... my dad is a heroin addict and he does not know I know,he is talking suboxone i hope that means he is trying to give it up! he keeps giving me hints that he use's and keeps asking me to stay around to help him but wont tell me what what it is i am helping with. i think he is trying to give it up on his own n that he wants my help. He is too afraid he is going to let me down or something? i want to be there for him and i want to help but what is the best way for me to go about it. He needs help!! thanx
I think its great you want to be there for your dad and the best thing you can do is educate yourself like your doing. Honesty is best policy and you need to know whats going on and he needs to be honest with you if not its hard to help when you dont know what you are trying to help. If he is using suboxone thru a certified doctor then thats great,if not then he could easily relapse on the heroin because suboxone is a program that needs to be followed. I would ask my dad to tell me everything and that I will be there for him to help him get the right help and to support him that way. Addiction is a disease and can be treated but he needs to want the help and follow some kind of program, whether going inpatient or outpatient. He needs a plan and you can help with that but he needs to do the work. You can find out about programs and point him in the direction and even bring him but he needs to be willing to see it thru. Good luck to you and your dad,any other questions just write.
Hello young one, your plea sounds so familiar, I to am a on and off opiate addict and full time father to 3 wounderful childern of which two are aware of my sickness, your love and understanding will help you and your dad. Ask yourself how you feel about this big issue in your life. If you are strong enough and have learned about this sickness you can then engage your father. Remember us fathers need to believe we are bullet proof and can always take care of our childern. So be gentle with dear old dad. He is sick and needs your maturity along with your understanding. Sounds like you really love your dad and I am sure he feels the same way. This is a real problem for both of you and it will take some real devotion on both of your parts to cope with this. God Bless You for trying to stand by your Dad, Remember, this is not your fault. I can not even emagine how to tell my 11 year old. Tears from me just thinking about it. All the best,you are not alone. William777
well i am 25 yrs. old i've been on both sides of the fense i've seen my mom abuse things and the pain and total fear of that, to the fact that i myself ended up becomeing a heroin addict, i've been clean for almost a year thanks to suboxone. So the best way i think you can be of help you must first be up front and set some rules so neither one of you get's hurt i.e. Tell him you will help but the only way you can help is if he's honest theres nothing to be ashaimed of it is very very hard to get away from that drug so anyways help him to see that there is more to life then drugs and he can be happy w/ out and that the next one could and may be his last one also, you unfortuanatly must keep this in mind as well if you feel he is lyeing or trying to get money from you you must stand your ground and say no or it will never end i hope i've been of a little help
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