Found brillo pads, baking soda, and I have noticed spoons missing... I don't know what to do, I am convinced he'll lie if I confront him. I threw the stuff away, I know he will know I know, but I just don't know how to handle it... we have been going to marriage counseling since a few weeks for other problems, now I feel it's all one big lie... I know I can't control him, but what do I do?
Unfortunately you can't fix him. He has to hit a bottom before he will realize he is screwing up. You need to not enable him, don't pick up the pieces when he gets into trouble.
I would be honest with him at the next marriage counseling session. Let him know how you feel about his drug use. You have every right to your feelings and voicing them is important. You can't fix him but you can take care of yourself.
I recommend to you go to Nar anon, the counter part to Narcotics Anonymous, which is a meeting for loved ones of drug addicts. You will learn how to cope with this illness and learn how not to enable him. You will get the support you need as you decide what to do.
There are alot of wonderfully supportive people here on this site and we care very much. Please keep posting,
I know this is hard as I am going through the same thing. I gave up everything and relocated so my bf to leave his crack lifestyle. He eventually found another dealer. He hid his use from me, I found cans crushed,we never crush cans so I pulled it apart and sure enough here were holes he had used to smoke it with. He made promises, lies,etc he told me what I wanted to hear. I finally had to give him the choice seek help (NA, Rehab, etc ) or move out. It was the hardest thing I ever did but crack addiction is bad it becomes the users priority over everything else and they will lie, steal, cheat and do what ever else it takes to use. Hes in a shelter and doesn't care and is still using. I wish you the best but you have to take care of yourself only he can change his lifestyle and only if he wants to. If not and he chooses to not be honest in counseling then even counseling will not work.
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