This is probably a stupid question, topic, as I am not addicted nor have ever been addicted. My boyfriend after many fights and many horrible situations is finally in rehab for opanas because he could not do it on his own. He was a heroin addict many years ago before I had met him. I am so clueless on this drug and its effects and everything else... I just know that I watched him completely ruin his life, go down in a downward spiral, and extremely negatively effect my life. It was such a crazy transition from when we got together to now. I suppose that is why I stuck around because I have faith in him and know that who I know he is, is still there somewhere deep. Can someone please educate me on what the hell this drug is and why it is the devil... and is there anything I can do other than be supportive to help him out with this... It has made our lives turn upside down on so many levels it is unreal and heartbreaking.
I suppose it is similar in the sense that they are both opiates. The best you can do for him right now is be supportive and take care of yourself. Learn as much as you can about addiction. Maybe the rehab where he is will have some classes for family members or group therapy that includes loved ones.
I do hope this helps and I'll pray for you and your friend,
After reading all the responses to your question, first I can feel thru your words how much you love this man, but second I am surprised that no one has suggested you start going to nacotics anonymous meetings.(NA) It's for the family & loved ones of addicts, like alanon is for alcohol anonymous. Once an addict always an addict as most on here will tell you. You can quit, but that doesn't mean you are not still an addict.The main reason I suggest you go is you will get a really good education about the disease & how it affects the people that have a loved one that is an addict. My son, at 14, got caught with a six pack of beer, & his Dad put him in a group home for Alcolholics! I couldn't believe it.It was a requirement that a parent go to the alanon meetings. I was so glad I did. Not necessarilly for my son for I did not believe he had a problem, but for my then husband who was an alcoholic. I was to blame for everything bad in his life, & he made sure I knew it. Alanon, taught me it was not my fault, that I had to quit blaming myself for his problems that he had even before we were married. I learned so much from those meetings, it gave me the courage to leave the abusive bast**d! I wish you luck my friend...
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