she lost a good job because of her substance abuse for the four time in a row. i still have hope for her. but on her last job this was the best job she haved her drug abuse got real bad 07-01-10 cocaine,crack and any kind of pills . she spent all the money for food,bills,rent over $7,000.00 in sept. olny i didt know this still the bad checks started comeing in thur the mail. so i told her you need help. i will do any thing i will go with you, i love you we can do this we ben thur bad times before.we have ben married for 34 years in march 16 2011. she sat no way i said what about the kids and grand children. she said who cares i cryed. she has lost all hope and love for me,the kds and god. she ran out knowing i have no money for food,bills,rent and went to wooford,county,ky because of bad checks&drugs i can stop the drugs in jefferson,county,ky with the help form the police in louisville,ky. but why did she go to woodford,co. because of her sister lives there and she can get her all the drugs she needs .so my wife filed for divorce. im a good man family comes fist in my book. i lost my job for 15 years in 2008 ketp.paying all the bills with my unemployent checks still it ran out in 07/07/2010 filed for social security disability do to my degenerative disk disease.but was deny. i lost my home,family any hope but i find a way to go to church and pray a lot 5 times a day she left us to die. god help me
My wife is a drug addict my love my life?
Added 27 Jan 2011:
my brother ask me to send this e-mail to the family.?he hads no money he dont know why the family thinks this we are a family of 6 my brother and his wife had to borrow$500.00 from her sister.and applying for food stamps.i hope they get it.they can not help me any more they just cant afford it.i have no one to borrrow any money from any one in my family!sad very sad.ant it.so no meds,gas,ins,to go to a court order for mediator its $70.00 no money for gas to go to georetown ,ky the judge says im not poor enough for one in lou,kyso i might go to jail at the end of jan.because i cant pay the fee and gas to get there and her blood sucking attorney put out a sanctioned on me for $285.00thats due by jan. 26 2011so its looks like jail time for me in a shit hole woodford county jail. why do bad things happen to a good man?olny gods knows .dont think that tm not tried to get this mess over.but she hads to pay her haft of the bills. but she does not want to pay any thing but she will give money for her drugs.and no call from my family no help
Hi Lost Love,
You are not alone in your plight. Many people have the exact same story.
Please go to Alanon meetings if you can. Also see if your church can help you financially.
Could you qualify for food stamps or subsidized housing? See a social worker about these things.
And never ever give up hope, for it is all we have at times.
Wishing you only the best,
You were blind-sided and I know your heart aches. You're looking for answers that you want to know, but yet, cannot really find. She is responsible for her actions, not you. No matter what you have done for your family, your love, support, anguish or pain, she has chosen her path in life; a destructive path. All you can do is to pick yourself up and realize that she is not the person you used to know and love. Sometimes it comes to a point in life where we experience so much pain that we don't know if we can go on. Don't let others put you into that position. Lean on those you can count on, lean on your Higher Power who has the answers. Pray for strength, truth, courage and wisdom. HE will take care of you! Seek the good in yourself; you know who you are and what your are made up of. DO NOT let others take you down. If you need additional support or counseling, go for it.
You feel like you're in a world nobody can understand, but if you reach out, you'll find you are not alone. Let go, let God. A very famous saying, but you have to have it in your heart. You have to come to an acceptance of what she has done and that you cannot change her. You have to do this in order to start moving forward. We can only change ourselves... And when you tap into every source available and find yourself, you will understand.
Hey Lostlove. What a sad, sad story. I am so sorry to hear this. I married my soulmate about a year and a half ago and cannot imagine this. I am so glad to hear u r so heavily involved in your church. God takes us thru things, and we just can't understand shy sometimes. He would never put u thru a situation he did not think u could handle. He has his reasons for everything. U can believe it will get better. Maybe he took her out of your life so her wrongdoings did not land u in jail. Since y'all were married I am sure y'all shared things jointly. I know love is a hard thing to lose, but maybe this will give her the wake up call she needs and she will get it together and come back to u the lady u first married. Can your children not help u? I know it would be hard to ask our own children for help, but u gave them 18 yrs and I am sure they might help u get back on your feet. I will be praying for u and your wife and family. Kee the faith.
I know this seems like the end but someway the writing is on the wall look at what you have lost but you still continue to serve God and do the very best that you can, I am proud of you, I know you would have done anything in this world to have saved your marriage and to have pulled your wife along with you but one thing seems clear your wife made a decision, It is so sad but this happens more and more every day, when a loved one makes a choice like that then despite what you do you cannot make her do what she does not want to do, it's clear to see that she is so hooked and hanging on to the drugs until she will (sorry to say) have to hit rock bottom before she really makes changes, you my friend continue on, things will get better, the darkest hours seem to come before the light, it is my belief you are a good man,
your children will recognize that and whether you believe that or not they will have that instilled in them and one day when you are not expecting it things wlll be different, I know how hard it is not to be able to work and pay bills but you know you do the right thing and pay what you can and remain the honest person I believe you to be, it will all work out for good. I was born not far from the place where you reside, I had a friend who was so addicted and he went to the south the doctor's there seem to make it easy for him to get the pain medications that he seemed to need, he started out with an injury and then told me one day he like the feeling of the narcotics, 6 years later he is a good husband, takes his family to Church and a totaolly different person, he lives in the south but moved to a smaller town than where he lived, so I tell you I believe in you and someway somehow someone else is going to do the same, continue to follow the path you are on and please know that you are in my prayers and I encourage you to keep on keeping on
I divorced one of the same type abuser. Life gets better from the bottom. Take care of yourself and talk talk talk! Gym & pool stress very cheap 5.00 usually just walk in heated relaxing water helps calm ur nerves, I've done this it helps and cheaper than therapy.
Always file appeal on disability denial. Always. 90% gets turned down first time around. Just don't give up and wake and take each day new. Best of luck and blessings and prayers.
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