He has liver disease (1/2 liver removed) and is a type 2 diabetic. In the last 2 months he has stopped taking his liver medicine and has been drinking a lot. I noticed today that he has fluid retention in his abdomen and I am not sure if it's the alcohol or if the amonia level is affecting his speech, thought process, etc
It sounds like your husband is committing slow suicide. It sounds like he's headed into trouble with the fluid in his abdomen. The ammonia level can do all that, is it worse then when he drinks usually? He really needs to take his medicine. If the whites of his eyes get yellow or his skin does or his urine is real dark amber, almost green, its a sure sign its shutting down. If he would stop drinking he could have some treatment, but this way its just going to go downhill. Do not feel guilty about his behavior, you can't change another's behavior no matter how much you try. You didn't make him an alcoholic. If I were you I'd find a support group for family of alcoholics, you could use some support in all this. Of course, come here if you need to talk, many of us have gone thru what you are.
If he is suddenly lethargic or a big change occurs, an ambulance will be best. I am sorry this is the route he has chosen. It is fine to grieve before he is gone. In a way, he already is.
My mom did the exact thing for her liver cancer. I took her to the hospital when her eyes turned yellow. From then on, that is how her life went. She would not stop drinking. They treated the withdrawal from alcohol and her stopping smoking. It ended up to be better that way for her. Sometimes what appears so dark ends up the best solution. Stay strong, Karen
Wow, that doesn't sound good. I am not a medical professional, but I watched my Father-in-law die of Liver failure, and you have described some of the symptoms that I saw him have, he also was a heavy drinker. You need to got your husband to his doctor as soon as you can and tell the doctor the symptoms that are concerning you and PLEASE tell the doctor about his drinking, don't hide it, because that is doing so much damage to what is left of his liver.
I am sorry that you are having to go through this and my prayers are with you and your husband.
Take care Tiredat28!
Look at his eyes if they are yellow that is a sign that the liver failing. My mom died 2 years ago from liver cancer. She was not an alcoholic. My husband is an alcoholic 20 years sober. Since your husband has given up it seams, contact Hospice. Most people think of Hospice as a place of someone passing away but they help the living that includes the family before and after care. It may help your husband look at life positively. I knew a lady she was an alcoholic with liver cancer was in Hospice three times before she passed away. Hospice help that family. AAA help me with my husband. Hope this helps.
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