I have had a strained relationship with my mom for years. It always felt like her life goal was to make me feel less then, she has gurdianship of my oldest daughter and I just started fighting my mom in court for my daughter. My mother has lied under oath and said some pretty nasty things. Its always been a lose lose situation. I recently talked to a thearapist and my doctor about the way she treats me and she said the way my mother behaves is clear symptoms of Borderline Personailty Disorder. I am scared for my daughter and her mental health because of my own damage. Does anyone have any tips for dealing with my mom and staying strong threw her bitter insults and intentions of helping me to fail to keep me under her thumb. Its really getting worse and I dont know how to compose myself!
Welcome to the world of mean spirited, dysfunctional mothers! Not me, my mom. Although I am 49, I still can't seem to build up that barrier to protect my emotions and sanity. My childhood was relatively normal. Because what you grow up with is what any child considers normal. As an adult, YOU have to be the bigger person. When she cuts you down and lies about you in court, you MUST stay calm and professional. I know it's easier said than done. I suggest you go back to court, tell the judge your concerns about your mother and ask him/her to please order a psychological exam. Give the judge the reasons why... My doctor and therapist told me..so and so... and I am concerned for my child's well being. Her behavior is erratic,irrational, etc. Also tell the judge I am not requesting this exam to get my child back, I am asking this for the safety of my child. Don't make it sound like you're selfish and will do anything to get your child back. In the meantime, do what you can for yourself to build up your courage and self confidence. I wish you the best, stay strong and good luck to you!
it sounds to me like you had your problems too. get letters from your doctors and therapist make copies for the judge,lawyers and keep 1 for yours.when its time to check into court give a copy to the clerk to give to the judge.be on time,dress well and act accordingly . don't speak unless your asked to.don't interrupt,and wait your turn to speak.write down important points you would like to make.be truthful.take notes of what anyone says that may not be true.even if a judge rules against you thank them for there time. when you are finnished. first thing you say when you do speak is "good morning your honor". act like that judge in that courtroom is god,cause they are... good luck and let us know how you do... pete
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