Started going to the methadone clinic with me. I am not going to call her by her real name so we will call her Loraine. Anyways, this is kind of a long detailed story, but I am going to make it as short as I possibly can. I have known her for 9 yrs. We got to be brst friends 7 years ago. As I have mentioned to some of u in the past I have been done wrong and run over by so many girlfriends, that I am really scared to let girlfriends get to.close to me for fear of being done wrong again. (Most of my close friends r guys). When I met Loraine.she was.dating my best guy friend. It took awhile but after two years me,her, j.r., and her boyfriend were inseparable. For the first maybe year I thought I had found the best friend anyone could find. She went on and got pregnant with our Godson who is now 4. Three days after he was born her boyfriend was in the wrong place at wrong time, and the swat team busted in a house he was visiting thaat was obviously full of coke, crack, and illegal prescription pills. He did not know, but he has been doing fed time since. He is getting out finally in July (early for excellent behavior). Now when he went to prison J.R. promised him we would look.after her, his baby, and her other 2 children (from a previous marriage girl is now 12 & boy is 10). We moved in with her paid all her rent and bills and helped her with kids. She was not working and we find out that.she had been telling everyone including her bf that we werewolves living there for free. This is when i rralized she had a different side to her. We were both prescribed lortabs she had been stealing mine and we finally moved out. I.still talked to her and her bf on phonr from prison. He is a great man. She has been cheating on him like crazy. She came to me this summer and said her parents were suing her and the 2 dads for custody of her kids. She said she had nowhere to live and no job so once again she stayed with us for free, which i would give someone the shirt off my back if i can. We have had a hard time since docs put me out. Of work 2 yrs ago. Her youngest child is mixed (black and white) and come to find out she signed over her rights to her kids herself so hrr new racist white boyfriend would notbknow she had a mixed child and I found out her new bf thinks she works fulltime and she is always broke bcuz she pays our bills and she has never paid one. She has bee.n the only one in my house..and some of my meth.keeps disappearing. She can be such.a sweet person. I won't let her come to my house at all.since my clothes started missing and i found them all in the trunk of her car so she does not stay here at all anymore. I want to cursr her out and ask her why she did this to us and her kids, but she will deny it all, start crying, and tell me it hurts her feelings that we would believe she would do yhis to.us. I truly think she has serious mental issues and needs help bad. What should i do i cant take it anymore. If there is away I can go about this with getting her the help she needs I would like to do that. I just want to do the right thing for the kids , my godsons daddy, and her if podsible. ANY SUGGESTIONS WELCOME. LOVE ANNA(DIXIE)
I have a friend that also.was addicted to lortabs and after she tried quitting cold turkey she?
- 11 Dec 2010 by annatfultz
- 1 July 2012
- diskets, lortab, methadose, xanax, depression, post traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, pain, panic disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, methadone, addiction, anxiety and stress, nervous
This woman (girl?) needs serious couch time!!! Any woman that would deny her own child and date a racist needs HELP. She sounds like a real piece of work. If I were you (and I'm pretty sure I'm NOT) I would cut her loose.
Yet do not cut the child from your life. Your Godchild will need you the rest of his life, that is for sure and certain.
Her ex BF that is being released from jail will need a friend, and hopefully he can count on you and JR. He will need the support.
You are too kind Anna. These GF's in your life seem to take advantage of you, learn to draw a line, have some boundaries, and stick to them girl.
I may get a lot of guff for what I'm about to say but here goes, Addicts think of nothing more than their next fix what ever that may be they will lie, steal from family friends whom ever they can. Even their own children become an after thought it's the nature of the beast. If you are fighting an addiction she may be the worst person in the world to have in your life addiction is a powerful disease and one tough cookie to fight it is possible tho to win.
I would just be matter of fact in what you say and how you feel no icing but no rudeness either you definately don't want to go "down" with her.
Best of Luck
P.s. I have 2 sons that have fought addiction to Pain killers & methadone my oldest has finally after 6 years over come it the other is well, not so lucky he's 22 started when he was 19 I have had to come to terms with the fact that he may end up dead since he thinks he can take handfuls at a time.
You have a major illness also that often the drug addict sweeps others in to enable their behavior. Why would you take her back in to live with you AFTER she bad mouthed you to everyone that you were living there for free and you found out she was stealing your medication? And you kept her living with you later with you knowing that she was stealing your methadone and knew that your clothes were missing. STOP ENABLING.
If you have any decency left after tying yourself to this sicko, you should try to help her parents gain custody of her children for their sakes. Stop trying to help her because she needs to hit bottom before she will ever consider help. You need to SEPARATE from her completely. I know it's hard since you probably identify with her since you were also addicted to Lortabs knowing that you were taking Lortabs and now you are taking methadone.
And I wouldn't be so sure about the prison Dad until you know him better. Why would he be so closely associated with people whose home was filled with so many illegal drugs. I heard the same thing from my close girlfriend about her husband getting arrested for not knowing that there were illegal drugs in his car. He was a herion addict who eventually overdosed and died.
Find some other people to help. But you should first help her parents get custody by talking to them about some very good testimony that you could provide in court to help her parents get custody. DO THE RIGHT THING.
- Methadone Drug Information
- Lortab Drug Information
- Methadose Drug Information
- Xanax Drug Information
Search for questions
Still looking for answers? Try searching for what you seek or ask your own question.
Updated 23 Sep 2016 • 8 answers
Updated 23 Nov 2010 • 7 answers
Updated 6 Dec 2010 • 5 answers
Updated 3 Oct 2017 • 7 answers
Updated 10 Mar 2014 • 12 answers