He said he was happy he could be honest with me about it, but now I feel like I'm looking over my shoulder, wondering if he is always telling me the truth? I watch him lie to mom and everyone. He is in his last years of RN schooling and I'm worried about drugs there and his state of mind around patients. I confront him and tell him its killing me, the family and home how he is being. He doesnt care about the last dollars for gas for the car, if our child is home, nothing seems to matter. I've left come back, I've gone to group meetings, went to church meetings, prayed. Tried to learn everything about it. Told him how much it scares me, and the lies to cover for more. It makes me feel the crack is number 1 and everything is second. When I met him he told me he liked pot, I had to learn that, now its crack and no pot.I dont understand the drug world. He has taken me with him to get it from a house, he left me in the car and was gone to long and I went to the door, mad and told him to come on, he was more mad at me, cuz he said I was going to get us killed. I dont care about the drugs, I care about him. Everyone keeps saying to leave him for good, I do love him with my whole heart for no reason, just because, but I dont know what else to do, please help??? If I walk away and dont say nothing to prevent patients or him mom from getting hurt or just pretend I dont know??? Thanks and God Bless!
I have to agree with nenag, & also it scares me that he is going to be a Nurse maybe get a job at a hospital where he has to be alert to care for patients. I know of a case where two people husband & wife were addicted to crack, & she was a registered nurse making tons of money working at a University Hospital. I sure wouldn't want to be a patient of hers! If you are planning to leave him because as nenag said he has to admit he has a problem before it can ever be fixed, then I would also turn him into where he goes to school & let them know. I hate that he might lose his career, but the saftey of you & future patients must come first...
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I have had boyfriends I have had to dump in the past over this, but never a husband. I can only imagine how hard this must be for you. You can't understand what and why he is doing this. Drugs impare a person's mind so much that they don't understand what they are doing. I am no expert..so I'm not even going to try and explain it, but there are several people on this board that I hope read this that can explain to you exactly what drugs do to the mind and body, and hopefully you will understand bettter. But he will not change his ways or his using until he is ready to. You're mind cannot comprehend that. And that is the sad thing. Why is he doing this. But he is. And you may need to get out, if you have allready left, and done the meetings and everything else. I pray the answer will come to you, and I'm sorry I couldn't give you better news. Drugs are a powerful thing. And make people do strange things. Him blaming you for things is normal. He will defend his habit any way he can. Like I said, you will hear from others too. I pray things will get better for you, and for him. God Bless. Ruth
Dear rocci,first let me say how sorry I am for you and your child.I have to agree with Mary and sweet lemon.you have to leave him and most importantly,you really need to turn him in to some one in charge at his school.imagine if he were high and was treating your child,that is unacceptable!it is against the law to be in that condition in any prof setting in the medical field.I know I sound harsh but I want you and your family to be safe and for any one who is a potential patient of his to be safe.I am sending you courage and strength,and hope,c
Hi Rocci, so sorry for your situation but only YOU can make it better for yourself and child. As for him as a professional it scares the hell out of me that we as patients we put our lives in people's care that are "out of their minds".
I had surgery on a deviated septum, simple procedure, years ago and it has caused me an enormous amount of pain, money and life, the surgeon was a crack addict. I found out after he was long gone to who knows where, another hospital? You sound like a very decent person that knows she has to do the right thing all around, and you will. Life with him is guaranteed to get much worse so take good care of yourself, we are here for support, hugs, mindy
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