I know my husband is taking perscription pills, I found them and I've seen text messages where he is texting people for meds, but when I confront him he just says everything is fine, nothing is going on. I have already talked to his sister about it and she told his parents and last night his mom called him and of course he was really mad at me for telling her. I don't know how to get him to open up to me, so I can get him help. I don't know what to do anymore. When I first met him, he had a problem with drugs and went to rehab and jail, so I've been through alot already with him. We have 3 beautiful children together and I don't know If I should stay with him or leave. Please help me don't know what to do.
How do I get my husband to admit he has a problem; he's in total denial?
- 27 Oct 2011 by nicky29
- 25 July 2012
Hello nick29. First, welcome to thje site. Lots of people, though we might have different problems, tend to offer support and care to others as well as from time to time each other. I understand its difficult. To say the least. Not going to go into my own history, but (yup a but :-0) ) the key for your husband is that he wants to become better, heal up. If he dosen't "want" theres nothing that I or anyone else can say, to change his mind. Sounds very cold, not caring but the healing has to come from within himself. If he finds over time, that he might lose you his world as he knows it, he might want to stop. Sometimes, hard smack of reality can do that. He loves you, I'm certain, and he loves the children. If anything, tell him, not ask him but tell him whats going on, in your mind,that the family comes first and he has a resposibility to you, the children and ... himself. He owes himself to be the father and husband, and that is his to have to make work. very best wishes, and thoughts go out to you and your family nick29.
First of all, I am very sorry to hear of your husband's problem with perscriptions pills. My heart goes out to you and your family. Honestly, there is little you can do. The "Addict" has to want to get help for their problem. Actually the first step, is to him admitting he has a problem in the first place. You cannot make a person do this. The only thing you can do is get help for yourself. I know this is not your problem, but you will be better equipped to deal with this issue if you seek help/support from others that are in similar situations as yourself. Try your local Al-Anon meetings, or Celebrate Recovery meetings in your area. It is clear your husband has a problem. Sometimes addicts have to hit a "bottom" until the recognize they have a problem. I know you may not want to hear the answer I provided, but I speak from personal experience as a recovering RX addict myself. Best wishes to you. May your husband come to know and acknowledge the truth and break the bondage those pills have on his life. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
When I read your question, it was like I was reading my own life story. I am having problems with my husband and have been struggling with this for 3 years now. I feel crazy sometimes because hes in denial and I know he's doing it again. We also have 3 kids and they side with him because they dont see what he's doing only me getting mad at him. He has always worked full time and I do too but I can't afford to live on my own. I am stuck. We spent thousands on drug treatment and it did help but he said he didn't need to go anymore and it was a financial struggle for him to go so I agreed. Now a year later I am seeing suspicious texts and money missing. I don't understand how he can do this to us. I hope your husband has gotten help, all I can say is make him stick to it if you can. It sounds like he has a supportive family. Wish you the best.
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