... I am searching for help for my husband, without his knowledge. His percocet addiction started about a year ago, strictly recreational. I had my suspicions but was kept in the dark until I finally discovered some in his drawer and confronted him. He admitted to having a problem and said he was ashamed of it and hadn't told me for fear I would think he was a "pill junkie". Since then I have caught him in several lies about money, he has put us into debt and completely eliminated our savings account. We are behind on several bills and have had our cell phones turned off twice in the last month, I have never before been late on bills! Right befor our second child was born, 3 months ago, he went a week with some intense withdrawals and then decided to go on soboxens, that he gets off the streets! Though I am happy that he is trying to get better I feel as if the subs are now just as much an issue. He still lies about getting them and is continuing to put us further into debt by getting them. I also learned by going through his texts that he resently slipped up and got percs because he couldn't find any subs! I don't trust him at all anymore in regards to money and am starting to become suspicious of the relation ship he may have with the girl he gets his subs and percs from! I don't know what do to, I'm not ready to threaten divorce as it is not something I am ready to follow through with however this is not the life I signed up for nor the life I want for our children! I would truely appreciate any advice and insight any of you may have!
Help for spouses percocet addiction?
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Also, I have looked into suboxon treatment through a doctor for him and was completely discouraged due to the price. I feel like I have lost my best friend! Though his mood and behavior have somewhat returned to normal since starting the subs, I can often tell when he hasn't had one. I am so stessed and starting to feel slightly dpressed about the whole situation, which isn't good for my children either. I just want my best friend, husband back!!
I feel your despair and understand. I too was married to an addict. He choose his addiction over our marriage and for the sake of my daughter and I we are no longer together. Anyway, since your husband is getting the Suboxone off the street, he isn't getting the addiction's counseling that is suppose to go along with the Suboxone. Unfortunately, without the appropriate counseling he is just trading one problem for another. Though some people say you can be on Suboxone forever, I don't believe that is necessary. I really recommend you encourage your husband to face his addiction and get counseling to learn the tools necessary to stay clean.
If you can't afford a Suboxone doctor maybe you could google addiction's counselors and try to find help that way. There is also Narcotics Anonymous. It is a free program to help addicts learn to stay clean. Your husband needs to face his problem head on, counseling of some sort is the way to do this.
I would tell your husband the truth about your feelings. He needs to know exactly what his behavior is doing to your relationship. Try not to enable him. When he makes a mistake, runs out of money for drugs, or screws up otherwise do not bail him out. He needs to suffer the consequences of his choices. I know that sounds harsh, but we learn from our mistakes. Tough love is critical at a time like this.
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So I have good news! I spoke with my husband the other night and though he thinks I'm slightly emotional about the whole situation he said he was going to ask me to help him find a suboxone detox doctor in our area! I'm really hoping this is it! We both agree that this is something worth using the a credit card for if need be! Wish him luck and thank you for the support and advice!
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