I was seeing this guy "Mark" for over a month. We really clicked and .he was so sweet and always. wanted to see me. One day he told me that he used to do a lot of drugs. And now hes on methadone and never told any girl that. He said that he cant go to rehab b/c he didnt want to lose his job and take time off from work. He said that he was drinking right after rehab last time he was there and then went back to heroin. That same night he said he had to sell pills and we went to two differnt places and he said that he only does it sometimes b/c he knows how they feel cuz he had been there. That night he was in the bathroom a really long time and i knocked on the door and he yelled at me and said dont ever do that again. His mom came in and asked if he was ok too. Things were going well then one day i went to a bar and told my friend about him and his methadone and how hes doing good. The bartender knew Mark and went back and told him. Mark got mad at me and said he never wanted to tal to me again. He said how could u do that i trusted u. I told him to give me another chance and i was just saying how good he was doing. Things were different after and he didnt see me as much or call and ask me how was my day or act concerned anymore. When i went over i layed on his chest and i couldnt hear his heart beat and he was nodding off. He did it before but i was more aware of it now. He would always say what i cant sleep? He would always sleep on his days off when i saw him. And he was still going to bars and drinking. His cigarette was burning to ashes and i told him to wake up. He nodded out again. His leg was shaking and then his whole body was jumping. I didnt think anything of it. He was getting mad over stupid stuff. We were in a store and some guy was checking me out and i didnt even notice and he was getting SO ANGRY. At a family picnic he yelled at his niece for when the dog was not in the yard. It was unnecesary. I felt likei was calling him all the time and he was losing interest. One night i was watching requiem for a dream and i called him and he sounded out of it. he said he was sleeping. I was telling him about how my grandfater misses my grandma and he said what happend with yur grandma? I said i told u. He got quiet and then said..oh yeah. And then i asked him more questions and he sounded out of it. Was it from sleeping or is he using heroin again? So i called him back b/c i was trying to tell from his voice but dumb me said did u ever steal from your family when u were using. He got mad at me and hung up. The next day he sent me a text saying that he changed his mind about us and said sorry if you dont understand. He called the next dday yelling at me saying that i overthink things and cant go with the flow. And that he hasnt used drugs in years so why would i ask him that. I said i wanted to understand him. He said to ask someone else. And that i shouldnt be comparing himto a movie. So is he using or is this just his personality? Im hurt
Oh my gosh, sweetie, You don't deserve to be talked to like that! AT ALL. Or, yelled at like that, just because You were trying to help someone out, or because You cared enough to ask about certain things. I don't think You were being too "nosy", in my opinion. I mean, Y'all DID have a relationship going on, so, in my opinion, You had a right to know about certain "things", and I don't think You were out of line at all. Now, You wrote to ask "is he still using", or "did he go BACK to using", or, "is it the methadone doing this", and unfortunately, I don't believe that I can answer that one for You. However, there are going to be some other people that are going to be answering Your inquiry, and they MAY be able to answer that question for You. My drug of choice, back in the day, was cocaine, a vastly different type of drug that Your boyfriend was once using. But even the people that are going to be answering, I really think it's going to be difficult, even for them, to know FOR SURE, if he's using or not. Now, on the methadone, and of the people that I've read posts on here, that are taking methadone, the right way, I have NEVER even heard of ANY OF THEM acting in this sort of way. They will be able to tell You more about that than I can. And they will comment on Your question. There are some REALLY good people here, so I know, they will help and try their best to answer Your question. Maybe I shouldn't have responded, but I couldn't help not saying something, to some one that's offering to help someone out, and then getting treated this way. That much I DO KNOW. Please, don't put up with it. AT ALL! There is NO REASON, at all, for some one like You, that is trying, IN GOOD FAITH, to help someone out, to be talked to in this sort of way. EVEN if You might have maybe said something that may have struck a nerve, so to speak, he should REALIZE, that all You are trying to do is be there for him, and maybe help him out, ANY WAY THAT YOU CAN. Listen, if he can't understand that, he's not worth the time, and YOUR EFFORT, to waste any more of Your time on. Cut him loose, even if it's hard, and going to hurt for a while, CUT HIM LOOSE. Didn't mean to ramble so much, but I just had something, sort of like this, happen to me recently, so don't put up with it. And good luck with Your decision, which ever way You decide to go.
hi bell,everything u just told me about his personality changes from mr right to don't knock on that door ever again. selling pills in bars the cause he knows how they feel.all this behavior is right on the money and typical of someone who is using. i know cause you just described my life 15 years ago.if this guy cared about you would he be taking you to sell drugs with him? putting your life and your freedom in jeopard? you knew in your heart the answer to this question before you even asked.i have seen too many good girls turn into addicts trying to understand what all this mystery is about. what are you waiting for? him to change? his lover is this powders or these pills.you will always take a back seat drugs.i would presume to tell you what to do about him. that's up to you.good luck with your life,your gonna need it.if i add you as a friend will you add me as one? then ill talk to you like you are my little sister. then you can decide for yourself.
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