... stay home with them and love every minute of it. I am very tired and in lots of pain from a c6c7 herniated disk I was just told I have. When I told him he said well I am really worried about my neck it hurts when I sleep. I wish I could sleep with my bad headaches I am awake all night. What do I do? I feel so alone and so sacred. Should I get the steroid shots?
I think that you need to be very honest with your husband about your pain, including that you've had headaches every day for the last 2 years. He can't understand about your pain if you don't firmly tell him about how much pain that you're in. So stop with the not telling him. And if you're not up to doing your normal daily routine, then don't press yourself. Tell your husband that your pain is too bad to do everything. No one knows about your pain except you. If he still doesn't understand, you should get him to go to one of your doctor appointments for the doctor to explain about your pain. Or you could try to get him to have therapy with you. If he still doesn't get it, he's a selfish jerk. That's the truth and you do hear about some of these jerks on here. If you get so tired of him not treating you well, you can get support payments from him and you may be happier living without him.
Not what you want to hear, but it comes down to choices. I hope instead that you can stand up for yourself and see that your husband does in fact care about you. That's my sincere hope for you.
Perhaps there is something else that can be done for your herniated disk other than steroid shots. You really need to limit how many you get because they will destroy the area where you get them, as well as destroy the rest of your body. I had 4 steroid injections for a painful left arm more than 10 years before I had a major stroke. The stroke caused the very worst pain in my right arm. Couldn't move it at all and couldn't sleep with the pain. The doctors said absolutely no more steroid injections after the four that I had had in the far past. If I had only known at the time. There are many medications that can prevent your headaches as well as injections that are not harmful. Have you seen a doctor about your headaches? That has to be a great strain on your physical and mental health. So be sure to seek adequate medical help. You deserve it and need it, especially with four children to care for. You take care. Things can get a lot better for you.
Sara gave you some good advice.
I would think you could ask your PC Physician to get you into a pain management doctor, to begin physical therapy and maybe some medication to see if that helps your neck any. It just may work. If not, you've nothing to lose.
About your husband, I don't know what you can do with the exception of taking him with you to physical therapy, maybe he can get a bit of a clue from going with you and looking at your X-rays. Are you depressed? You sound a bit down, which can easily happen when in pain, especially chronic, 24/7 pain that never lets up. You may be asked to try an antidepressant or to see a psych doc about your mood. If you are awake all night because of pain you may be given medication for that as well. Muscle Relaxers work quite well for neck pain caused by (obviously!) muscle aches.
Valium is a great medication for neck injuries, believe it or not. And one of those would help you sleep.
I wish you all the best,
Hi hockeymom, sounds like you are going 'thru quite a rough patch. I do
understand pain 24/7, but have no experience with herniated disks.
Not getting any sleep is awful, especially being responsible for your 4
children. You need more understanding and unconditional love from your
spouse too! Keep your Dr. informed on these issues and I'm sure you can
get more help.Your unrelenting pain must be causing some depression,too.
Stick with us here and vent away. We need you! sincerely,dumpster diver*
Hmmmm! I wonder if it would get his attention if you told him he had to take care of the 4 kids, house, cooking, etc., while you go and get something done about your neck. I had herniation of C5/6, which eventually ruptured. I had no choice but to have the surgery, which, thankfully, was successful. It was horribly painful before the disc ruptured, and much worse after rupture and before surgery. So, here's what you do. Get a family member or friend to take all 4 of your kids for one night. When hubby gets home, sit him down, MAKE him pay attention to what you are saying. No distractions! If he tries to turn what you are saying around to focus on him, just tell him "This is not about you! I am talking about me! You married me in sickness and in health! Guess what, this is the sickness part! I am in pain and I need you to hear me. I need your understanding, love and support!" For now, my dear, you need to take care of you.
If he still just doesn't get it, then Sara's suggestions might be an alternative for you. You have to make him listen AND hear you. Stay in touch with us. We'll be here when you need us.
It's like my p m doc says... Everyone handles pain differently. My husband and his father have back problems but they just drink beer when it gets bad. My husband though is very supportive of me and my taking medications and trying other options.maybe you could tell him like I told my husband... You are just tougher about handling pain than me. Maybe my pain is different from your pain? Hopefully he will come around.
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