i lived with an alcoholic an a very abusive man to me an my children for 20 years we have been apart now for about 6 months... i feel better... but 1 of my daughters,,, who swore she would never drink,,, has been drinking over a year... last november she had a wreck on the greater new orleans bridge... an got a D W I an now about 3 weeks ago she pulled out of someones driveway an hit a car... 2nd D W I i beg an beg her everyday to please stop drinking,,, she tells me to leave her alone,,, shes grown... what kind of help is there out there,,, i feel like if i dont do something soon i am going to loose my child. i no if any of my children died,,, that would be the end of me... i feel so useless i have bad panic attacks an i dont go out often... and i worry 24/7... does anyone know something i could do,,, i live in louisiana... i really dont no how to go about getting her help... so could someone please tell me if they no
Your daughter needs to be in a recovery program, but you can't force her to go. She needs to hit a bottom so to speak and want the help. Hopefully, the court system will force her to get help. Since this is her second DWI she is probably in trouble with the law and they will make her go to counseling. The best you can do is not pick up the pieces for her when she gets into trouble so that she has to suffer the consequences of her behavior. I know that is difficult when it is your own flesh and blood, but tough love is critical right now. Let her know how you feel, then have to let it go. If she is an adult, and old enough to drink then you can do little to stop her.
I recommend you get some support from other people who are going through what you are. Going to Al-Anon would help you temendously. You can go to the Al-Anon website at: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Taking care of yourself and learning about the disease of alcoholism is important to helping your daughter. Find some meetings and check them out. There will be people there that can help you through this and give you expert advice on how to help your daughter.
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