I know better than to do this ! I was diagnosed in 1988 with Bipolar. I was in the hospital for 2 weeks. Then another week for observation. At this time I didn't know what Bipolar was so I disregarded the diagnoses and continued to self medicate with alcohol and drugs. It worked for a couple of weeks but BOOM ! an episode. I have tried to quit meds many times. Then one day I looked up Bipolar and was in shock. This was after 2-72hr lock ups. Then I saw myself in each artical. I read how dibilitating this could be. I decide to take my meds as prescribed. I still had episodes, but far from how they were before. I told my Psyc what happened. After a few more visits I was told I was a rapid cycler and had mixed episodes. It took a while to stabalize, But finally did. For 6 years I had very few episodes. Been taking my meds every since. My Psyc retired and I had to find another. It took 3 Drs,and finally I found one that was "ok". The first visit he said I was ADHD. I got skeptical. In 24 years, no one had told me I was ADHD ! I came to a conclusion that this is a Psyc that is out to get what ever he can to make his patients come back once every 4 weeks. I was prescribed Adderall, which is legal speed. A class 3 narcotic that you have a new script every month. I felt ok until a major thing interupted my routine. My brother in law was going to stay for a couple of months. Not a problem. After 6 months he was still here. I was a little dismayed at this point. Soon I got really depressed. My husband said don't worry, he will be gone soon. YEAH RIGHT ! He is 53 years old and perfectl y fine to go to work. When he moved in he had $10,000 dollars and a Harley he could sell. This became a big problem. My husband said that's all he had. I told him I had 3 little children, I was broke and nowhere to go. A grown man should be able to support himself. My husband kept telling me to don't worry about it ! I was second in his life at this point. I got majorly depressed and my husband said I don't need to worry ! My brother-in-law was still here after 9 mo.( Then I switched to Mania and had a couple of mixed episodes.) After 1yr and 3 mo. I couldn't take any more. They wanted to put me in the hospital 3 times. I refused to go because I knew what was wrong. I moved to my daughters house. My husband told me his brother wouldn't be there much longer. Well after 4 more months he was still there. my husband wouldn't do anything so I told him he had to leave. 4 TIMES ! After19 mo. he finally got a clue. I stayed manic for 3 plus mo. I gambled all my savings ! Plus any money I could get ahold of. 3 days ago I quit obsessing. (as much as I could). My husbands brother finally moved in Dec. I stayed manic until now. I am on Social Security and give my money to my husband. My brother-in-law NEVER paid one dime to us. We supported him all that time. Toilet paper and all. I cried alot because we were supporting him and I had no money. Was I selfish ? At one point a few years ago we needed money for food. He wouldn't loan us a lousy $100. There are other things that happened.TOO MANY TO LIST. I know I'm just rambling on but I have nowhere else to vent. I have no friends. Please, if any one can help me get over this please tell me. My marriage was impacted and invaded. I want it back. I don't want to throw away my marriage of 25 yrs because of some jerk that had no contience invaded us. Any advise will help. Stacey
I can completely relate to your story and yes you were rambling, alot, and I can also totally trlate to that! Lol. Anyway, I would like to be your friend and talk about this more in private if you'd like. My life has been impacted greatly, nearly the same as yours is outlined in your message. I'd like to believe there is hope. My doctor also told me I was bipolar nearly 12the years ago, then Adderral lots of different meds, fanily, marital, behavior problems, terrible episodes, visits to hospital, many diagnoses, many drugs, drinks and many years later. So, if you need a friend I am right here Stacey Harbach (I hope this is a fake name ;) things will get better, there is good help. Keep your head high. Please, hang in there PS, please considergive not tryingto to cutsee your meds. Contact an good doctorto or hospital6 before this? You canI always gowill the thesame ward if youreI that badI off andthe need immediateto help.
I suggesthave stopping the addrrralthesame immediately. Having beena in youra shoes it helpedand me soI much toyou quit the "legal speed" -GreenMommy
After 21 years of being Bipolar rule number one is never go on Med vacation. It is like an addict saying if I do this only once it will be OK. Every time I tried to go off Meds before and the end result was always the same. I would do too much self medicating end up hurting those around me, myself, and jumping back on to the hospital goround.The symptoms you discribe are typical like gambling and not being able to manage your own money. I have a daughter that has ADHD was prescribed Adderall it has helped her. I was shocked to hear you being perscribed it that "legal speed" is dangerous to a person with Bipolar Disorder. Nothing like that to kick you up into a Manic state. By the sound your home life was just adding extra stress as well. It's not that Bipolar people can't handle stress for me less stress is best. You have every right to be angery with your brother in law but you should also be even more so with your husband for not honoring you.
It was very clear that your brother inlaw caused great tension within the house and lableing him a freeloader was quite correct. Also it is tragic that your husband wasn't doing anything to help remedy the situation (like kicking your brother inlaw out sooner). You ended up paying the ultimate price with your sanity and have every right to vent. You will have sympathetic ear to listen here you are not just rambleing.
Hello Stacey. I was wondering why as of late I hadn't see you posting. Glad to see you back. Its ok to vent. Just put pen to paper and post whenever you feel the need. Lots of good folks here, willing to lend an ear, offer support. You know that, best of wishes and bye bye then,pledge
I am sorry that your husband was no support for you in your time of need. Families are a weird thing... finally figured that out (2 bipolar brothers and 1 is a shrink) and even in the midst of a maelstrom, will pretend there is nothing wrong. We can't know the family dynamics at work between your husband and his brother, and believe me, sometimes if we find out, we are all freaked out about what went on in the family and how could anyone have survived that. I come from one of those families, so now I just don't ask, but I am a really good listener. I am hoping now, since the brother is now gone, your household ill settle back down and, might work, agree on no more freeloadin' family members.
I was diagnosed bipoar in 1968, and since my father was a surgeon and was bipolar himself, had me put on tricyclic antidepressants. I was 13 years old. He used to make me read medical books about psychopaths and ask did I see myself in any of the books. Of course I did, so with my own father screwing with my head, off I went to group therapy. The only thing that group therapy did for me was to meet some great druggies and dealers and one particulalrly nice dealer daughter of a guy in the FBI. We did have fun. Then, around the same time, parents tried to have me "placed"in an inpatient treatment facility for an indeterminate time. I packed my backpack and left home that night and stayed gone until my parents understood NO PRIVATE PSYCH hospitals for any reason unless I decided I needed to go... oh, hell no. But during this tumultuous time in my life, my parents, both highly educated and upper-crust types, including my bipolar surgeon father, pretended they had no idea what to do with me, or what mental illness was. I didn't pick this most lovely disease for myself. OMG, then I started seeing a shrink, oh what a joy, he tried to explain bipolar disease, I'd already read everything could find on it and knew the situation quite well, I was still making A's in school, self medicated wit alcohol and prescription drugs that I either got out of the mini-pharnacyi in his bathroom or getting them out of the sample drawers at his office, oe even good old dad would write me a script if he didn't have the drug du jour at hand. I stayed self medicated for years., and my altered reality was a lot beter than my regular reality.
How bout we compare notes later... as i'm starving right now.
The Sweet Hippie,
Stacy, there are people with your same issues, less issues, & more issues on this site. I thought I was reading my own letter altho" it be my husband whom is bipolar, & his daughter not brother moving in & boyfriends too at 17. Daddy's little girl you see. I joined this particular group to help me learn more about depression, & bi-polar than his physc & reading has already taught me. Our relationship was up & down every three months to the day! Including many suicide attemps on his part.
Just even recently a manic episode of spend, spend, spend even a $33,000 car! I try not to get angry about most of the trinket buying & spending at least he isn't gambling it away, & we live right on the Mighty Mississippe so their are gambling boats owned by the big casinos at about every port! We went one time just for fun, & I had to practically drag him out, & thought uh oh, big mistakes! Once my roll of quarters were gone I was ready to go home. What I am trying to tell you is that there is alot of support here for you. Laura opened her heart to you & Pledge welcomed you back(I don't remember you)so welcome aboard again. Now did you say he moved back in this past Dec. or out? I wasn't quite clear on that. You might have to just NOT hand over your disability check to your husband in any case, & tell him you are keeping just in case his bro moves back in because if that interferes with your relationship one more time, you are outta there! Maybe that would wakeup Mr. sleepy head. I have a brother who is very obnoxious & one that is sweet as the day is long. Mr. obnoxious has been very ill as of late,(almost died)so my sweet bro drove 5 days to go help him sell his things & move him to where his daughters are so they can deal with his medical problems & keep watch over him.My sweet bro called me last Sunday night, & said they (his wife too) had been there a week & were about to lose their minds! Suggested he fly as to not get a blood clot in his legs from too much sitting, & he told them emphatically NO WAY! My sis in law said if he wasn't she was flying home because he is so obnoxious & my sweet bro sid he didn't know if he could stand a 5 day trip closed up in a wee car with him. I have tried to have a business with him twice, tried living with him 3 times in times of need, but no way jose! I truly get where you are coming from. Good relationships are so important with your illness, & your husband is not supporting you at this time apparently. Tell him your doc said for your mental health it's the brother or you!(If you dare take that chance,)With children it may make him think twice or three times. Please stay with the site for support, As you see many of us have been in your shoes. I wish you the best...
Thanks ya'll.I read all the responses and I hope you are feeling better Stacey.It helped me.I am new at this bipolar stuff.If I feel that someone has wronged me,I can obsess on that one thing until it drives me crazy and makes me so angry that I make myself sick and have to go to bed and cry.I dont like to take meds.The list of side effects is scary.I dont want to take them.I think about not taking them... alot... but a stomach ache is better than crying all day.I dont know what to do... Does bipolar disorder ever go away?
Green Mommy, Yes, I really like to talk with you. I've been in the Las Vegas area for 34yrs. Believe it or not, I only have one friend. She lives in Idaho. I quit the Adderall 4 days ago. Please contact me privately. Thank you sedrickusa, I have 3 children (adults). 2of 3 are Bipolar. My son, 28, was given Adderall and went off of it (dr. guided) They are now treating him 4 Bipolar. I was told it worked oppisite on younger children. Just like Ridalin. I am trying to deal with the brother-in-law situation. Thanks Pledge, Thanks, I find most all your answers to be helpful. Imariani55, I come froma disfunctional family. Bipolar people are in my family from Great Grand Ma to my children. Will chat later. Thank You. Mary632009, Thanks for reminding me of other are worse than me. I am just pittying myself. He moved out this past Dec. Your advise, the same as everyones advise, helped me greatly. I'm Sure this won't be the last of my problems. Thank ALL of you for careing... Stacey
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