... greatly appreciate lots of advice from people who can tell me what they have done that was successful to distract themselves from the constant thoughts of hopelessness, wanting to die, helplessness, depressive slump where I think that death is the only answer for me. I have times when I could sure use some help dealing with these feelings and thoughts! I have been dealing with depression since 1996 and have attempted suicide before and don't want to ever do that again!!! But sometimes, I believe that it is the only way to stop feeling so badly. It's not often, but it does happen from time to time. I am not taking any medications for depression because I have tried every antidepressant, mood stabilizer, etc... and many doctors and treatment centers also. Nothing helps, either I am allergic to it, or it makes me worse. I am on a medication that is not prescribed for depression from my doctor right now, which has helped better than anything. But still, every once in a while I will decide that death is my only option. I need some of your ideas as to how to get myself out of that train of thought when it happens. All advice GREATLY APPRECIATED. Even if you think it's dumb, weird, or whatever. IF IT WORKS FOR YOU, I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT IT ! Thank you all so very much and I am glad that I found your group! I am 50 and in poor health dealing with a lot of pain. Please consider that when answering because I cannot do a whole lot of physicial things any more.
Hello Fellow Members, I am new to this site and to the depression group as of today. I would?
- 26 Mar 2011 by fairytailwing
- 23 Jul 2011
- depression, anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder, anxiety and stress, suicide
Added 27 Mar 2011:
I need motivation to get out of bed each day. I think motivation is my biggest problem. Is there a medication or education program or anything where I could learn how to LIVE again? I never needed motivation before, I don't know what has happened that I just don't want to do anything except something that would entertain me, and now days, that is pretty hard to do. Am I just getting lazy? Have I lost hope for tomorrow? I don't know. What causes a motivation problem? I don't look forward to anything anymore. I suppose that would be a part of the depression. What do you think motivates a person? Why does a person even get out of bed in the first place? I am disabled because of memory loss and multiple health problems. I suppose those could contribute to my depression and motivation problem. Let me know what you think and what you have found to help you if you've had the same problem please. And thanks for all the super sweet answers from all of you. Let me know how to comment and how to give you a "thanks, that helped very much" on this site................ I am a newbe & don't always figure out stuff like I used to. Any ideas and help is appreciated. And I will be there for you all too! Although I am not online much, I sure will do all I can for anyone who asks or calls on me. I'd love that..................
Firstly welcome to the site,it's great you've found it.I personally find it a great help,its so helpfull to be able to speak to others that suffer the same as ourselves and help and give advice to others.You will meet so many lovely kind caring people on this site.
I'm very sorry to hear you're story,i understand completely where you're coming from.And it is also hard on you seen as you cannot take medication to help.Have you tried relaxation techniques? They work for some-others not so much.Everyone is different when learning how to cope when things get too much.I suffer from severe panic/anxiety disorder,OCD,depresion so i can relate to what you are saying,my anxiety gets so bad sometimes i cannot even leave the house,i dont want to talk to people,not even get out of bed alot of time.My meds have been changed once again going back a few weeks and so far i'm doing good on them,also attending CBT,its ok,a slow process but i find this site really helps and since i've found it,its helped me so much,talking to others and sharing experiences makes you realise you are not the only one going through this hell,there are plenty people the same and others worse off.
Anyway as i said welcome,post anytime,i love to chat and if i can help anyway at all i will do my best.You are not alone!
Hello Fairytale, sorry to hear your story, but you will find very loving caring people here.Im new too, don't answer alot of questions but am always here to talk. We are close in age Im 57, I have depresion, anxiety, panic. Sometimes I just feel like a mess, but I pray everyday to get better and it does help me get thru the day. Death is not the answer!! One day at a time! Please come on here anytime you need someone and somebody will be here for you. You are not alone. I want to live for my kids and g-kids, even if I don't see them much it keeps me going. I can't do much for them but I an love them, I know everyone is diffrent and I know I have not helped or answered your question, I just want you to know I care about you.
First, I want to say welcome to this site. I am glad you found it. Secondly, I want to say, I read your story and I thought I was reading about myself. You see I am 50 years old, I have multiple serious illnesses, including Bipolar Disorder, where I rapid cycle, and I am disabled. I have been disabled for 6 years. I have been depressed and in counseling for almost all my life. My depression started when I was about 12. I have attempted suicide several times. Have been hospitalized for it, had my stomach pumped once. I am not proud of it, and if I even come off my meds for a day or two I am battling suicidal thoughts. What helps me the most is my combination of Meds. It is Cymbalta, Abilify, Lamictal, and Seroquel. I think some of these drugs, particularly the Cymbalta and Abilify could change your life. I think you need to really talk to a healthcare professional about it. Cymbalta is an anti depressant also used for pain and Abilify is a mood stabilizer and enhances the anti depressant.
When you have these suicidal thoughts you must try to push them out of your head. I know it is hard. Distract yourself. Take a walk. Listen to music and sing along. Take a bath and relax. Get a massage. Turn the lights off and light some candles and enjoy the scents. Read a book. Try to remember all the beautiful people in your life at that moment. They are the people who would be picking up the pieces if you would be gone. Would you want to traumatize them in that manner. If you have children, imagine what it would do to them. I have put my family through hell. I once took a drug overdose in front of my older son. He to this day has not forgotten. Use that image when you have those thoughts.
I want to be here for you. I am ready to listen and to talk to you. You need a friend and I will be your shoulder and your ear to listen. We have more in common than you know. Please call me. If you get my machine, just leave your name and say you are from Drugs.com. I want to help. My number is 215-758-2529.
hello fairytailwing first I would like to say that I am very sorry for your health problems and I am in the same depression boat to except that I have bipolar and severe anxiety disorder. I am also a newbie so maybe we can learn together(: I wish you luck! My motivator is my husband and my 4 kids, but some days even that doesn't seem to be enough to want to get out of bed!
Welcome to the group. You have come to a wonderful place filled with loving supportive people. I suffer from depression and am Bipolar type two. I have lived with the depression for most of my life and have attempted suicide many times. I am thankful that I am here now. How did I get to this point?
I turned my life over to the care of God. I accepted Jesus into my heart. My life went from chaos to sanity within a few weeks of serious daily prayer. This may sound hokie but it is my story.
I learned to accept that I have an illness just like a diabetic that has to be treated with medication. It is not lack of faith, as some have tried to tell me, but a necessary gift from God to help with the chemical imbalance in my brain.
I now take an anitdepressant, Pristiq, with a mood stabilizer, Abilify. I also take Nuvigil for the excessive sleepiness. I have been on many antidepressants over the years. This is the combination that is working for me right now. I had to deal with the side effects when I first started taking each. But they subsided after a few weeks. I also had to wait for the medicines to reach there full effectiveness which can take a month or so after starting. I hung in there, continued my daily prayer, and am now stable and depression free.
I know that you don't tolerate medication well, I don't know what all you have tried nor what your reactions to the medications were. Turning your life over to the care of God and praying daily has no bad side effects and WILL make you feel better. Making a list of what we are thankful for and keeping it near by for those times we get down is a very useful tool. I use to keep a journal of all my thoughts and feelings. For some reason writing them down helped put things into perspective for me especially when I was depressed. I have spent many long hours in mental health facilities, hospitals, etc. and the journaling and prayer helped me survive. I have not been to a hospital in many years thanks to the awesome love of my God and the saving power of Jesus Christ.
This is my story, hon, that is all I can share, I wish you the very best. Keep posting here, it really helps and I'll be praying for you,
Welcome to the site, you will find a lot of compationate and caring people on this site. My story begins with 4 depression. Two major ones where I was hospitalised. I know what you mean about no meds working. The last time I was hospitalised because a psychiatrist prescribe me Seroquel for depression. I had a psychiotic episode and was hopsitalised for 6 months until they found the right meds for me. I take Manerix and Lithium. I used to feel like you but now thank God, these meds worked. I am a christian too. I couldn't of pull myself out of this without God. I now have a normal and happy life. Maybe you just need the right meds. Don't give up Fairytailwing. I will pray for you. Take care, smileyhappy.
Hi, I know how you feel and I have had the same toughts over the years and iam on medication. It is a horrible feeling and I know and understand the pain you are going though.I am weening off medication right now. I was on Effexor 225 mg a day and I still had days of depression. I at one time could not even leave my house and your question is not dumb. You are dealing with a big issue and you need to talk.For 7 years I have had a bad time. I get panic attacks and I have to keep xanax with me at all times. My mother tried killing herself and years later she told me that was not the answer. I go to a therapist now it has made a big difference in my life. I know you can't do a lot of physical things but try writing down your thoughts and how you feel inside. Only you can find the answers. I did that for a long time. I got to understand my self a lot better. Life is not easy and for people with depression it is a whole lot worse.
If you have people that are close to you think how much it would hurt them if you did kill yourself. That is not the answer. I think you need a support group and I think you need to find out what is causing your pain. I really do feel for you but please don't do any thingthat would hurt yourself. There are people out there that can help you. Iam 55 years old and I am just learning why I am like this. Medications are good don't get me wrong but they just cover up what is really wrong. You need to find answers to your questions on why you feel the way you do. A good therapist can help and I am proof of it. I am here for you and when the sadness and hurt get to you talk and maybe one of us can get you through it. Please never think you ask dumb or weird questions. Please get some help. I am here. Good luck and remember we have all felt what you are going though.
Hello to everyone, nice to be here, and see all the help that is given. And hello fairytale, I hope that what I have to say might be of help to you. I can ramble on a bit, a trademark of mine. (smile). Everyone here has given, shared you their thoughts, and feedback? ideas perhaps a better word. Motivation, fairytale is a key for me. Its an action thing. Difficult to explain... I rather not ... need the proper word... it always has been a player. For without it, I am doomed. Truly so. I'll share this, with you and the other friends here. Like you, I have memory damage. Mine came throught ect treatments. Mind you, when I first joined the site, it was my question in depression group, have other people had shock and if memory loss and or how much. But, thing is, regardless how you lost or your memory is damaged, we have a common handicap. And my number one nemisis is depression, which includes baggage that comes with it. Beginning to get away from motivation.
For me, I make myself, do things. Often, by others standards, say, friends, and family, its not much. And I can see that. Yet, for me, when I do, whatever, such as this, chatting away, its good for me. I changed the nectar in the hummingbird feeders this morning. Feel as if I accomplished something and I did! Another motivator is fear. Fear that I might have to go and spend time in an institution. An involuntary visit. And that thought keeps me going, in as trying my darndest not to get to the point of a hospital. fairytale you asked what causes a motivation problem. Its the illness, depression at work. It hits us all, and in many ways, each and everyone of us, suffer to a large degree, often the same symptons. Some of us are angry, some lathargic, sadness, cry, no sleep, anxious, hopelessness, and so on. Thats why many of us are on the same medications, and of course some not. We are all who we are. I often, can make or break a moment of my day. And then there are times, when it seems that I have no control over whatever it may be. Or so it seems. I'm not a robot. I also become tired of reasoning things out. If I want to cry, I allow myself to do so. Its normal to let things go, from time to time. To cry is to heal. See, I've chatted away again, ha! oh well, such is as it is. Hope that you, fairytale and everyone has a good, no has a great day and evening!
hi there, well i have been in your shoes, i was extremly depressed addicted to soma, married to an alcoholic, who two days ago comitted suicide by shooting himself. addiction and depression are a very serious combination. or on their own they are devastating. I wouldn't get out of bed, i wouldn't leave my house i had no friends no church didn't talk to my family just was a hermit and thinking of ways to die even though i have two daughters, i thought they would be better off without me i was useless to them they had to fend for themselves.
well one day i was so out of it i took my kids to a carnival because they were bugging me and i caved in, well since i really didn't care about anything i went and sat on a bench and waited for my girls to get off the ride, well about 15 min went by and still no girls, long story short they got lost, and luckily my oldest daughter was taught if she is ever lost to find the closest police officer or security guard, i was in a stake of panic and something woke up inside of me, i realized i was totally out of touch with life and didn't give a damn about anybody even my girls who i was convinced i loved. so i started to get on the net and just talk to people about suicide and some of it was positive some negative, but getting out there and hearing other people's story i realized mine wasn't so bad. so i got off my drugs divorced my alcoholic husband and started my life over with a clean slate, meaning i didn't hold anything i did in the past against myself and started clean and made good memories. I don't know if this is what the answer you were looking for but maybe it helped a little. i'll friend you so if you ever want to ask me a private question just between me and you please feel free. as for my ex-husband's suicide two days ago you really don't realize who it effects when you commit suicide, there are more people then you think.
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