Im assuming you know why your sons doctor prescribed tramadol in the first place? and i can only assume you have sought advice regarding this question from this same doctor???
In your question you stated that you "Desperately need help" ?
If this is the case, then mabe you should take him to your nearest hospital.
On this forum, you will find a large cross reference of opinions.
Some from a medical field, some with first hand experience with the medication your talking about. I am the latter. and i would ask you to re phrase your question, and add as much detail as possible, as this is very important for us if we are to give accurate advice. I would like to help you. Please add more details to help me and others on this forum understand the situation better..
look forward to hearing back from you.
You're obviously going through alot with your son and his addiction to these pills,i would advise that you speak your concens with your son,but you probably have already done that! I know dealing with an addict wheather it be to tramadol or heroin,the person themselves need to admit that they have a problem before they will accept help from anyone else,
Your son needs to want to come off the tramadol,it was probably prescribed to him for pain am i right?? If so then he needs to as i said want to get help with his addiction,have you spoken to the doc that prescribed him these meds?
I know if he is over a certain age then doc/patient confidentality comes into it,but you could try talking with the doc and vicing your concerns and explain your sons behaviour,that way you're getting professional advice.
And also your son will have to gradually come down off these meds if he's taken a large amount for a long period of time,he cannot just stop taking them or he will suffer withdrawles,plus tramadol is known to cause depression in people who have been on the med for long period of time,so all in all i would advise you to speak with your son first then if he does'nt listen,try the doc.
Maybe one of the other members will have better advice for you when they read your post but thats the best i can give with the info you gave.
I'm heart sorry you are in this situation,
I wish you and your son the best of luck.
Post anytime,we are here to help!!!
I've never taken Tramadol but I have been on most of the other pain meds. I know Tramadol is a little different, but I don't think it is so different that it should be causing aggressive behavior. That's what's confusing me. Opiates are not known to cause aggressive behaviors. They're more likely to cause somnolence. The only time I would think a person will become aggressive is when he's run out of the meds, and he's in wds. When a person is in withdrawal he may get aggressive, but even then it's unlikely. Is your son Bipolar? Maybe he quit his BP meds, if he is?
Since he has admitted to using other drugs I think the aggressiveness is coming from another drug. Cocaine and Meth are known to do this, and Meth is something to take when you need extra energy to go to work with.
I guess the bottom line is that since he's in his 40's you can't do much about this unless he wants help. I also tend to think he's getting his pills without a doc because he's being so vague about where he get's them. If he was getting them legitimately he would just tell you. And have you actually seen the pills or the bottle? Sorry I'm being so suspicious. I just know the kind of BS people who are hooked on drugs tell their Mothers. I was once such a person and I once had a Mother that I lied to also. At least you know he's feeling ashamed of himself. That's why he's lying. I wish I could be of further help.
Hi dd! It's a pleasure to meet you! :)
I'm hoping that you do see this post. I've seen several of your posts where you state that you're leaving Drugs.com PLEASE DON'T, dd, I BEG YOU!!
Right now you have WAY too much going on, it's too overwhelming, there's no support for you at home, only battles & wondering what's going to happen next & wondering if you're doing the right thing & wondering...
Please don't leave, dd! Just pop back intermittently; use this site as a backup, for your support. We're your "long-distance" family. LOL We all do want to help you here. That's WHY we're all here! LOL
This site is for everyone, not just drug abusers or medical & professional people. It's also for people like you & others who only have the experience of living through the pain because that's what their loved ones are experiencing. That's what makes this website such a great forum~~~you can get opinions & suggestions & help from everyone on all different levels! Most of us aren't professionally trained, we've only been trained by life, been drained by life... now we want to give back by helping others. It's just like pledge said earlier: dd, you've opened the door but now you can't control over who's walking in through that door & leaving information for you to read. Just take what you need now & can use & leave the rest. Please also take us with a grain of salt & diplomacy. :)
Many of us are in pain, sometimes we can get grumpy or sad or have a hard time even thinking clearly through the diverse layers of this fog of hurting & pain & debillitation & guilt. I personally struggle with most of my posts. I don't wish to offend anyone, not just the recipient of my posts but also others who might read it. We've walked down the same paths as you,dd, just that we've never walked in your shoes. Please, dd, let us walk beside you now, if only for a little while. You really need to be holding our hands right now for that connection that gives extra support & strength & warmth. Strength in numbers, right? LOL
Please, please, dd, PLEASE DON'T LEAVE, not just yet!!!
We need YOU as well as you needing US. I post on here to also help myself for a multitude of reasons. dd, I actually camo on here & was going to jsut refer to something that Thor had said in his post before I started my "ranting". LOL I also don't mean to make you have to read so much either! LOL But, this is also part of my therapy that I need & use to help myself. It's my physical, emotional, spiritual & mental therapy that I actually require presently. I can't tell you how many times I've sat here, usually very late at night, & just sat here & wept as I try to type some small & hopeful words to a stranger who has touched my heart. I'm actually crying now for your pain. I haven't been in your exact circumstance but I have been in a relationship without feeling support when I needed it. I believe that's part of why God made us women the way that he did. We give & give & give & sometimes it's to no avail. We are mothers; that's the way she goes. :)
In your specific instance, I agree with Thor. I'd suggest for you to have a hard talk with your son & give him 2 weeks' notice to get out. You can't help him anymore; he's not receptive or appreciative of your support for him. You're only enabling him through your love & support right now. He hasn't bottomed out yet, he doesn't totally appreciate all that you do for him. Your home is a safe haven for him.
It could also be a dangerous situation that you're in, dd, I mean literally, in a physical aspect. People will do many things when they're hooked, unconscionable things that they never would have even imagined before in their former life...
Anyway, please take my suggestion if you wish. It's an offering, take it or leave it. It's your choice, dd. Please stay! Even if it's only for a little while. Make some of us your friends & then you can email us privately to chat & for more support when you feel the need. There are so many brilliant & compassionate contributors here that you haven't even met yet! Please give us one more chance to help you, dd. You're in a strange place now & could use some friends. Please, don't turn down our open hands, don't turn your back on us, don't walk away, not just yet. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty, however, I sense that in your heart of hearts you still need us, even if you don't recognize that right now. dd, PLEASE DON'T LEAVE...
I wish you brighter days ahead while you walk down this long, lonely road.
Let us walk beside each other, my friend.
from Wendy :)
ddevich, I know when you see my name you probably won't read this response, but I hope you do. We apparently got off on the wrong foot so to speak on another question about someone dealing with her husbands pain & pill problems. I hold no resentments to anyone on this site. I tend to speak my mind at times, which is just how I am. Your situation is not that unusual. Infact, I am your exact age & also have a son in his mid forties that has some identical problems. I have tried & tried to help or deal with it, but finally made the decision that he is a grown man, & can take care of himself. I think the more pressure put on a person in this situation is putting fuel on the fire. I must agree with Thor that he shouldn't be living in your home. You should not be the one to leave tho, he should. I have been that route too. I suggest that you start going to alanon meetings whenever you can.
I did this when my son was only 14, & it really has helped to this day in dealing with HIS problems. I don't deal with them because they are not my problems. I didn't cause them, & can't make him stop until he can admit he has a problem. Letting him live with you is enabling him to do drugs believe it or not. These are things you learn at alanon. It's a wonderful program that teaches you how to deal or not deal with someone who is an addict. I hope you don't quite the site as I feel you have a lot to offer on the side you are on. You could help alot of people like me & yourself that deal with people that have addictions. We are a family here, & support each other. I do wish you the best & hope your situation has changed some since last month. Please consider the alanon meetings, & drag that husband of yours along with. He needs to wake up & realize what is really going on. Good luck to you & your family & especially your son. I know it's breaking your heart...
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