Women abd give your thoughts and feelings on the subject you are not alone we can all maybe help each other through this difficult time! Jaime... litlmommag
Men/women who is having a problem with sexual disunction please got to my post is ther a vigra for?
- 16 Oct 2011 by litlmommag
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Added 16 Oct 2011:
I just wanna thank everyone for being honest and sharing men and women we are all people we all have feelings and our oon battles to overcome and I do believe we will overcme them and all find happiness in our own ways. I like the fact we are all different and yet the smae in so many ways. I don't think anybody should be emmabrrressed or ashamed of this problem. It is a difficulty in our lives and we should be able to talk about it just like everything else so we can help each other through it. I would like to give support to anyone willing to take it and hear opinions of anyone who wants to be supportive to others. Jaime
Added 16 Oct 2011:
Sorry for my wonderful typing my cell phone typing lol!
I have been wanting to ask a question about my lack of desire.
I mean there is N-O-T-H-I-N-G! And in all honesty-yes, I am talking about my 'alone time'. I'm not in a relationship so all I have is my alone time.
I would notice when I was using on days I used much less I could have a nice time in the evening. Now? Nawda. zip
it makes me sad.
I don't know how much I actually miss it-and that makes me sadder, yet!
I'm 57. I can't, I refuse to believe my sex life is over! Tell me it ain't so!
Let's get this conversation started!
I have the same problem. I asked my medications doc about it and did reaserch on my on and its a common side effect with SSRIs and anti anxiety drugs. I've tried everything, but all I get is nothing. The only time I have any feeling down there is when the arousal is extremely intense, but its only a little. At least I know I'm not alone in all this. I just have to keep trying.
The only problem with this I experience is pain in the back from muscular tension of orgasm. I have to make it shorter and sweeter. The back pain is so bad right now though my husband and I have stopped for now, so I do not have my whole back lock up or a feeling of being paralyzed for awhile if I do something much to strenuous. I am on benzodiazapines and pain medications and still it is all there, so it must be the SSRI's and depression, with fear of pain getting in the way. Also it is good to have a partner that knows your back disease and will work around it with you and you trust not to hurt you. I really hope it is not over for me and you guys too. I really enjoy that part of life and they say it is quite good exercise too. ;-) Amanda
Hi Jamie, That is exactly my problem from those SSRI's, I have been chemically castrated. That in it's self I s very depressing. When I first started the ssri's I was told that "MAY" cause sexual side effects. Then my problem started, mild at first. Then it got really bad Vigra helped for a little while, now that will not work. All of the desire is gone too! It's really hurting my marriage, to a very big extent. I am as you probably know,coming off ssri's and switching to Wellbutrin, In hope it will help me in that area!!! I just did not know about these drugs, never even researched them, until lately, I should have known better. But ("it is what it is") I hate that phrase! I didn't know it effected women also to that great of extent. I feel for all of you! This is not an answer, wish I had one. Lv Dave PS They should make it mandatory that all sex offender's take a double dose of SSRI's every day.
I realize you ladies probably aren't looking for anything from a man here, but I think I can add a few things.
Aren't there some kind of trials being done with Viagra and women? Or is it that I read something here at dc about some of you wanting to try Viagra? I think Viagra will prove to be helpful to at least some of you, and maybe a lot of you. As with men, it will depend on why you lost interest. I'm not on expert on women's sexual physiology. But when you ladies don't produce much vaginal Lube, does that always accompany loss of interest, or only sometimes? What Viagra does is it improves blood flow to the groin and genital areas. Men need an adequate blood flow to get erect. What does an adequate blood flow do for women? Or maybe the better question is, what happens to a woman when she doesn't have as much blood going down there as she is supposed to have? Whatever that is, will be what Viagra can help with. I'm guessing that women need blood flow to produce and secrete Lube. But just common sense tells me an adequate blood flow is necessary to make all the tissue down there function correctly. I'd say everything from blood flow to nervous tissue and nerve endings. I think a lack of blood in a woman can cause her to not feel much down there in the sexual sense. Blood feeds the cells of the body, and everything is made of cells. So I am not sure in what ways Viagra will help, but I'd bet it will help. Do all of you know that originally Viagra was supposed to be a new med to lower blood pressure in people with high blood pressure? What this means is there is no reason a woman can't take Viagra. Women will need to use the same precautions men use. Which means if you are on nitrates for your heart, no Viagra. (If you take any meds for High Blood Pressure, then you have to either take less BP meds, or none at all, on the days you want to take Viagra) Actually, I'd say that unless your BP is very well under control with meds, don't take Viagra at all. I have no idea about Birth control pills or other drugs used exclusively by women. I hope there are real trials going on. If there aren't, you all should mention this to your doctors.
I'd like to make a suggestion to all you ladies when you make your posts. With men and women, sexual dysfunction is often age related. So maybe you can all put your age in your first post? Very much like what Lady from T.O. did. It's very useful to know a person's age.
Lady from T.O., I'm a 59 year old man who is also without a partner right now. I often ask myself the same question you asked. Is this it, is sexual pleasure over and done, will it ever be again? I believe the answer for both of us is, no it isn't necessarily over. However, I think it takes more of ... something ... I don't know exactly what, to get us going. And I think that something is something emotional as well as physical. The emotional aspect is probably more important for you, because women are more emotional by nature. But I believe both sexes need extra time and extra physical stimulation. Along these lines I have noticed something else. I'd say ever since I was 51 or 52 I have noticed it's harder to Feel love for someone new, than it was before the 50's. It is much easier for me to Feel love for an old gf or an ex-gf than for a new woman. I don't think this means it's impossible, the feelings of love just don't come as easily as they did. And I think the desire to have sex with a new partner will also need extra time to grow, upon both sexes. What do you all think of this, so far?
Hi all, & especially Jaime, I'm not sure which answer upset you , but I think it was Amanda, but without intent I am sure of that. I am older than all of you at 65, & have lots of problems. Unfortunately my husband does too, so sex is kind of a thing of the past for us right now( & he's only 60). I do understand sweetie just what you are talking about. Do you ever dream about sex & wake up having an orgasm? Pretty pointed question, but I do at times. It's like WoW it's still there! In fact if my hubby & I were to get to cuddling enough without hurting each other, mad love it would be. The meds & the pain have worked on our poor weak little minds my friends. It's still there. It may take some prodding or lowering a dose of meds or something like that, but Jaime I guarantee you it is not over for you. With your problems is your husband understanding & gentle? Lots of foreplay for us women you know.
Takes us awhile longer than you guys naturally. I know a lot of you guys are having the problem too. Watch you meds, we have Drugs A to Z, check the professional side effects etc... talk with your doc, maybe a hormore check. Could be an imbalance there. It happens as I see by all the comments here & the ones who didn't want to let anone know they had a problem. We all do at different times of our lives for diferent reasons. Meds, pain, dryness for the women, no foreplay, lots of things to think about. I hope I helped in some sort of way. ...
Yes, anti hypertensives, heart & diabetic meds have made this possible, as mentioned by one of our friends "chemically castrated" perhaps is the most appropriate jargon.
Due to hypertension viagra is contraindicated, so guess would have no choice but to lead this life the way it is.
Indeed a brave question to pen down on the public domain - kudos & above all needs a lot guts to admit it.
Oh thor I forgot to answer your question my hyst. I had all but one overy taken ut frm my endometrios and fibroids I was having a menapaus problem b4 that hot flashes,night sweats,mood swings and desire fr sex so I thought it would help did with all but sex you know I do have a lower libido but my biggest prob is lack of feeling which I blame n the ns nerve endings and also maybe the cervics like you said may contribute. And yes this stupid smart phone the buttons on the keyboard nt always so smart! Lol but my brain isn't all the time either! Thank you for posting its very helpful! Jaime
It was a great discussion and no mater what male or female with dependancy issues or medical issues there seems to be some type of problem for some of us. Again as I said in anothere post the testostorone level might need to be checked. Amanda's post was not uncommon but at the same time some just can not turn on their imagination and make it work. While I am envious of her I too can empathize with those that struggle. Talking about it with your partner or DR will only help.
Wishing you all a great day
hi i get some pills to help me out from meyer food store. They are by the condoms and such and boy do they help. My husband also takes viagra so we have a great sex life because of this and i take many many pills. I am 55 and hubby 56 so i think we are doing great because of this. Hope it helps you Leron
Hi everyone I just wanted to thank everyone for their comments I think or hope this has helped everyone! I realized that we all just need to take it slow and remember making love is about love. No matter ur ages I'm 35 sme of us are 50 soome 70 some are in their 20s it is not to late for any of us!!! Remember sex starts in the morning when you wake up! You have t show love by getting someone their coffee. A note on the pillow glad your hear t hld someone when they cry or listen when they have a bad day. You have to be open to letting someone know you from the inside out sometimes people forget or better get use to the other person and forget intamacy maybe its not the orgams or the erections we miss but the thoughts and feelings of the intamacy that comes with it. My husband and I are working on that. I know he is here for me n matter what and he knows I am as well.
It does get better so don't stop trying. When you stop that means you give up and I am a fighter always have been. And weather you were or wasn't before you are now. Show love so respect and the intamcy will be great!! Sorry for typos I'm not perfect but I'm working on it lol
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