I am always so angry and yelling at my kids for making messes and irritating me. Basically the things kids do. I never ever would or have physically hurt my babies, I just feel like they shouldn't have a mommy that is always on them about something. I realize afterwards that I overreacted and I should of handled it better. It is physically exhausting and I make myself so stressed out over it, I can only imagine the effect it's having on my kiddos. It hurts me to see them act fearful of me or of doing anything wrong. I'm not looking for any negative responses. This has been bothering me for quite some time now, and I am afraid to talk to anyone else because I don't want them labeling me as a bad mom. I am not a bad mom I know that for a fact, but I need to get this under control for the sake of my kids and myself
It sounds like you're being really hard on yourself. Is there a mother's group near you, where you could talk? Or a trusted clergyman? If not perhaps talking to a therapist could help you. Children can be very frustrating and if you're being hard on yourself, it can all be hard to cope with. I grew up with the fear of doing something wrong and it did me good later in life, in acting right at work. So its not all bad.
Sometimes our children get us going and we need to find a way to express ourselves in a better way. Try to take a deep breath or go into another room to compose yourself before you loose it on the kids! It is very hard on them and on you! And then everyone feels bad! I find that depending on my hormones cycle and my menopause now and the circumstances I could get upset over small things sometimes but try to control it. It does get better and as the kids get older it's better too. Of course then you have to adapt to the different ages including teenager years which I'm in now! Sometimes the kids try to get us going too so make sure you find a way to keep your stress down and do find things to make yourself happy, even if they are small! It makes a world of difference. And a Happy Mom is a Happy Home!
Hope this helps you but if you need to see someone to talk about it go ahead we all need help!
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