Male, mid 50's has become increasingly mean, angry seems to enjoy causing wife to suffer?
- 9 Jan 2012 by kaztoe
- 16 Jan 2012
- smoking, eye dryness/redness, odor
smoked green incense,drank heavily,quit after being fired. found better job,yet not happy. lots of strange perfumy odor with hatred of wife. smoking papers and red eye drops found. smell is different this time. passed drug test, but angry, red face, screaming at wife getting worse.
thinks he is invincible or if not working sleeps or is obsessed with facebook on hand held phone, always complaining or trying to cause trouble.
what new street drugs could be the cause?
I would guess spice that now is illegal but its the fake stuff that is actually made out of inscence but also was leading to serious health problems heart attacks and strokes even in young people so they took it out of stores and banned it. But this would be my guess.
The fake/synthetic pot will NOT test positive on a simple drug test, i think they actually have to do blood work and send thqt to a lab looking for it, in order to find it. It would have a sweet smell and could produce heavy emotions. Not tht i am defending his behavior here, i am not, but being fired does tend to freak a person out. Will he agree to do some counseling? I was fid unfairly and without reason back in August and i knew i could get a better job very soon, and i did, within a week. But i can attest to the fact that the firing is still having the effect of making him angry, and he needs to deal with that with a counselor. The nut case who fired me, owned a brand new salon around the corner of my house, the job was perefect in everyway, except for the owner and he has fired each person that he has hired.
Most of us were angry and confused, but got new better jobs, but it does have a lingering effect. The smoking of the synthetic pot is an attempt to take that edge off, but is having an even worse effect on his emotions. Best of luck, patti
I don't know what new drug this could be, sorry about that. Perhaps this wife should leave this man? If he is contemptful to wife, or violent, why stay married to a man like this??
He needs to see a psychiatrist it would seem, and an addiction specialist as well.
Pack your bags and get as far away from him as possible!!!
Dear kaxt. R u thw wife? If u r I would lovingly tell him that u do not deserve to be treated this way, and if he does not get help... then he must leave until he can treat u correctly. I hope that u r not n any danger. On drugs, especially the ones that u r describing, this husband is incapable of responding appropriately. U might want to contact your family physician and get advise on how to deal with this situation. If this husband is acting extremely inappropriate and bizarre, it is possible to get him Baker acted. This may necessitate the help of an attorney. First and foremost, the wife, 'you?' must be safe. You must tell this man that he cannot live in this household with this type of behavior. You do not deserve this nor should you have to be treated this way. Be strong and act now. This man needs help, but in his state, he will not understand this and is not capable of understanding.
You must act now to protect yourself and any children that may be residing in the home. I hope this helps... you need to protect yourself first and foremost. If you do not have the monetary means, you can contact appropriate agencies to help you... even the police if you feel you are in danger.
Be strong my dear and get help now... I will keep u n my prayers... pup
I would suggest you have a long talk with him. Don''t accuse, be loving. Remind him you married him for better or for worse and let him know how you feel when he takes this stuff. Ask him if he'd like to quit with your support and find NA or AA, see a Dr that can help him detox and come off of it. Patience, love and lots of support is what he will need.
I forgot to mention, if his screams become too much, always have a back up plan and never give in to yelling back. Just kindly tell him that things are getting escalated and you are going to remove yourself from the situation before you say something that you don't mean. Tell him both of you need time to think about things then leave for a few hrs or days depending of the situation. You might also see your pastor or you can call the crisis line for support. Good luck and keep in touch.
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