my gf or(ex) as of right now who ive dated for a lil more than a yr has been lieing and sneaking behind my back doin pills and pills turned into herion within past few months. i went to her mother casue i had to much weight on my shoulder to bare and wasnt goin to watch her kill herself so i felt like goin to her mom was right thing to do, but now she def wont talk to me or see me and things arent looking good as far as getting her back casue we both love each other and wanna b with each other things jus arent healthy right now she says and she jus cant do this anymore. doin this refering to fighting like every week or other week usually becasue she lies or hides and or gets defensive if i jus ask her to call me or something so simple as that. i know its more less her sickness and disease of addiction doin most of this but other than patience and jus hoping an praying how can i help my chances at being with her again?
Gf is an addict of herion, what do I do how do I get her back?
Added 8 Jun 2011:
i am currently goin to a therapist becasue yes as this girl is 1st girl ivvee ever dated with an addiction i will admit i wasnt always biggest support or help wether with my words or actions or reactions, but within past 3 to 4 months ive been doin a lot better and only slipping once when she pushed me to my limit and really pushed my buttons. but therapist is going to help me get myself better with regards to depression, anger, multiple personalities as my gf claims i have. and im also goin to my first nar-anon meeting so i can better understand what i can do and how to do things to support and or comfort an addict. nar-anon meetings are for freidns and family of addicts and thankfully if it wasnt for a close friend i never wouldve known about these meetings. now my gf or ex whatever u wanna call her now knows all this but yet shes still jus being defensive, attitude and straight mean to me. what do i do
You don't say how old you are, but presumably you're a teenager. This is going to sound cold, but if I were you I'd let her go. She sounds pretty hostile and doesn't sound like she's about to quit. Maybe she'll come back, maybe not. If you were married with kids I'd say hang in there, but you're not. Find another girlfriend.
First off, you did the right thing by telling her mother, a mom needs to be aware of the fact that her daughter is an addict.Second off as much as it hurts you wont have a chance of getting back together until she realizes she truly has a problem. Most addicts have to hit a rock bottom before they get help. It's good that you are getting therapy yourself, cause it is so hard having a loved one who is an addict . Praying that she turns over a new leaf and that everything works out.
hi im a recoverin addict if you love her its not goin to be easy talk to her tell her how you feel ask her if she wants or needs your help if shes[ ready ] talk to her about the different ways of detoxification counseling because it is not goin to be easy for the both of you this is a journey that most people dont come back from the same now i tell you this from experience when people hit rock bottom is when the journey begins i mean you yourself is willin to take it with her best of luck sometimes we need tough love to realize what we're becoming or what we're loosin and i tellyou i was one of the strong ones i still have isues 25 years later i wish you both luck and keep you in my thoughts may god bless you both just let her be like i said shell realize her mistakes and if she loves you shell come back
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