my husband of 2 years is addicted to vicodin.he denies he still takes them,but i know he does. should i leave him? i feel like it jsut keeps gettign worse and worse. now, there is money missing and he calls and texts numbers all day long while im at work, we have a 4 year old daughter and im jsut afradi that if i leave, it will really affect her negatively. we have fought about drugs since we have met. one week after i foudn out i was pregnant, i foudn it he does coke every once in a while, he promised he would never do it again, but he still did it (that i know of) about 5 times after that. now, i am almost positive he is completely addicted to painkillers. i alrady called the doctor so that he would stop prescriing them to him. but, now, i think he is buying them from his "friends". he also has a brother and sister who are addicted to and i feel like as long as he has those 2 "on his side" he will never stop. i am always upset and crying and finding out how he lies, i feel like the only thing i can do is to leave him. im afraid my daughter will grow up thi nking drugs are normal, im afraid that he will just get worst and do worst drugs. i just cant believe the that my best friend, my husband is someone i hardly even know anymore. has anyone out there left there husband bc of a drug problem and regretted it? what if when we do divorce, when its his weekend to have our daughter, im so afraid that he will be all messed up around her and even have her around awful people.
I know you asked for a "direct" answer. But I really feel for you and wanted to show you something. You asked, "Has anyone out there left their husband because of a drug problem and regretted it?" It happens a lot but no one has replied (yet). You could interpret that any number of ways. One possibility, maybe no one HAS regretted leaving an addict and didn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you to get out while you can because it will only get worse. Others may not have responded because they may feel you knew what you were getting in to when you first met him. Or maybe they didn't think contacting his doctor was the right thing to do as addicts will get their drugs by any means necessary. I truly, truly feel for you and the tough situation you and your child are in. But deep down, isn't your mind already made up? Only you can answer that. You have to do what is best for you and your child. So many others have been where you are right now. It's heart breaking to say the least. But you CAN build a new life for you and your child and be happy again. Or you can always try the "ultimatum" A minimum of 30 days intensive in-patient therapy, N/A meetings, (90 meetings in 90 days) IMMEDIATELY after he comes out of rehab, lifelong commitment to sobriety. How would he respond to that? Please, please get to some N/A meetings yourself. They can direct you on how to handle him much better than anyone. There are many support groups for people in the same place as you. If you need any help at all on researching support groups, please let me know. I'll try my best to help. I wish you the very best and my prayers are with you.
My mothers brother was addicted he would tell one lie after the other I truthfully don't think once you are in over your head that you have any control
My mother did something I don't know it nearly killed her his wife died she had a nervous breakdown, she was worn out and one Saturday morning my mom walked over to prepare breakfast for her (she was still living with him but she had broke down and was in the bed) my mother found her dead, My mother told him he made his choice, he nearly wore my mother down, I've seen her go and her dress would shake from being so nervous after my Aunt died he came to our home once my mother found pills in his pillowcase she insisted that he return home, he continued drugs until his kidneys shut down and he died. I can't tell you what to do that has been a long time ago and I still have the memories, I have to take chronic pain medicine but I do so under careful supervision of a doctor, I see her Monday 4 times in less than 2 weeks (2 weeks) I am not in your shoes but you may have to give him a choice of course you want things to return to normal, No regrets but you have to be strong you have you and your daughter to think about he has to make a choice, I can't tell you to leave I could only try and give you some insight Oh this is nasty business and I can only begin to guess at what torment you feel, do what is best for the safety of both of you! ask him if the pills are more important than both of you? he will have to want help you can't do it for him I hope in some small way I have give you some guidelines I wish you the very best I will keep you in my prayers
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