When I do get an outbreak, I don't see any sores on the outside but feel a painful area. I was with my husband for 4 years and did not tell him i had it. I felt horrible when after 4 years he got it. This is a nightmare . How are people with this supposed to find others who have Herpes also? I also have times when my eyes hurt, red and feel infected. I get headaches that last for 3 or 4 days. They are extremely painful and I worry about that. After reading other peoples questions I now see that I must have it in my eyes also. What is the name for that? Also, please... If anyone knows a good website to go to for Herpes dating, please share the info . I cannot take being alone anymore and celebate . There has to be a way for us to find eachother as there are billions of people with Herpes. I heard that one out of every three people has it! So, why can't we find eachother? HELP!!!