Does anyone else feel guilty with their situation, and ponder how they got here in the first place and frustrated they can't release themselves. I'm driving myself crazy, trying to replace thoughts. I know it's the meds causing the depression at present, but just presently feel defeated. The 10 mg of celexa I'm on is doing little but causing fatigue and depression at the moment. It's been a long journey of frustration for me and hubby n ot understanding. He seems to think I should read a book or watch t.v. as a distraction!
Big help he is. You probably should try to get involved in something other then thinking about how rotten you feel all the time. How long have you been on the Celexa? Its not supposed to make depression worse. If you've been on it over a month and you feel this way, then you need something else. Do you have a therapist or a friend you can talk to? Forget trying to get help from hubby, most men have no idea of anything deeper then what's for dinner.lol I've stopped feeling guilty about anything in the past, you can't change it. You can just try to make it better in the future.
Yes i do feel guilty a lot but i know i did not put myself here but now i fight to not slip into the dark hole again. What really frustrates me is all the negative uncaring and uneducated people that think i should just get over it even the Doctors treat me like ok here is another one they seem to think they know if you only do this or that you will be fine, along with everything else that i think i have now i have pain everywhere but the Doc. looks at me and my 3 heads and says the tests show nothing so you have no pain lol
Are you taking Celexa for depression? Sometimes depression meds can make you feel worse, then you need to see your doctor. There's so many out there & I'm sure you'll find one that works for you. And YES, I always feel guilty about how I feel too, so you're not alone there! I never even told my x how bad my pain, anxiety & depression was. Even with my kids, I just try and put on a happy face as much as I can. I'm not at all suggesting you do this, it's not healthy and I do know that but I don't like to be a bother to them or have them worried about me. Another reason I love this group... I can open up and not be judged which is great, hope you will find that too. Your husband, I really think he's just not sure how to help you therefore he's shutting down. There are sites out there that are made for people's family/friends to read which explains how you're feeling and how they can help.
Maybe it's something you could look into and print it off for him, if you need help finding one let me know and I can help you. Kim.
I would like someone more knowledgeable to clarify this (are you out there Pledge?) as your post has got me thinking.
Celexa (Citalopram) is mainly to treat depression whereas Escitalopram (cipralex) treats anxiety. OCD, bi-polar etc.
To me anxiety is depression turned inside out ie the symptoms are more apparent, sweating, palpitations, racing mind.
Actually your post is a positive for me as I am on 60mg Citalopram and probably should be on Escitalopram to treat all my symptoms but I shall leave that up to my pschy when he does my med review.
I don't agree that with your psych who said you can't be on anti-ds and be depressed - if you are not on the right one for your chemical make-up of course you can as you have to find the right med to interact with your body.
Yes, I fully appreciate the guilt associated with our condition but I've given up on guilt as its a waste of energy. I have found accepting that I am prone to this condition and dealing with it to be more productive as the guilt thing just increases my anxiety levels. I agree that partners find it very difficult to deal with, through no fault of their own. If you are bursting into tears then it would appear you are depressed.
How I have dealt with my condition is to live only with positives. Asking for help is a real positive so you are already in the world of positives:) I find having projects to do very constructive and give me a sense of achievement. If you are not working, then taking a walk, even in the rain, can lift the spirits. Volunteer work, as suggested, is a definite positive. However, you do need to get your meds sorted first and I would put a phone call into your doctor TODAY.
He is NO HELP,GET RID OF HIM,MY EX HUB Caused my anxiety,mistrust issues glad i divorced him yrs ago.Tv is boring any way 2 much fake trashy crap on any way!if he felt wat u felt,bet he wouldn't like it u saying 2 him wtch tv nr read a book,look after yourself,u dnt need a man that is negative.we ALL have issues n faults maybe a anxiety councelor be gd4 u or go gym i do and piltates relaxes my mind n bod.wat u guilty over?i have anxiety cos i stress and hate my age 40,im scared of ageing n death.i use natrl organic oils,eat anti ageing foods n i look ynger,i drive my man mad ova it,2 bad lucky i dnt live with him,dating 15mths and no rush2 remarry yet!i have a 16yr old gal that ex hub ignores.HIS LOSS!DO U have kids that support u?i take valium 2 relax anti depresant usd2make me worse.hope u feel better about urself in time and do wat makes u happy,all the best x
Celexa (and some other antidepressants) have a tendency to make things worse for some people. I would suggest making this known to your doctor; he/she may want to either adjust the dosage of the Celexa or try some other medication. As for the guilty feelings, I have 2 suggestions: first, definitely find a POSITIVE distraction-exercise, yoga, writing, art, or some hobby; and second, try seeing a therapist-most people are hesitant at first, but then are glad in the end. I am not a big fan of throwing medication at mental issues and hoping the go away. A lot of patients respond better when they have medication and a therapist. Just a suggestion. Oh yeah, before you decide to do anything drastic about your husband's lack of help... suggest that he become involved in a depression support group. Lots of hospitals and facilities provide them. This way, he can be more sympathetic your plight and he just might learn a thing or two. Good luck and let us know how you're doing.
It can take awhile before you find the right antidepressant for you. It took me 4 depressions, 2 major ones where I was in hospital to find the right meds for me. Make yourself a list of side effects and how you feel with these meds and take it to your Psychiatrist to discuss. You will find the right med but it takes time. Don't despair! I know it's hard I have been there.
Regarding your husband, most husbands have not gone through depressions and cannot understand what is happening to us. It makes it very stressfull for us and our families. Try to discuss how you feel with your Psychiatrist or person for your therapy, they are trained and educated to do this. It will be easier on all of you. Of course alot of us here can help you too as you have seen.
Hello Graceyc. I have responded and answered, numerous times on your original question "Lexapro Withdrawls" posted back in January. I am afraid that there is little to add. You have received some sound advice from members of the site. If I might happen to come across any knew, original, suggestion(s) I will then add it. Regards, pledge
I understand the guilt issue also. I have anxiety & depression alot of mine is due to all of my health conditions. I believe you said you were seeing a therapist.
I would suggest that you see a Physciayrist as they Tthave alot more knowledge than just a therapist.
And I think you need to be treated for anxiety & depression they are not treated with the same type of meds.
I also stopped working recently & have found my depression has gotten worse.
I believe alot of this is that now that I am at home I have More time to think...
You definately need to find some distractions. I have also found that writing in a journal everyday helps alot as you can write you honest & open feelings without fear of someone commenting or judging it is just for You..
I also usually listen to calming & up lifting music each night before I go to sleep. I always listen to music when I am writing in my journal. Also I have found that just going into a quite room is soothing. Also I strongly suggest that you check with some local hospitals for support groups. These groups help alot & usually after you have gone to a few meetings you can bring home informational pamphlets for your husband & ask if he could possibly attend a meeting or two with you.
I have found that men will listen to others & professionals in these fields & then they will find out that They can actually help YOU.. Usually men have NO idea why & how they can help you with this. Don't give up on your husband just get Him involved.
Also one more thing it does take awhile to find the RIGHT medications for You.
As each medication reacts differently person to person. And if you find your Dr. cannot help & treats you as you are crazy or does not help you... Find a Different Dr. or therapist. You know your body & what helps & what doesn't..
But make sure to make a list of the meds thou have taken & how they affected you. Otherwise you will find you might be prescribed the same med another time. You should usually know within 4 weeks if a medication works or not.
Until then just keep posting to our group & we will always be here for you. Best of luck.
Gosh Graceyc... Guilt is my middle name..the meds help with my overly responsive guilt reflex... always thought I was saying or doing something wrong/to upset someone. Too tired to get into it tonite; am off to bed; but yes, I feel so guilty that I'm not a regularly functioning human being; that people suffer through my relapses with me etc etc etc... Am just beginning to embrace me, flaws and all and learning to love myself no matter what. Believing I'm loveable in spite of these challenges and hardships that my condition brings upon not only myself, but the very people I love the most.
But, if we had any other illness, would we feel as badly? Perhaps, but perhaps not as we too sometimes make the mistake of stigmatizing ourselves. This is self harm and we have to keep it in check! We are worthy, loveable human beings with the same right to be here as anyone.
Keep reminding yourself of this. Wish I was more insightful/had the energy to get to the heart of this matter... but am fading here and am heading for bed. A.B.H hope that helped if even a tad!
Hi there. Maybe I can add some taste to the sauce. You know, spice it up a bit. First I would like you to know that I was dead. In an ICU and they were done with me. I woke up a minute later on my own. Scared the heck out of them. Was actually disappointed on my end. Much nicer there than here.
However, there is no memory of "here." no family, no friends, no illness, no nothing when you leave. Rather there is the essence of the individual with all of that learned from life to life. It is the entire being or soul as some call it, that holds experiences of emotion and vast knowledge. I am not a nihilist. I am not a plop me in a hole and wait for some magical day. I am someone who actually experienced this.
The transition is simple. The pain we fear is because we fear to let go. We don't know what is next. Our inner being does not die. We are here a very brief time. Our inner being lives forever. We gather experience from life to life. It does not matter what we were here. It does not matter where grandmas knickknacks are or who said something mean. What matters is what we did when we were here. Were we kind? Helpful? Compassionate? Ethical? Or were we self-serving, paranoid, greedy? Whatever our life was, that is what we take, not the events, but the results of those events.
Was my mind discharging electrical impulses and I dreamed being there? Some find comfort in that idea. That is why they are afraid.
How could we be so complex, and then poof, that is all? Is there a god? Many gods? Buddhas? No, yes, yes, yes.
Whatever belief system you hold dear, know that in that moment of truth when you leave your body, you want to have lived the best life you were able. You didn't wait to be kind, or help a friend. You haven't blamed the world for your misfortune and miss the kindness of others. You have done the best, not just tried. And most of all you remained responsible for all the good and bad that entered your life. It is no ones fault that you have been ill and in pain. It is no ones fault that the doctor didn't give you what you want (the doc has the years of training, right?). It is no ones fault to blame them for your sorrow. Yes, my parents, were cruel. Yes, people misunderstand. Yes, people step on me when I am in a wheelchair. It is frustrating, anxiety provoking, suffering and tears. But these responses are my choice. This is my life.
We have just this one brief time here. Then we move on to something new. Please make the best of it. Forgive people, let things go. Show love.
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