My boyfriend now for a year has been taking pain medicine because he suffers migranes. I have noticed he is abusing them lately. He even stole medicine from his mom ( morfin). He got his Tramadol prescription 130 pills and took them in 4 days. He has also taken Oxycodone and Sanax. Some prescribed and some he gets from friends. I want to get him help but he does not want to accept he has a problem. What can I do?
Hi, i would bet that he already knows. He just doesn't want to admit it because he doesn't want to stop. Sorry to cast such a big assumption, but i have been there, and maybe i'm wrong, but that is where i was. It wasn't until i had hurt so many people and messed my life up so much that i knew i had to stop and i asked for help. Does your boyfriend work? Is he happy? It is so hard to admit it, and you dread the response to that admission, and fear stopping and the road to recovery. I was addicted to tramadol also and i saw it as my friend, because it was the only thing that made me feel good. Has your bf been ill because of the amount of medication he is consuming? In my experience the more he is hassled about his addiction the more he will fight against it if he doesn't want to stop. He has to want to stop. Of course not everyone is the same and i don't want to put you on a downer. Maybe you can reply and answer my questions and hopefully we can give you some more advice... Thinking of you!
Im sorry to say this but there is nothing you can do. An addict usually don't know they are an addict and won't except it till they hit rock bottom. I was married to an alcoholic, who refused to believe he was one. He was drinking 24 beer a night, then on weekend would go through 24 beer plus a thing of jager a day. He got fired from 4 jobs. And still wouldn't except he was an addict. I threatened to leave but that didn't work. I did leave that didn't work. He got a DUI and had his daughter taken away, and for now that worked. But until they except they have a problem, i'm sorry to say there is not a DAMN thing you can do until they ask for help.
Sorry for being so harsh but it's the truth iv'e been through it. Feel free to private e-mail me anytime if you want to talk, i'll friend you.
I was a drug user--both interveniously & otherwise for 30 years--and have been clean for over 25. Usually, you cannot force a loved one to admit this all important acceptance. In my case I was in/out jail, programs, lost loved ones, was DOA 2X, etc. for me to be "at my bottom.") Tramadol (ultram) can cause seisures at the quantity he's taking. I know from expererience. I have much to say, like; pray, be tough, cut off the relationship, don't enable. If you would like more input, please email me. I still counsel addicts. But, if he doesnt change, get the heck out of the relationship. He'll manipulate, deny, threaten, make promises, use anger--and "You don't love me"--anything, to make you think you're the bad guy, NOT him!
Hi glownicky! You are in a very difficult position. One of the first aspects of opiate addiction is DENIAL. (I assume you meant morphine & not morfin).
But let me get to the rest of your question. Tramadol is not a narcotic, so it is very unusual that someone would take so many of them-more does not make you feel better. Oxycodone IS an opiate, so it will get him high if he takes enough. Sanax? Do you mean Xanax? If so, that is an anti-anxiety med which most abusers take to "chill out".
It's worrisome that he's getting meds from friends, stealing from his mother, & I presume, from a doctor although you don't mention that. If he IS seeing a doctor, CALL them. It sounds like a Judas trick, but you may just be saving his life! In druggie terms, he sounds like what they call a "garbage can", which means that he'll simply take anything he can get his hands on. This can be the most dangerous type, because there are interactions between meds, in addition to what is dangerous about each separate med.
Tell him you want him to seek treatment. Tell him you will go with him to a doctor who will treat him & that you will stay with him throughout the process, if he does what he is TOLD. If he doesn't want to or intend to get better, I'm afraid you're in for a LONG haul, which in many cases has a tragic ending. You cannot force him to go, he must realize this on his own, or be forced by the LAW to get treatment. One way is to report that he is taking medication which is not prescribed for HIM, which is against the law, especially when it comes to opiates & other controlled substances.
I wish you the best of luck!
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