My sister and i are going up to close our parents house..we've tried many times before..but when we get there we get so caught up in memories that we get nothing done..with rising cost of the alzheimers unit our Dads in we cant afford to keep the house up anymore..any ideas on how to just get started? All we have is each other now..could use any and all ideas..Thanks..C50
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- 9 Oct 2011 by crazed50
- 12 October 2011
I'm sorry you have to do this. I have a small suggestion I hope it will help some when you start going through and you are remembering if you can put a small momentum aside to keep. If you can't put somethimg aside take a notebook with you right down the memmory and the thoughts you have abut it. Those memories are what keeps the love and heart ful and happy nobody wants t loose that and you won't ever loose that its the fear of it that stops u. So write it down you can carry it with always then anytime yu wanna remines you can and may even remind yourself of stuff nt that yu forgot but hadn't thought of in a while. Good luck and take care jaime}litlmommag
I am sorry I didn't see when you posted this question! I can only imagine all of the great memories you have made at that house and my heart goes out to you for having this task. I know it is very difficult to do, but also try and see the joy it has made for you both and your entire family!
Jaime (litlmom) had some wonderful suggestions and i was even thinking along those lines as well. When you come across something that evokes a good memory set it aside and share it at the end of the day.
Try addressing the house with a game plan. Make a list of what you want to accomplish in that day and go to it. Then, when the day is over you can go back to the 'memory pile' and reminisce for a while with your sister.
Try and stick to the 'to do' list as closely as possible. You will have plenty of time to go over your fond memories after the house is cleaned up.
I do hope that this helps!
Best of luck to you,
Oh Jaime..ur one of reasons i'm so glad i found this site and everything u wrote is now imprinted on my heart..ur very special..Let me share one of reasons that makes this so hard..Christmas day was the last time i saw my Mom alive..she was suffering from colon cancer..(we live about 70miles away)... Christmas eve..Moms sister pasted away she was 59... so we came back the 27th for my Aunts funeral..(most of this is a blurr)..All i really remember is walking on Mommys porch and my husband grabbing and holding me then he said Honey ur Mom died this morning.(she was 63).. they said i ran for my Dad but i dont remember that..i still cant remember seeing my Dad..Oh this hurts..religion yes i believe..God carried us all though ..Share my Dads alzheimers another time..Jaime thank u ..take care C50
Oh dear Jilly... Thank u so much... suffer i do but in silence..except for talking with my sister and of course u wonder ppl..but now my Daughter has found a lump in her breast going for ultasound then to a sugeon ..im so worried im sick..she is only 29yrs and our only daughter..i cant stand this im about to lose my mind... please oh please pray for her and anyone else that reads this please pray for her... i dont care what happens to me as long as she is cancer free..Oh God please dont let that happen to my Baby..forgive me everyone Bless u all C50
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