I know that in the end every one is going to say just leave but its really not that easy. Me and my boyfriend Alex have been together 3 years tomorrow. The first year and a half were great we were really really in love. Just over a year ago we got a apartment together. We have never had the perfect relationship but compared.to now it was amazing. About a year and a half ago Alex started getting into pain pills mostly perks he hid this from me and it caused many fights when I would catch him in the bathroom smoking the pills. I made him choose me is the pills and at first he said he chose me but I melt catching him smoking off tin room in the bathroom he tried so hard to hide it but I would catch him at least 2 times a week. Eventually it lead to me kicking him out of our house. Less than a month later he moved back in promising he had quit and I let my love for him hide a lot of signs showing he was still using not to much later. One day I caught a friend of his smoking in my house we talked and he told me it was not perks but herion I confronted Alex and again he promised he would stop but what a surprise he didnt. I tried to get him to quit for so long that I figured maybe if I let him smoke it he would soon see how addicted he was andquit on his own. Eventually with in the last few months he persuaded me to try it. I have been smoking herion with him now for a few months and I thought it would help or relationship and stop the fighting but it has just opened a.whole new world. Of fighting. I can honestly say wa of right now I am nor addicted cause it still makes me sick and kills me to see the way he freaks our when its gone and he tries to trick me into buying more when I hate doing it everyday. Recently in the last 2 weeks I have found money missing out of my bank account several times. He is stealing from me cause he needs his drug and. Is hiding how much he uses from me again. It's killing me today I found another 60 dollars missing from my account. I just don't know what to do I want to help him but.it seems like I only make it worse he hA admitted to me he has been using herion for a year and q half now and lied and said it qwas pills at the. Beginning. I love him so much since we have been higher for 3 years but I deep down I know I need to make him leave. His temper is so horrible I.just don't even know how to say it and don't think he would even leave if I told him to since he has no where else to go. I'm 19 and ha is 220. I just want to know how to end thus cycle of.loss he has created. It killing me. His parents don't know he has thus addiction but so I think about telling them as that might know how to help him better than me. Any advice? Sorry its so long
I'm so sorry to hear the trouble and hurt you are going through at the moment,i understand its very hard,but my dear you are so young to be going through this.I am not judging you in any way,you made the first step by coming on here looking for help and advice-i admire you for that! I was also in a similar situation as you are in now,when i was 17 i moved out away from my parents and in with a fella i thought i was so in-love with,he was a cocaine user and smoked ALOT of marijuana and took every pill going.I too wanted him to stop,wanted to change him but instead i made the stupid choice of getting into the drug scene myself and wound up addicted.I know heroin and cocaine is'nt the same but they are still both addictive drugs that can kill and cause so much damage in the long run.I stayed with my then boyfriend 2 and half years,our relationship turned violent,he was a completely different person when he could'nt get the fix he needed or had'nt the money to pay for it.I eventually wanted out but he would'nt let me,he would lock me up in a room and not let me out til i agreed to stay with him,that went on for a longtime,until i woke up and realised that was'nt the life i wanted and if he thought anything of me he would not treat me this way.I am telling you all this from the heart and its because i want you to wake up and move on far away from this lad you are with.I know you might think its easy for me say or i dont understand but believe me hunny-i do,i understand more than you can imagine and i have done things i am not proud of and still trying to make up for emotionally even now and i am 25.Believe me sweetie when i say you need to get out,sooner rather than later,its up to you what choice you make but an addict wont change until he/she admits they have a problem and willing to accept the help they need to get through the addiction,you might not listen to what i have to say,i probably would'nt when i was your age but i'm trying to reach out to you,please read what i said carefully,i hope you take in what i say!
Here for you whatever you decide.
Take care pet,there is a better life out there waiting for you!
First let me say we are here for you. Puckiemull said exactly what needed to be said. Your boyfriend is an addict and until he admits he has a problem and is willing to get help, he will continue to be addicted. Once an addict, always an addict. You can stop the drugs but you still have the illness, just in remission if you will. It is an illness that affects everyone around it. You have experienced this already by partaking in the dope along with your boyfriend. You really need to take a stand on this. Demand that he leaves or gets treatment. Not a promise of quitting but definite rehabilitation.
The only way to end the cycle you speak of is to get off the ride. If you need the support of his parents, then get it. Maybe they will help you confront him. You'll have to be willing to get clean too. I don't know how much you have been using, but it is time to stop. It will only lead to destruction and possible death. Think about the consequences of yours and his behaviors. The consequences are not anything you want to experience.
I hope you take the time to contemplate what we have said.
Best wishes and keep in touch,
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