The love of my life was in prison for major meth sales and usage for 5 years. When he got out, he started right in again with the drugs, this time, Roxy's. He spends so much money on these horrible pills. Our relationship is being affected and even though it hurts me he does it anyway. He use to work out all the time, now he looks thinner than ever and he never wants to eat or go to the gym. He blew me off when my best friend was visiting from out of town because he would rather have been high, by himself.. I invited him to go out to eat with us and he said eating is bad. He's been going on like this since June of 2009, almost 7 months, and it's getting worse and worse. He twitches in bed at night whether he's on it or not. This morning he confessed just how big his problem is. That's when I found out how much money he spends a week, and why it feels like we are not as close now as we use to be. He said he wants my help, but I am so clueless on what I can actually do besides just being there for him. He thinks I won't run away from him, but I do not want to date a drug addict. I'm scared. I don't want to loose him, and more importantly, I don't want him to loose himself. He's stronger than he thinks, I know he is. I don't understand why he takes these pills. I understand addiction, I smoke cigs and recovered from being an alcoholic.. But this is different. The withdrawls from Roxy's are ridiculous. Physical pain, sweating/chills, throwing up, twitching, loss of appetite/weight, personality changes, mood swings.. If people knew that this would happen would they do it anyway? I think he is smart enough to know better, but he's doing it anyway. What do I do? I'm afraid that he will just start lying to me about it if I set up ground rules. I have to stand my ground here because I am not going to waste my time with a roxy-moron. He is better than that, but his actions lately would say otherwise. What can I do? In what ways can I help him? What are some things that I can say to him to help? I would do anything to help him because I love him so much and I want everything that is best for him, but I am not an idiot, and I am too good to be getting dragged in to his drug addiction. I feel sick. Probably how he is going to feel for a while if he really stops taking the pills. How will I know if he really stops taking them? How will I know if he starts taking them again after a while? If he can't stop, then he is going to loose more than his ability to control himself, he's going to loose me. I wish I didn't feel so helpless. I wish there was something realistic that I can do to help. I don't think he needs to transfer his addiction to something else but I could be wrong. I think the best thing I can do is stay with him while he goes through withdrawls, rub his back, tell him that he's doing good, offer him a life style change, but what if that is not enough? Somebody must have gone through this before. Please, anything that anybody has to say would offer me some peace of mind since I promised that I wouldn't tell anybody, so this is my only way to reach out and get him some help.
god bless you i am going thur the same thing with my husband . we have been together 20 years have one boy 15 . our son knows . he has ask his dad to get help thinking coming for him it would mean more he said he would try suboxone but it is expensive to start . i have started atending church to keep my faith that he will be able to fight this . i have cronic pain i have to lock my meds up he has not stole them but if i leave them out i think his addicton would be too strong to care how much i would suffer . i will keep you in my prayers you need a support group or person look up your local na group or attend a allanon group . a local hospotal should be able to guide you in the right directon . but if he dont want help
you maynot be able to help him . i will keep u in my prayers . god bless
I am also going thru the same type of situation as you are. I dont know how many pills/how often your boyfriend is taking roxys but mine claims that it is just a recreational use and he just wants to get high. He says he is NOT a "junkie" and hes not addicted. We got into a big fight about it and I broke up with him for it and he promised he would quit and so we got back together. Now i truly believe that he is doing them again but just lying about it to me so that I will not get mad & leave him again. I can ALWAYS tell when his pupils are so so small, pinpoint small. His voice gets scratchy & he just has this" the world is amazing" attitude. Evverytime I ask him if hes on anything he turns it around on me & says that Im being crazy & no he is not on them anymore. My gut instinct was right the first time & so I think it might be tihs time too.
I dont know how to figure out if my suspicion is true or not because he'd lie to save his own ass til the day he dies. It really has affected our relationship as well, the days he is not acting "high" he has violent temper outbursts & is whole personality is so up and down. I guess it is just comforting to know that someone else is in your boat and Id love to know how you handle it because I am at my breaking point.
He will only let you help him if he really wants the help. Im sure that somewhere deep down he knows he needs to be off the drug, but the drug has taken over him and he has no will power to stop.
I think Im heading down the same road as you. Ive been with my husband for 22 years, have two boys and am completely in love with him and our life together. However, he was addicted to pot for the first 19 years. He quit due to me leaving him over it. Now he takes pills. First xanex, then soma, then morphine, vicodine, and now the roxy's. He has friends that have ruined their life over these pills and constantly belittle's them for it. But I think he's on the same path as they are. Lately he's been very irratable in the morning. I think that's when he is the least high or maybe not at all. He has little concerne for my feelings at that time of day. I think he is spending money on these pills and not telling me.
I think he is trying to control the pills but his irratability is a sign that they might be getting the better of him. He says he has it under control, but I think his control is slipping away. I think that if I confront him about it, he will get defensive and argue with me, and blame me for why he cant take the pill. Like im telling him no he cant have it, but rather his actions are telling me no he shouldnt be taking it and that Im concerned of our future together if he continues on this path. Im at a loss to.
You can only be there for support if he really wants to change this, but dont blame yourself if he doesnt. Its not your fault, your relationship will be just a horrible side affect of a drug that he takes.
I wish there were something I could tell you to encourage you. I just dont know myself what that is.
Hey everyone, well ladies I can start by saying that if someone dosent want to get clean they will not. It dsoent matter how many ultimatiums u give them they will always find an excuse. You have to be firm, yet understanding. You dont know what hes going through and trying to will just irritate you and him. The best thing u can do I express ur worries and let him know that u want stand for it. Maybe look into getting the subs (sobaxane) and maybe even NA. These nasty little bastard will chew u up and spit you out, the woman who said she didnt like him smoking pot, honestly was the only saving grace for me. So I would take the lesser of two evils, let him know ur ok with it as long as its used for rehab puporses. I hope everything works out and stay strong thats what they need most of all. Going through it alone is the hardest thing to do.
I have a feeling that mine is doin the same thing. can somebody tell me some side effects or something. because i find cut straws and i think he is in denial. but i need to know for sure. because we a have a 4 week old baby and if he is messin up then he has to go. i wont get my baby takin from me because he is bein stupid.
hes better off in prison to tell u the truth becuz tht shit is all around me and i mean allll around me and the only way hell be able to stay alive is in rehab or in prison but ive never seen anyone tht far in and just exsept rehab so even if uve got to set him up. do it if u realy love. u would if u did
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