... he was diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety disorder which apparently he had all his life and was the reason for many situations he put himself in as well as getting addicted to drugs. I'm really lost at this point as to what to do, he can't be a responsible adult and has panic attacks if things overwhelm him. What medication should he be taking that will work for all of his conditions but not get him addicted to it.Thank you
My husband has a history of substance abuse and has been on suboxone for 6 years. A few months ago?
- 18 Jul 2012 by there
- 23 March 2015
- suboxone, anxiety, opiate dependence, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (adhd), substance abuse, generalized anxiety disorder, abuse
Added 19 Jul 2012:
Now he is trying to get off something called opana and oxycontin and taking suboxone.
Hello. So sorry to hear all this. As for the medication(s), that recommendation must come from a qualified physician who knows your husband's situation intimately.
As for you, I would strongly suggest you find the local AL Anon and start going to the meetings. The support and fellowship you'll receive will be precious and valuable, as you will learn how to best live with these issues. I may sound coarse, but you must take care of yourself before you can care for another. It's the same when you take a plane, they tell you to "put your mask on first, before trying to help others). Firefighters live by the same rules.
Best to you, hope this helps.
HI there, this is only a question a doctor and you can answer on your own. we here at drugs.com can only listen and try to help. if you were my little sister then I might try to tell you what to do.lol Balbanese is right on the money with his answer. you need outside intervention and al anon sounds like a pretty good idea from what you just told us. And as far as venting this is a great place to do just that. SO VENT AWAY... subzero58
I wish there were more meeting in my area, there's one about 40 min away which meets once a week, I'll plan on going to the next one. I'm not sure what I should do regarding the wedding. The deposit is due soon and the invitations were supposed to go out already but we had a delay. I don't know if I should put it on hold or go through with it and hope for the best. I feel like if we don't have the wedding, I will always hold him accountable and will not forgive him.
He realizes what he has done and came to me himself to tell me he's been abusing and had a revelation moment a month ago that made him stop. Now he's feeling like shit that his life is spiraling out of control, hates himself for making stupid decisions in the past and can't function like a normal human being, so I don't know if more pills are going to help and if so, is it only temporary?
Am I setting myself up for a lifetime of struggle? Is it right to be selfish to think about myself and my future at this point when he needs me the most and with my help might start to overcome his issues and move past them?!
Just don't want to wake up 10 years from now and realize how stupid I've been to hope for the best and not seeing the red warning signs.
Hi there, at this point in your life things should be going great for you. you said you and he are married and your thinking of having a big wedding. If its in anyway going to change your lifestyle by spending a whole lot of money then maybe you should wait a year. Giving him time to get it together. Belive me I understand that every girl wants to walk down the isle. wear a white dress and have a picture perfect day at least once in her life.I know because i did the same thing. I lived with my wife for awhile then we did the whole white wedding thing. if your hubby doesn't handle stress very well just wait and see how stressfull the weeks leading up to that are. OMG, on that day you both will know what stress really is.I wish i could give you a great answer and you both live happily ever after.in all honesty it should be him on this site asking how do I change,not you.
You sound like a loving and caring person who fell in love with a guy who to this point has been less then honest with you. if i can budd in just a bit more and ask how long have you been seeing him till you found out he had a drug problem? does he see a doctor for his suboxone,and is he running out before his next doctor visit?does he take other pills and if so does he abuse them as well? we can talk again later.
Hopefully, he is visiting a good psychiatrist regularly who can facilitate his goals with a plan not just a pill guy but one who will talk and listen.
Also, if you are young and don't have kids yet with this guy consider very carefully before choosing to remain married to an addict. This is not usually a path with lots of joy. It is likely to stifle your progress and cheat your kids. Worst of all, if he continues to use drugs, he'll be the only one not paying for his addiction with suffering.
That above sounds so jerky but life goes by quick. One should do all they have to to make it a good one.
There, Sorry for your stress of having this man dragging you down with his problems. You need to make sure that he doesn't destroy your life and your kids and if loves you enough to marry you then he needs to do eveything possible to make you happy and if that means going to the doctor or aa or whatever he needs to step up and do it. Maybe you two could go together to meetings. Don't think for a minute that anyone will judge you and it could improve your life. I would tell you to hold off having this important wedding day until he has a better grip on his problems.
I was on Oxycontin for 5 yrs because of a back problem that I could not afford to have surgery and so my doctor kept me on oxcys and they almost destroyed my life completely, but I, meaning me, I decided to get off of them because they were driving me crazy with just keeping up with the timing and work and trying to have a family life and raise grandkids that didn't like me and just started taking control of my life... So I went to my back doctor and told him I need OFF the drug today and he sent me to pain management and I have been on Subox for five years and am still on it for the pain and for the most part it helps me get through the day. With that said I went OFF of Oxcys and didn't even know it! The subox is a great med to get off of oxcys and that's what most of the DETOX PEOPLE charge you 6,500 hundred dollars to get off of oxcy.
So I pay 300.00 a month for 45 days worth of Subox. 8mg films and you need to shop around and fine a pharmacy that will get you the best deal and it is not at CVS or WALGREENS or discount drugs. I just found a small Phamacy last month that is saving me a lot of money and I am sure they can mail you the meds if you work out all of the details. You know by now that Subox is a very detailed med and requires more paper work and laws controling it's use. So if you plan to stay on it for a while then you can get help there in the cost. Now, as to his problem , he must make a decision as to what is most important to him and you and that he needs to get help and get on board to make you happy before he loose you and if he doesn't care enough, then sweetheart... don't walk down the Ile... If I were you I would fine a GOOD DOCTOR and ask around before and go with him and tell the doctor that you want for him to get better but you don't want to drown with him if he doesn't want to get better. If you will find a good small pharmacits and ask him about all of these drugs and what would he do and you will get a lot of good free imformation to go by. Doctors sometimes and often are just in it for the money and they will tell you anything to make a buck and then you will find a few that really wants to work with you. I just found a new doctor because I moved out of state and he is a small office and does pain management and had no problem taking my case because I just told him the truth and he picked up my subox meds and turned me on to a new pharmacy and he gave me a discount card from the drug maker that saves me 30 % on my Subox. So now I am in much better shape and he is a very giving and concerned doctor. Don't get into a large pain management office that will give you the run around every month. Your man needs to step up and TRY to get better. It sounds like he may be depressed more than ADHD... DEPRESSION DOES A LOT OF FUNNY STUFF TO A PERSON... and it can destroy you and your family if he doesn't want to get better. I am in my 60's and I have spent the last 12 yrs fighting this problem and now I have a doctor that cares for his patients and it's not about the money! Hope this may have helped a little and take care of yourself first...
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