How to help my husband in delusion?

There is no such thing as being ok with your husband loving you 90% its all or nothing. She can have no part of him except as a coworker. I suspect his "delusions" about them having a relationship with her was not a delusion but a warning to you. My delusions of hubby cheating were not delusions, and as soon as I was sure I had a stable income, I was history.

There are 3 possibilities here, well actually 4. 1) He is truly having an affair or he WANTS an affair with this girl. 2) she is playing games with him and manipulating him because he is mentally unstable or 3) He is imagining the whole thing. Another possibility, 4) is that it is a combination of these three things. It seems to me, if he realizes this is a "delusion" he would want to remove himself from the situation. I have a feeling from what you have said, is that he either is having an affair or he thinks an affair is possible and if you were self sufficient it would be easier for him to take up with this girl at the office. I think your husband needs to see a qualified psychiatrist, not a neurologist and definitely NOT a homeopathic pratitioner! A homeopathic Dr cannot treat psychological issues succesfully. It sounds more like an issue of schizophrenia than bipolar. Hearing voices, having delusion that others are "controlling" you with their thoughts, these are all schizophrenic traits. If you want to save your marriage, you need to get him to see a psychiatrist and have psychotherapy. There are medications that do quite well to manage schizophrenic symptoms. A psychiatrist could help him determine whether this is really an "affair" or the delusion of an affair and this may be able to save your marriage. It is obvious that you love your husband and you have been willing to put up with a lot but this is unacceptible. As Kaismama says, his love for you should be all or none. Accept no less. You need to find out if your husband is truly sick and get him the help he needs in a psychiatrist or if he is playing you by having an affair and pretending it isnt real so he can keep you and her. It is very possible she is just being friendly to him and he is reading more into it than what is really there, since those with schizophrenia can do this sort of thing, but either way, this is not fair to you and you need to find out and taking him to a psychiatrist is your best bet.