I have known my best friend for a very long time and we are extremely close. she has had drug problems in the past but has came through her addiction to heroine but in the past 7 years she abuses xanax and has suffered a few seizures. the last seizure she had, the doctor told her the next one would probably kill her. She was taking her xanax correctly for a little while but has since been abusing them again, she eats them like tic tacs. She is taking bars and her anxiety is through the roof. she is talking about suicide quite a bit lately and I am scared to death. Her family has pretty much had it, but I don't want to see her die. She was at my house the other night and stole my sisters prescribed xanax when she was in the shower. I am beside myself. I am extremely afraid to confront her. It is a big mess. on top of her addictions she is also bi-polar with schizoid tendencies. She also drinks so very much. She has lost her job and is in complete denial. she says all she needs to do is find a job. she was fired from her last 2 jobs (bartending) drinking while working. No one in her family really cares anymore, because they have their own problems and have tried to help her many times. I feel like if I don't at least try to be tough, I may lose her.
Hi Evelyn - You are a very loving friend, but you may be biting off more than you can chew as far as feeling totally responsible for her while she is acting totally irresponsible. I do understand you love her & want her well, but she must want it for herself. You obviously have experience confronting an addict! Its not always pleasant when they're in denial. But, I'd definitely talk with her because she's stolen from your family member. Try to preface your talk with how much you care about her, and how important her friendship is to you. But, you must tell her that you are very concerned. And, that you'll help her seek help, if she gets honest. But, that you cannot have the theft going on. Bipolar can be managed with meds & therapy, and that should be her goal to seek those treatments, if she is not stabilized. But, adding other addictive Psych. drugs or alcohol to an untreated bipolar patient is like adding gas to fire . If she gets the Xanax from a Dr., I may consider telling her Dr. that you are very scared due to her talk of suicide. But, try first to have her help herself again. Somewhere inside, she must be proud of herself for quitting 'H'!! She needs tough love & firm reassurance with honesty. But, yes... there's always a chance that you may lose her. With prayers, Jillian
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