I have bad back pain and sciatica, I dont drive, go out or anything. There were things in my apt , my ptsd comes back when I see one. Help me.
Feel sorry for your condition, be in touch with the fraternity on this forum & I am sure you will no longer feel lonely, there would be many people here who would be of immense help, you are at liberty to send me e-mails as frequently as you wish, the ID is email@example.com.
Suffering from one or the other ailment is almost a common feature of modern living, wish you well, take care, life is precious & we only live once!
I, also, feel for your situation. Staying connecting with the people on these forums is one way to help you. I know with my BP II depression and anxiety I don't want to go out. I know it will help me, but I just can't get to the point where I can make myself. Unless, it's to pick up my child from school. Or to see my doctors.
With the things in your apartment, are these items you can get rid of? Or are you experiencing a flash back and the items aren't really in your apartment? I don't have PTSS, but I suffer from anxiety. And, I noticed that some items in my house were making me anxious because of the memories attached to them. I just got rid of them. I want my house to surround me with things I associate with positive events or neutral. So, I got rid of a lot of stuff. It helped.
Even though I was finally able to walk without crutches and drive again many years back, I too suffered from depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I think the PTSD came from an abusive relationship in my past and it hit me when my Grandpa passed away back in 1995 before I was ever injured causing RSD.
You do need support groups and the people in them. That was my 1st contacts on the outside after being stuck in my own apartment at the time after the auto accident that left me disabled/not able to walk at all 11 1/2yrs ago. If it weren't for the people I met and the help of support they gave to me, I don't think I would be doing as well as I am now.
I understand your loneliness as my Mom lived with me until January of this year having to move out to take care of my Grandma and Aunt. Now I'm in this huge 3BR home alone most of the time. I know that's not good for me or anyone. I have a few friends but don't see them often enough as they have busy lives, children, spouses but any chance I do get to see others that I'm comfortable around and trust, I do so knowing it helps me so much. Trust can become a major issue esp when you get to the point you don't leave your home at all. I never had that as I was in PT 3 times a week and someone had to drive me there for each visit. As soon as I could walk on a cane I learned how to drive again even though the pain is so bad I can only drive short distances using cruise control on the major highways.
If there are reminders that cause your PTSD to to flare up, get rid of anything causing those issues. They aren't valuable if they are upsetting you.
You mentioned moving to a downstair apt. Is there something about that bothering you?
If we can help at all, we are here for you. You don't need to feel that alone in this world. Even though I have experienced this only this past year, it made me want to connect with others more and I even found a church that I love that I go to regularly. I've met others there with similar problems to my own which only helps even more.
I've personally found that even in my worst troubles that by helping others (online or otherwise) actually helps me to feel better. I just want to try and help you know that you don't have to remain in your home which can turn into our personal prisons if we allow it to.
I promise even in pain and stress there is hope
I feel really lonely, helpless and hopeless. But I do have a husband who is not supportive at all and an 18 year old son who is either at college or his girlfriends.
I really feel bad for you. Are you under a psychiatrist care? If so maybe they have a program or your community does that has someone come to see you several times a week, maybe take you grocery shopping, help you clean, take care of bills or just talk.
This would help a lot, check around for this type of assistance.
Anything that brings back ptsd that you can't get rid of, spend the day looking at each item as you carefully put it in a box. Then put the box, sealed in the back of a closet or under a bed, never to be seen again.
I wish I could do more but I doubt you live in Pittsburgh, Pa. Maybe you do... that would help both of us. To have a friend, I don't know how long it's been. Let me know maybe this is our lucky day. God Bless and Good Luck. Sable
Sweetie when I read your question it reminded me sooo much of myself. That's a big part of why I joined this support group. Everyone who has commented so far I have come to realize truly care. For me when I found out that other people have issues like me it made me want to be here to lend an ear or anything I can do to help. I totally understand where u r coming from and so do alot of others. I am so happy to see how many people Have responded to this and read every piece of advice over and over cuz everyone on here cares. If u ever need to talk u can private message me I truly hope this wonderful support group can help u. Good luck.
My response is similar to the others. Seek help wherever you can get it. The first thing you can do is find out what is available to you in you community. Get out the phone book or call your doctor and tell them you need the name of the local mental health provider in the community. Call that provider and explain your situation. Tell them you are homebound and in desperate need of services. From there, once you have some of the PTSD under control you can start working on your physical self. Ask your doctor for orders for home PT services. Once you are moving around better you may be able to get to outpatient for therapy and you can work with your providers on the transportation issue (home care providers are very good at that part (atleast I was when I was working in homecare). Remember above all that, this forum and its people is also a great place for you.
We are all here because we suffer as you do. We may all suffer in different ways but we all suffer. Let us help you, talk to you, offer you some information and above all, let us be your friends and help you through this aweful time. Very soon you will find yourself answering questions and being a friend to the newcomers to the site. You will find yourself remembering when you posted your first question, thinking that no one in the world could possible know what you are feeling or would want to hear about it, let alone help you with it and here you are now a few weeks or months later helping someone else. It happens that fast. Blessings to you and I hope you find the relief that you seek for your body and you mind very soon. Please let us know how you are doing, we do check on people and we do truly care. Valerie
I hope you see how many people here do really care about you and what you are going through. I agree to seek out any services in your community to aid you in both mental and physical help as most of us who have had chronic pain have also had depression because of it.
You truly do need to get to the point where you can leave your home and not fear it. I know that won't happen overnight so until then talk to people here that you feel comfortable with. I promise that will help you.
If you are on Medicaid, you can sign up for home health care but in many states it can take several months or a year or more as there is usually a waiting list due to not having enough people working in that field.
Sign up; don't give up hope if you have to wait.
I hope you have decided to rid your home of things that can stir up the PTSD and take each step as a baby step in your life. Each and every step you take will help to bring you to a much better place.
We are here to help you and be there for you. Feel free to add me as a friend and you have others here too that truly want to be there for you.
My prayers are with you,
My Ken and I am a MD and PhD that specializes in chronic pain and co-occurring disorders (other mental health issues that are often present such as PTSD (common for victims of crimes, auto accidents, abuse, etc.), addiction (many pain medications, albeit necessary, are also very addictive), depression, anxiety, etc. First of all, you are not alone. Chronic pain is a truly life changing experience and there is no doubt that this will cause or worsen already existing co-occurring issues. Loneliness, fear, and hopelessness are very common feelings. I do have a few suggestions. There are medications called benzodiazepiens that, for short term use, can help releave some of the symptoms of PTSD. These also have a mild addictive component so this should be discussed with your doctor and be sure to ask a lot of questions.
Your longer term solution might best be sought through a combination of different types of medications, antidepressants are shown effective for both PTSD and chronic pain AND professional therapy. The best results are found when the two are combined. Many communities have therapists that will come into the home and begin the process there until such a time when leaving is not as traumatic. This would also help with some of the loneliness and boredom. In fact, I find that my patients not only learn to live a new life with their conditions, but, in fact, enjoy and appreciate life more than they ever have because of a sense of being "reborn".
This is not a miracle and won't work overnight. There will be work involved. However, I have seen it work in 1000's of people and if, even if there is a chance, it could change things, wouldn't it be worth a shot?
I have added your name to my friends list and I am willing to talk with you as much as I possibly can, It is terrible to have health issues and then no have a support system, I think no matter what problems you have I can always look around and see another human who has it worse than I do, even if that were not the case how dare I go through what I have been through and not try and be a friend someone who cares about other human beings, that is not acceptable! I deal with chronic pain and 4 broken places in my back but I still can find good and help for myself by trying to help you I want to be here for you and I hope that you will discover before long that you have many friends who care about you and are willing to help in any way possible please take care, best wishes and above all keep us posted and let us help you
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