. My therapist and I have a strong bond but I am feeling like it's time to stand on my own. Has anyone ended therapy after many years and how have you gone about it? Is it normal to grieve the end of therapy? And: is it okay to ask my therapist to come back full time or for just the occasional 'tune up' should I need it?
Absolutely, I have had many good therapists and have decided to decrease my number of visits as I improved. Yes, there is a grieving process that goes on when ending a realtionship based on trust. You don't have to put complete closer on the relationship at first, an occassional "tune up" is very appropriate. A good therapist will help you through the process of letting go and help you spread your wings. That should really be the ultimate goal of therapy anyway.
I was about to leave my Intensive Outpatient Hospital Progam and I started to relapse so they said they wanted to observe me another couple weeks. This program was 3 months but feel like 15 years (trust me I've had the 15 year one also). It was very scary to leave and God Bless I'll have the courage to leave the 2nd time. So good luck to you
I worked with my trauma therapist for 13 years - it took me 5 years before I trusted him enough to tell him anything - but he stuck it out. He helped me so much! He gave me 6 months notice that he was leaving, and it was very hard. I still email him from time to time, to let him know of a grandchild being born, etc, and I always get a nice message back. He's only 40 miles away but that's too far for me to go with my disabilities and it was time for me to move on. I saw another therapist after him on and off for two years before I finally realized I was done with therapy. I'm ok. It's been 4 years all told since my trauma therapist left, and I'm doing good - with lots of good memories and of feeling really cared for. Take the time to talk, to reminisce, to cry - that relationship has been so important to you! But know that you can go on, and take all the good things with you - Best wishes - ElizaJane
(you got me crying on this one!)
Hello ade1971. Everrything you asked yourself, and the answers are of course. Mind you its been years since I actually had a therapist, in the true sense of the word. I currently see a Psychiatrist, a truly fine man. Receive my medications, update him on my goings on, in my world, then its so long untill the next visit. I've been through several therapists in my time. Some were outstanding. I honestly do believe that a person might get to a certain point in thier life, where seeing a therapist, is no longer an issue. In my case, its that way. I've come to the point where, having lived, with my illness, its all very elementary to me. My depression has taught me many things. One that I use is acceptenace.
By accepting something, that is a constant in my life, will really never alter whatever it might be, then, a positive forms, and by accepting that issue, as a fact, my life in that regard is not a problem any more. But, of course, use your therapist, part time, the odd time. By all means. I think its admirable of you, to want to try and do it alone. The best to you ade1971, hope you do well, and I'm certain you will.
I agree with Laurie, when I (this was several years ago) when I went through panic especially in my teens I was with the one therapist for a good period of time he worked hard to help me achieve and utilize the tools to get things under control and he prepared me I love the way Laurie put it he helped me to prepare to leave if you will kind of prepare to leave the nest but he always let me know that he was there and if I needed him he was willing to see me anytime, I really appreciated and admired the many and yes honestly I think it's normal for you to feel grief
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