I haven't answered questions for, or updated about, how my two older sons are! I kinda feel like I left that in the wind and I apologize for that. For my new friends I had a 21 yr old facing possible prison, and an 18 yr old who came to live with us three to four months ago to get off drugs. In a nutshell. I'm not going to make this long at all because anyone that knows me knows I'm a cryer and don't want to got there now. My 21 yr old, by the help of God only... Got out of everything! He flew in for a week for Christmas and it was wonderful. Here's the sad part and ill make this really quick. My 18 yr old needs surgery desperately on both feet. We took him to three Orthopaedic Surgeons before we could find to do the surgery in downtown Atlanta, and scheduled the surgery. I had a few friends on here lovingly tell me to be careful about him breaking into my safe. He ramsacked our room, took some of my meds, when confronted, called a buddy up in the other state and was gone by late evening. Two days before Christmas I think. I thought IDE have all three boys at Christmas and together in yrs and it didn't happen. The saddest person was my five yr old. I'll admit I was very pest with him. Still am. So that's whet happened and another painful lesson in life learned. Now I might cry... So goodnight and love to you all. P. s. I hope everyone's holidays were great. Oh, and those of you who pray... say a prayer for them and us too!
Dear Ruthie, I know you have been through a difficult time. Sometimes it seems like those of us who have had worst , we feel we have been dealt a very difficult hand. Just know that you are loved by many, and we are all here for you . I will keep you in my prayers and I hope things change for the best. Be strong as I know you are and remember he never puts more on our plate than we can handle.
Hey Ruthie, I'm sorry to hear this. I know how painful it is to have a child who does these things. My 35 year old daughter is the same way,and has done exactly the same thing to me,over and over again.
She went to prison for 2 years back in 2002,and I hoped that that had taught her not to steal and to knock it off with the drugs,settle down and be a decent mother to her child.But,as of last night, I will no longer have anything to do with her.She is a thief,a liar, and self destructive,with no love for anyone,not even her child.I refuse to allow her and her selfishness to pull me or the rest of our family down with her.Sometimes,we have to let go,and put everything in Gods most capable hands.You and all of your family will be in my prayers as well.You know, sometimes He allows things to happen for a purpose,and though that purpose may escape us,it is not for us to question,but simply trust in Him.I have always believed that He has a special love for mothers,and He hears our prayers and feels our pain as if it were His own,and DOES answer them. Not always in the way we hope, but He does answer.Hoping and praying for your sons safety,and your families broken hearts.
I'm not allowing the bad grandson in the house any more. The day after Christmas, I went to get my wood plunge/table router, and he stole it-over $500. He went in the room-it's next to the bath room- opened a window-dropped it out. So, I don't have any video of him taking it. Then said- good-bye- and left. He probably traded it for a nickle bag of dope. It's not my house, the house is his father's-but I don't care. My son got me a new one, but I'm not sure it's as good, I'm waiting for the delivery. It was so hard on my son. He almost went catatonic-completely unaware of anything. My other grandson and I were worried that he was going to have a heart attack. I wish that the grandson would leave town, instead of sucking the life out of his father-a disabled vet. God answers prayers, but maybe it's better that your son left. You have a lovely 5 year-old son-protect him from the maneuvering of the 18 year-old.
I'll pray that God gives you the strength. Something like what you are going through would make a toughened marine cry-honestly. So, please don't cry- hug your little boy and tell him that you love him. I hope that you aren't evading his questions. Tell him that his brother did a bad thing to hurt you, and to pray that his brother will be good or however you want to put it. This will help to empower him, where he doesn't think that he did something bad too. He already knows on some level, but whispering can make it an attractive mystery. I truly pray for all of us that we have a better year. I envy you because your son left. Here, we're so happy that the grandson is isn't a girl, or our hearts would be torn by the babies, as another member of our family just said. My son took off this afternoon, he came back- and I asked him if he went to his son. A very guilty- yes. I didn't say anything or ask how much money he gave his this time. I try so hard to keep my son from giving money to his son on the weekends-Fri or Sat. I tell him to go directly where his son owes a bill, and pay the company or buy groceries, not give him the money.
It must be very hard seeing your children go through so much and you don't have control of their life anymore! All I can say is lift their lifes to the Lord and keep praying for them. God will not let them go through anything they cannot handle without him and for yourselves too.
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