I am 20 years old and have been dealing with generalized anxiety disorder for the past two months. I went to a cbt class and the counselor said there is no cure. How in the world am I suppose to enjoy life knowing I'm just gonna be fighting anxiety all my life. I can't imagine what the point of doing all this knowing I'll always be anxious and not ever be able to be happy like I was before. I've done a lot of research and have not found one person that has fully overcome this. Life is just starting to seem pointless, if I can't relax and live normally. How can I live each day knowing I have so many more years of suffering ahead of me.
You won't get far if you allow one warped opinion determine the rest of your life. There's plenty of competent help out there, whoever side this to you is the one with the disorder, not you. Pick yourself up and set out to find a Dr who has solutions. The only thing standing between you and "years of suffering ahead of you" is you.
Don't be your own enemy, set out determined to find one that will open you u to the endless resources available to us, and start knowking down that belief that you're destiny is shades of black, Just above the fog is a bright clear sky just waiting for you.
cognitive behavioral therapy is very good. if you have anxiety you do need it bc it helps reframe your thought patterns into healthy ones.therapy is good but there s also books on it. you may have to keep tweaking your thought patterns over time. some anxiety can be genetic. but the anti-dep meds really work well for anxiety. there,s no way you,ll have to feel like this for the rest me your life. i used to worry i was sick several times a week. now i never worry about it.
GAD & depression run in my family. My father suffered with it since he was a boy and exhibited it even when he dated and married my mother. In those days (30's, 40's she felt it was her job to try to cure him.) His symptoms only got worse until he died at 84 from an unrelated illness. He was happiest when working, but at home he constantly exhibited horrible anxiety and depressive episodes and overall depression. MAO inhibitors were the ONLY drug he could tolerate (no side effects) and they worked for10 years. Suddenly, they stopped working. Nothing worked (SSRI's, tricyclics, lithium) and he finally underwent over 20 ECT's which still didn't help with his stomach problems (depression related.) My symptoms did not appear till after I graduated college. I was very, very happy with my major in college & knew what I wanted to do with my life.
I started working as a high school band director at 23, and kept getting fired, moving on to other schools, always receiving negative feedback from EVERY boss I had until I was finally fired at 59, & could never find another job. Physical symptoms took over at 25 and still run my life (from 25-64.) I chalk this up to a genetic predisposition to depression/anxiety triggered by an environment I had NO CONTROL OVER.(more later.) Luvox (an SSRI) eliminated my anal cryptitis & swallowing/choking problems, and Xanax helps me to relax to eat and helps with anxiety. For 3 seconds throughout these past 41 years, all symptoms disappeared during an "after town band rehearsal conversation when I was 40," with musicians like myself at a restaurant. My body relaxed, no choking on food... I was with the kind of people I was with during college who loved music. So, if you are able to do what you love, your bosses have faith in you, and your principal (boss) does not constantly look for you to do something wrong, you've got a shot at eradicating this condition. Unfortunately, I was never lucky enough to teach at a high school or college symptom free. You see, my parents were Jews; there is no such thing as a Jewish high school band director, and after 35 years I finally figured out Christians do not want a Jew teaching their children. Nor do administrators want to hire a Jew (only in New Jersey or Long Island.) Band directing is a German/Italian/English profession. You MUST be born a Christian to be accepted. Thus, I never had any control over my environment, I never had a chance, and consequently suffered my entire life. The illness is something you are genetically predisposed to. Once your life environment puts up a permanent fence around you... (something in my case... religion) odds are you will never get over this condition; even in retirement. I did change my major (accounting) and went back to school at 31. My symptoms lifted. At school I was able to control my fate (grades) and no one cared about my background.
The best book written on this disease was written by David Sheehan and is entitled, "The Anxiety Disease." It will explain in detail (in English) what is going on, and what can be done. If you are dead set against medication read any and all books by Claire Weekes. In my case, I found no amount of psychotherapy, behavioral or cognitive therapy helped. In life, try to do what you were meant to do & love to do. Deep down, YOU DO KNOW what is causing your problem. Don't lie to yourself. Fighting it mentally, if your environment does not change will have no effect. At one school, the children I taught behaved like a bunch of wild turkeys. No matter what I did, I could not control their behavior. (We're talking an 80 piece band.) Then, 2 weeks prior to presenting a concert, all their disruptive behavior simply stopped (I had nothing to do with this...
a concert was coming up and the students needed my instructive expertise, so their parents could be proud of their achievements. During these 2 weeks my symptoms totally disappeared and I thought I had licked this illness. However, AFTER the concert, the children (high school) simply returned to their wild behavioral ways, and my symptoms reappeared. Again, the reason: I had no control over my environment (the students' behavior.) When I saw my doctor and he made sure there were no medical reasons for my condition, he gave me this advice: "Change your job or change your spouse."
I too am 20 and I have been dealing with this since I was 19. At first I didn't realize what was wrong with me I was sitting in class at my university and I would have to leave because I felt so nervous. Now I am on Prozac and hoping to see improvement. It's hard to deal with especially since my anxiety is social. I went from being a social butterfly to not leaving my house. I hope you don't give up trying to find something that works for you. I too sometimes feel like what's the point if I'm going to always suffer? But then I look at the people in my life and they are worth it to me. Always look at the bright side even when it's hard to find one. It's there always. Much love,
I appreciate the responses from all of you. It really helps to have people to connect with. Going through this in my early 20's has been rough, because these are suppose to be the best years of my life. I went from partying and enjoying life, to being miserable every day. I just don't know how to cope with the lack of joy and everything I'm missing out on. Everyone else my age I see is having the time of their lives and I'm stuck searching for minutes of happiness. I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Hi :) I'm so sorry you are dealing with this at such a young age! Please know you are not alone, and finding this support group is def. a great 1st step... I am 47 yrs. old, and have been Bipolar since I was 13/14 yrs. old. I'm not going to deny that any of these disorders are easy to deal with; however they are all manageable-your outlook on things will def. help.- believe it or not, one day, you may even be able to appreciate things you never appreciated before! Being upset about your new diagnosis, is def. understandable and normal. I'm sure we have all gone through this. Just know that although you think all your friends are living a great life and a "normal" one... that is not the case. We "all" have things we have to deal with (a health issue, parents' divorce, death in the family, abuse and the list goes on... ) however most of the times, we just don't know it. After being Bipolar for more than 30 yrs.
I still have my days of frustration, and think... "why me??? " But I can honestly say... I have had a great life... of course... with ups and downs at times... however learning to "ride the ride... " has helped A LOT! :)
But, remember, you are not alone! There are many great coping skills out there, good meds, and wonderful support groups that can help. - also, something that's helped me... allow yourself to feel your feelings :)
Hang in there... it will get better!
There is a very good way to get rid of excess anxiety. Any decent therapist and the proper medication will do it. You have to do the work, however. Keep all your appointments and be willing to change your point of view. Since you are young this is a perfect time to start working on this.
I don't know why someone told you there is no cure. Definitely wrong information. What prevents people from getting better is that they give up or think they are right and the experts are not, I recommend a book suggested by one of the leading experts in anxiety treating. Get and read it. People who are honest with themselves do very well indeed with this. Here is the information:
Tolin (2012), Face Your Fears: a proven plan to beat anxiety, panic, phobias, and obsessions. Wiley.
Available as an eBook for Kindle and other electronic books as well.
Suggested by Dr. Craig Sawchuk at Mayo Clinic, anxiety research division.
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