she said she needs me to leave her alone to clear her head and let the medicine to kick in but it's hard because we have a 3 year old ( my step daughter) and she's not letting me see her. i try not to send her emails but it's hard because i love them both so much. she just got back on zoloft 150mg a week ago. any advice? i dont want to push her away. thank you
Hi djgray, I feel bad about your situation. I can relate to some parts of it. People don't like to hear when counselors disagree with them or make suggestions that don't fit in to their idea of what they feel like doing. Or not doing. It's easy when a counselor backs you up, says yea, go have some fun on the PC, no harm no foul. I disagree with that too. Whenever something (in this case email & chats) takes time away from the relationship, and that person focuses so much on the typed words and feelings, it DOES hurt the relationship. I'm not sure if this is what her counselor said, but it's very true. Emotions are taken away from the relationship and focused elsewhere. That will harm even the strongest bonds.
I can't tell you what to do, but you might want to see a counselor just for yourself. Learn how to deal with this emotional roller coaster. Whenever someone says, I need to be left alone to clear my head, well that tells me she wants to focus elsewhere. I hope you can learn to be happy. Maybe once she adjusts to the medication, she may have a different outlook on things. But please try to get some help for yourself. You sound very sad. I really hope you can work this out and see that little girl again. Be strong and please feel free to post some more. It helps getting things off your mind.
Best wishes to you,
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