My son is an addict and I could use some help with knowing I am not alone in this fight.
I just found out this past weekend that my son was using heroin. It was a kick in the stomach. It broke my heart. He wants help and is starting today with counseling and a dr's apt. when he was in the hospital I immediatley asked about a social worker. The next morning she came in and is a god send. They have so much info. on meetings, what to expect from the use and where to go. He also had no medical insurance and she did an application on line for him with the state to get insurance. She has given me her direct line to call whenever I have a question. I cannot stress enough how all this info has helped us. I myself am going to start counseling. I felt so guilty, thinking I should have known as his mother. I am very close with my son. we even work together. I see him everyday. But I found out I did not know him as I thought. I am very outgoing and always thought he was as well.
We were so surprised to find out that he has had aniexty issues since after high school (he is now 25). Afraid of being in a crowd. being around people he does not know. Doin drugs and getting really drunk at functions helped him "to cope" with the situation. He said he would be afraid to go across the street into the very small general store, and wait til the parking lot was empty to go. Again this was such a shock to us all, his family. He said when he did heroin that he felt like he could go anywhere and deal with any situation. Also his dad and I had divorced when he was 9. We had both then remarried. His dad had another son. This was the other underlying issue. He felt he had no place with his dad anymore, and that my main focus was my husband. He has said he felt so alone in the world. He wants help and is glad it is in the open now. He is so fortunate to have a big family that loves and is supporting him everyday. I do know how you feel, and my heart goes out to you. Get him some help now and get yourself some help to better understand. there is many resources out there and these people truly are wonderful. you will feel much better and so will he. I wish your son all the strength he needs to get through this and you as well. Take Care
My son was addicted to heroin. We started attending the local Families Annoymous Group and don't know how we survived before we found them. Search for Families Annoymous web site and then you can check on meetings based on where you live. It helped so much to meet with others who understood what we were going through. Letting go of your loved ones addiction and realizing your powerless over it and them is the first step. Unfortunately our son recently lost his 3 year battle and we are still struggling with the loss but we know in our hearts we did all that we could. Hope your situation has improved and know that there are others who feel your pain and are there for you. Good luck.
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