I have a friend that was clean for about 2 1/2 years and about 6 months ago I saw a change in his behavior. Our conversations became less and less.He moved to his home town and got mixed up with the old crowd. I heard from him the other night for the first time in about 2 months. I never would have imagined it had gotten this bad. I never ask if he was using again but I know in my heart the answer. We even had a conversation the other night and he got so angry over nothing he told me he hated my guts. I know its not the real him talking. I don't know what to do? How do I handle this? I don't want to turn my back on him. I know that I can't force him to want to get help but it breaks my heart. I love him dearly.
Hello rarho. I saw your question, and wondered for some time, how to answer you with all the right words, of encouragement, and support. If you click on my avatar, I talk a little about myself. So that you understand where I come from. I have as you read, been addicted but to perscription medication. And detoxed because of them. So, I understand the word addiction. Its not easy. On him and yourself, to say the least. He knows one thing. That you care for him. Thats a hugh plus, and he knows it. And he appreciates this more than you know. I know, when I was being weaned of from my medication, just knowing that my family was behind me, meant more to me than even to this day, they will pssibly ever know. He has you. He is not alone. and be what may come to pass in his life, he'll be able, to when hes ready, face up to you again. Thats why hes angry. Hes no longer clean, and hes made a mess of things, botched it up. He knows this too. Sometimes, it happens often, and why I just can't say, some of us have such a time of things, have it harder than other people can really even concieve, appreciate what others can go through in thier lives. I going on a bit to far here, but my thought to you is not to fear. This line is so old but I apply it almost daily to myself "fear, is the anticipation of pain" You fear for your friend, and you know that by him hurting, so do you. Try not to be afraid for him, and you will be a bit stronger for him. Hes not at this time who he once was, and given time, his knowing that you love and care for him, just might be what it takes for him to want to clean himself up, and be the person he was before. good thoughts and wishes, and yes, I've said this in the past, wishes do come true.
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