I recently realized how anxious I was all my life, since I was a little boy. I once read that there is some correlation between e.g., parents organizational skills, parents felling of security given to the kid and anxiety fellings. I dont think I ever felt secure. I was very good at school and ended up going a top 5 university. But between those years I had deep depressions, some psycosis (I think thats what it might be, not being able to control my thoughts and having self destructive thoughts, just realized this after watching the movie Black Swan). I m also left handed. When I spend time withipeople and see ahead regular contact with friends i fell great, solid, clear in mind capable of loving someone, when I dont see ahead the chance of going for a beer with a couple of friends, bang, There ut cimei agoin. Sometimes i think this might have been agravated throughout the years due to sleep deprivation. As a kid it would take me prob 2 hours to fall asleep, and there I was in bed, thinking about many things sometimes about the whole day sometimes about my parents unevitable death and very very scary was the problem of my own death. This from 5 to 22... Now I m 28 and have a good carrier in looking ahead but these anxiety period, depression symptomes that cycle in and out seem to smash my attempts to live a normal life, I dont have a girlfriend for about 5 years now and it not because of the looks, I simply feel deeply insecury and ashamed of it to even tell a women that might like me that lets go for a drink... I am also bridging 3 very different cultures. Please if you can help a good guy that believes deeply in people, humour, love, commitment and hardwork please talk with me about this big topic for so many men and women out there.
Have you tried counseling - to deal with the anxiety and insecurity? Fortunately, anxiety is one of those issues that is generally quite well resolved through counseling - and it isn't a terribly long-term process, with the right therapist.
It would be a wise first step to turn to a counselor before you consider adding any kind of medication to relieve the symptoms. Oftentimes, the meds for anxiety create their own hellish problems - and can easily backfire later - making the symptoms worse.
First let me say, you are not alone. There are alot of wonderful people on this site who have dealt with depression, anxiety and destructive behavior. I really recommend you get evaluated for your condition. I am bipolar and have been since I was little. I have had the same symptoms you describe. I now take several medications and have been in therapy. I no longer cycle in and out of depression and have not had any destructive behavior for a long time. I'm very content with my life now, very involved in my community and have many good friends. Until I addressed my issues with therapy and medication, I was unable to hold down a good job for very long and had very few good friends even though I am bright and have three college degrees.
I know you may not want to try medication but at least consider an evaluation and some talk therapy. Dealing with the anxiety, insecurity and feelings of shame are critical. You sound like you have issues that need to be addressed so that they don't continue to rule your life. There is a better way of life awaiting you, I promise.
Hello sricardo. Nice to meet you.My name is . I kind of smiled as I read your question/post because I am certain, that many of us here, on this site can relate at least to one thing that you talked about. You mentioned your sleeping pattern. Ha! I am an insomniac. And certainly, you lay awake, thinking, worrying about any and most everything. Having said that, what I do, and this helps, does not always "work", is since I'm up, I read. Any and everything. But I stay away from the computer. I hardly ever, say come to this site or do anything I line. I enjoy reading newspapers, magazines etc. It if anything, takes my mind off of my thoughts. Worries, cares of my life. And I forget about not sleeping. The key is to get out of bed. For me, thats the secret. I am not lieing in bed, with everything going through my mind. Having said that, get to see a therapist. Don't care to go? Try a md.
she/he will evaluate you, perhaps write you a perscription for medication, that will most probably help. And please try not to worry about things such as death and so on. Death is awaiting for us, one and all. We are all going to die. You've still many years of living to do. Enjoy them, for once gone, you can't get them back. Time is such it is. Best wishes, try and be happy, its free.
The earlier posts said there are a lot of people like u out there and I am one of them. I also remember at age 5 staring at the ceiling for hours thinking about death and such. I also have deep anxiety and struggle with depression. I am 43 and still wondering how of if I'll ever change. I applaud u at 28 reaching out like this to ask for help.
I started at 30 with medication. It worked but after a while I still felt symptoms of anxiety and dep. I tried individual therapy. That helped also.
However 2 weeks ago I started outpatient group therapy for people like you and me. Even in this short period of time I can feel a change within myself. The change I've always been looking for.
I just wanted to share this; you may not think it's for you. Medication and some kind of therapy would be good in my opinion. Sorry this went on so long. You can alwYs PM me. Cathleen
Sometimes it takes finding (as she has said on here) a really good professional person whom you can feel a comfortable feeling, and just start from the beginning and talk this through, In some cases people need medications but I think in your case you need the help of someone whom you can feel that at ease sense and just talk it through, you seem like a kind, caring and good person who deserves a life that is filled with a wife, family, job, and those things that have real substance to them, I sense that you want more than just things you want to be part of peoples lives and want them in your life as well, there are Christian counselors you need to do some research because I think you will know when you have found what you are looking for meanwhile I wish you only the very best success in finding the necessary resources that help you find the things that help you feel complete
Hi, it is nice to have so many considerate answers about such a hard topic for me.
I tried some counceling. Last year when I moved to the Bay Area I started seeing a psychologist, but I had the feeling he was not a natural talent, didnt care, and was charging me $200 a session after nogotiating lowerinh from $250 considering my student status.
I noticed some small improvements but I had to quit at the end of one month as it represented 1/5 of my salary...
I was always looking for affordable alternatives but nothing came up.
Only about 2 months ago I got some pills named Vallium that male me sleep good but I wake up drowsy although I m relaxed throughout the day. Then I found out some sleeping aid pills like Tylanol PM, also helps. For instance yesterday I took some blueish sleeping pill from wallgreens, it says totally natural non adictive, but it also says not to be used in the long term (i dont know if it has some consequences to use them everyday fora month or 2, just to recover from sleep deprivation) I slept good, worked effectively and had a nice day. Last night, didnt take the blue pill so I couldnt get enough sleep and it took half a day to start feeling ok, its like I dont have energy to generate positive thoughts and instead generate negative downgrading ones...
Thanks for having suggested me to get some counceling. How can I look for a good councelour? I was raised christian but all I want is that solid comprehensive soul I never had around.
my most sincere regards.
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