... refuses to get help, and blames me for his outbursts. I love him with my whole heart, but I can't live like this and don't want my child to. I have asked him to move out if he won't get help. I'm so scared, lonely and confused
Intermittent Explosive Disorder - I believe my boyfriend has IED. We are 5 months pregnant. He?
- 8 Jan 2015 by Alanna86
- 8 January 2015
- pregnancy, intermittent explosive disorder
Added 8 Jan 2015:
I just want support and to know what others have done or suggest I do in this situation. Thank you.
Please, I'll listen to anything you need and try to help, don't say WE are pregnant. We might be expecting, you are pregnant. Tell him if he doesn't get help you will not be with him when the child is born you can't risk it. He can't be exploding on an infant. You are not at fault for his inability to control himself. He says you push his buttons doesn't he? He shouldn't have buttons to push. No matter how angry someone gets, they should be able to control how they act with it. Yelling at you and hitting is never an appropriate way, Does he drink or use drugs? Have you asked him if he would go to counseling with you? Maybe if the two of you start out, he will see where the problem is. I was married to a man who had a terrible temper. It was never directed at me tho. I only ever saw him angry about one thing but I sure as heck wouldn't want to have that kind of explosiveness directed at me, and you are defenseless with a child to worry about. Check out your community resources. Start with your public health department. They can tell you what they have, and I know ours also has notices of other things going on in the community for help. If you are affiliated with a church you can seek help there. Do you have any family? What about his family? My mother in law would have been the best one for me to go to, she told him if he ever carried on like that to me she'd take him down, lol... can't mess with those Italian mamas, lol You've got a bargaining chip with him right now, the baby. When he's calm, talk to him. Tell him the baby can't see that growing up, and you fear for him/her. He needs some anger management at the least.
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