Tonight is one of the worst nights of my life. I just found out that my boyfriend of 4 years, who I thought I knew so well, is addicted to oxycontin and percocet. I am completely and utterly shocked. We just move in together 6 months ago, and to be honest, we have had a tough time getting along since then, but I thought it was all normal "relationship stuff" that would take some time to get used to. Now, with each moment that passes, it all makes sense. Here is how it started: The other day I got a call from our landlord that my boyfriend's check has bounced for the rent (we each still have our own bank accounts and simply split the cost and write our own checks each month). When I confronted him he said this was because when he was paying his credit card bill the weekend before he accidentally hit "pay remaining balance" rather than the minimum, or some other amount. Long story short, he has been doing some strange things like walking away when taking phone calls and making up elaborate stories to leave the house the past few days and I knew something was going on. I'm not normally a sneaky or snoopy person, but I decided to check one of his bank statements that was tucked away in a drawer of his... the balance read - $1,400. That's NEGATIVE FOURTEEN HUNDRED DOLLARS. I'm wondering to myself how a bank even lets you get that far into debt. Anyways, I also notice several, and I mean several, cash withdrawls over the course of a month that are anywhere between $100 - $400 dollars at a time. After I confronted him and he spun through another huge web of lies, he finally broke down and told me the truth. That he is addicted to these prescription drugs and has been for months. I am utterly in shock as I write this. I don't feel like crying, I don't feel like being angry, I am just in shock. I don't know what to do. I don't understand drug addiction and don't know how to cope with this. Most importantly, I don't think I will ever trust him again. So many things he's said, so many things he's done, and so many behaviors he's picked up over the course of our living together all make such perfect sense now. Even though they weren't huge changes, they were still there and now everything is adding up. Please help. I don't even know what I do at this point and what the next step is even as I finish writing this post and then think about what just happened some more.
You are not alone in the way that you feel. Opiate addiction is terrible and as you're finding out it not only effects the addict but everyone they are involved with.
If he is unwilling to get into a rehab then I strongly urge you to get out of this situation because it is going to get much worse.
If he is in the first year of addiction then he stands a very good chance to get clean if he wants to. If he is going to try to get clean for you then he will likely fail.
Opiate addiction is a long drawn out disease that you either get into recovery or you die. Ever seen a 70 year old opiate addict?? Sure there are some but most opiate addicts either die to struggle with sobriety the rest of their lives.
It took me 25 years of daily opiate abuse before I hit my low of lows and was able to finally make to real attempt at recovery. I have been in ORT (Opiate Replacement Therapy) for almost 8 years now and I am probably the best I have ever been in my whole life and I'm 46 years old. Now for me because of the length of time I was abusing and the huge amounts I was taking I needed methadone treatment. For someone like your boyfriend he should try suboxone which is buprenorphine. Do not let him get into methadone treatment as it is far to strong for him and he will have a terrible time trying to get off it. MMT is really for life and not just to get off opiates and then get off the methadone. Suboxone on the other hand works very well for addicts especially in the area of your boyfriend. So go to suboxone.com and there you will find a doctor locater. Get a list of prescribing doctors and start calling. Her also should get involved with some sort of support group. Look in your yellow pages and see if there are groups in your area. Also you can phone your local crisis center and they can give you lots of info... Good luck and I hope your boyfriend can get into recovery otherwise he is headed for a very rough ride... Dave
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