... prostitutes. My Dad gave my Mom divorce papers and they were married for 44 years. She is staying at my place now, which might be quite a while since she did not work during their marriage, I don't know how long it will take her to find a job. A few nights ago, my father had a prostitute over to his place and her pimp and another guy stole his wallet, cell, TV and car. So, what does my dad do? He asks my Mom and me for money. I am just so shocked that this is happening and I am very sad, too. I am worried: what if I never see my Dad again? What if he gets hurt or goes to jail? I want to help him and I don't know what to do. I was thinking of flying to see him and telling him everything that is great about who he is as a person and father. I would hope this would help him to see that his life has been valuable and beneficial to others. It is breaking my heart to know that he is in so much pain and that my mom, now 62 is forced to rebuild her life and try to find a job
First let me say that I feel for you. Having to deal with this is not going to be easy. We are here to support you. Try to not enable your father. This is very difficult to not do as you don't want to see them suffer but that is the best thing for them. They need to suffer the consequences of their behavior in order to decide to get help. Tough love is very important at a time like this.
Having an intervention might be a good avenue to investigate. To read about drug addiction and intervention try the following:
Try talking to one of the skilled addiction's counselors. Learning about addiction will help you understand where your father is and will in turn help you help him.
Taking care of your mother and yourself at a time like this is most important. You might benefit from going to Nar anon, the sister group of Narcotics Anonymous, for loved ones of the addicted. They will teach you how to contend with the addiction and how to approach the problem. You can find meetings near you by going to:
On the left hand side is a link to find groups near your location.
We are here for you and will support you through this time. You are doing the right thing by reaching out for help. I'll be praying for you and your family.
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