I was hospitalized 6 yrs ago for undiagnosed bipolar. This nearly broke up my marriage. I purchased several books on the subject. While reading them, I highlighted the most helpful cause I knew he wouldn't read all the books. I don't think he ever read any of the info in any of them, needless to say, he still doesn't have an understanding of what I go through and how helpful these books could be. Has anyone else had this problem with a significent other or family member? How have you dealt with this?
Call the local hospitals and see if they have any support groups related to being bipolar and see if he will attend it with you. People think being Bipolar means you are crazy. Let him know that with medication you can lead a normal life. Encourage him to ask questions. The more he knows he will be more understanding
I had a few depressions and my husband did not really understand those until I went in the hospital with a major depression for 6 months. Then he had no choice but to try to understand since he saw me daily going through it. I thought my husband would leave considering we had a 6 and 9 year old at the time that he took care of while working full time and me being away. He was very supportive even when I was totally gone into a major depression. I actually was hospitalised on my 45 birthday and we had just celebrated our 10 year anniversary that I can tell you came and went because I was so ill for months before hospitalisation. It made our marriage stronger going through this together and I had doctors that communicated very well with me and my family that made all the difference I think.
Just make your books and info available like in the bathroom where he can read it without you knowing, sometimes that will work. Otherwise he will only check it out when he is curious enough to find out. One thing I have to say is if he is not interested at all and it is causing problems him not knowing about what you are going though considering it is your life, I would really think about if you want him in your life if he does not care because this is who you are. Not everyone can handle mental illness.
Good luck and take care,
Hi mommywoman. This might sound a little strange, so bare with me.
I write notes and put them in the bathroom where he'll be sure to see them. The toilet is my choice, but sometimes on the mirror. Not a long note. Just a sentence or less.
He may not say anything to you, however, he will remember it. Leave it where you put it. Don't move it for a couple days. Then, add a different sentence, and put it another place that he'll be sure to see. If he says something, you can say that it's for your benefit, not his, because it really is for your benefit. If it works, change the note that you want him to remember. This worked for me. I'd say something like "Remember to put God first." You can say whatever applies to your situation. Well, this is my way of dealing with your question.
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