Everyone on my dad's side of the family has had depression including me. I'm nowhere near having kids but I want to know if I should even try to have them biologically because I don't want to pass it on to a child. My dad, aunt, sister, grandma (bipolar) and grandpa all were/are clinically depressed. My mom's side has no history of family illness but its literally the only trait thats really been passed down from my father's side.
I'm also bi polar and all but 1 person on my maternal side has either bi polar or clinically depressed diagnosis's. From what I've read since my diagnosis (I've been living with bi polar for over a decade) it has a pretty good chance of being in our offspring. But that doesn't mean u can't have children. You'll know what to look for, how to help it deal with the things that most have to go through alone. And there's a chance you'll end up with a mentally sound child (at least once they're out of their teens), and it won't be an issue. And if you really don't want to take the chance, there's always adoption. But that's no guarentee either. You can't pick ur kids (yet), but as long as u love them and are there for them, they have a great start.
My mother had depression from the time she had me and yes I did have depressions myself. The Psychiatrist told me that if you live and see a parent having depressions that also makes your odds higher. I did not live with her! But I am fine now with meds! I have low seratonin. No reason not to have children! They are a blessing from God! And I love life!
I wouldn't base my decision on rearing children by statistics. When you and the right partner are ready... you'll know. Don't let "fear" drive you and your decisions. You cannot be assured or guaranteed that a child you might adopt won't deal with that somewhere along the line. Your family life is what you make it. That will influence how your potential children deal with their issues, whether they are your biological and/or adopted.
I hope you continue to grow and flourish in your life. When the time comes... you and your partner will decide what it is that will make your love for family grow...
Yes it could happen, the genetics are there. But ask yourself how you treat life and others. If you can love and help others, listen well and not focus just on you,then depression is not the worse thing out there. However, if these people are addicted to drugs, alcohol, or other huge problems, and you are not, then why worry? Both sides of my family is loaded with anxiety, depression and addiction to alcohol. So I stopped drinking, don't do drugs and see a therapist when I need it. My daughter is beautiful, talented and successful. The world would have missed a lovely girl and a talented woman if I based such a decision on others. When the time comes, you will know and be ready for anything. Be smart for getting help and always encourage. Having the gene does not mean it will appear as a behavior. As our friend said, you will know. Always search for happiness and enjoy the little things.
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