. He was clean for 6 months till a few weeks ago. When I confronted him he broke up with me and didnt say much. We talked a few days later and he said he still loves me and doesn't see himself being with anyone else, but he can't be in a relationship right now. He said he has no feelings towards anything any more. He feels hallow and doesnt know what he wants. He seems to want to get clean, but wont accept help from anyone including me. I guess I just dont understand why he wants to be broken up. I know when I quit using I wanted him there, just looking.for a little insight and advice thanks.
The honest truth, Cele, is he wants to be alone in his addiction at this point. The fact that you are no longer using makes him very aware that he still is, and on to the harder stuff. unfortunately, there is nothing you can do as long as he doesn't want the help. The sad truth is, he is chosing H over your relationship.
Perhaps it is time for you to take care of YOU!
Very best to you!
Dear CS, welcome to the site. Addicts tend to feel a tremendous amount of guilt and remorse and they tend to want to isolate, this is what is going on. I assure you that you have done nothing wrong, he is simply feeling awful and probably feels unworthy of you and anyone else's love or help. How I wish I could talk to him for you about thenopiate replacement therapy called suboxone. If you will go to YouTube.com and put SuboxDoc into the search bar, you should find some easy to understand videos on addiction and suboxone. Properly taken and with the recommended addiction therapy, he could find recovery. Please watch SuboxDoc's great 2 part video on how it works in the brain. He will have to be in withdrawal for 24 hours and then when he takes the med, within 15 to 45 minutes, he will be feeling relief, 2 hours after the first dose, he will be feeling better than he has felt in years. Many people skip the recommended addiction therapy, this is a major mistake. No one wants anyone to know they have this type of problem but millions in this country have it. Maybe you could encourage him to join our site. We can offer him support, you are welcome to stay for support also. I am adding you to my prayer list. Patti
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