So for the past year I've been going down hill. I've started having panic attacks, anxiety even at home. If I leave the house my heart races and I tell myself it's ok you will be ok but my mind kicks in and says hurry up get back home. I can't even go to dr appts, I get scared and the waiting to be seen by the dr seems like forever. I don't know why all this has happened to me and why nothing seems to help. I'm tired of being a couch potato but I try and fail every time. I don't see my friends or family. I feel isolated. I feel like I can feel my mind slipping away even though I know everything that's going on. I'm anxious all the time. I've been on valium for 9 months and it doesn't help the anxiety at all just prescribed for meiners. Tried zoloft starting having visual disturbances at 12.5mg. I take 7.5 mg of valium twice a day I'm thinking I may need to up the dosage after all these months. I'm at my wits end. I've lost everything do to being injured on the job 2 years ago and I'm losing my car come jan. I've posted on here numerous times because this is where I feel like I get the most help. My spouse and I separated 6 months ago and I'm still dealing with that. Is there a way to get past all this? I honestly feel like I can't take much more. I've tried talking to a therapist who just wants me on meds. Idk what to do anymore. Christmas is coming up and this will be the first time I will be all alone. Feeling lost and depressed and losing my mind. Any suggestions would help.
Sounds like your meds are not working. Talk to your Dr. I hope you feel better. I was in crisis over my anxiety and panic a few weeks ago. Klonopin has helped greatly. I'll be starting a SSRI soon to. Counseling is helpful. Breathing exercises help a lot. Find a bud that can calm you down. Sit down or lie down. No pacing and walking around. Go outside and get some fresh air. Cold air really helps me! Try and work on your negative thoughts getting rid if them. And try creating positive thoughts.
You have no idea how much I wish I could offer some new idea that would help you. I know that intellectually you know you are ok, its the anxiety. That doesn't make it much easier. This time of year can be really hard on us too. If it helps, know that you aren't the only one who will be alone at christmas. I lost my loved one 4 yrs ago to cancer. Its hard to be alone at christmas, with friends we can make it thru. I'll probably be here much of the day.
I'm sure you are going through a difficult time. You will feel things you thought you had forgotten. Make sure you talk to your doctor or counselor about your feelings. You have to be strong. It's not easy and you are not alone. I lost my only child August 1st this year. She was just 20 years old.
Don't give up and hang in there. Im here if you want to talk. Take care.
Hello Ashton. Anxiety can make one crazy, right? The more you think about past events the deeper a rut in your mind you make. Before you know it, your mind automatically relives, dramatizes and fascinates you. How many days, weeks, and so forth have you wasted? What does all that lack of self forgiving, seeing it as done, inability to change gotten you? Not a thing but more anxiety, a nothing feeling life and a well of pity.
Ever watch Dr Phil? You should. At some point you will find someone just like you. Though Kaismama and others, including me, will tell you we know very well the sadness, suffering and pain you suffer, we also can tell you how we are not losers but fighters. Look inside and see where you left that self which fights for feeling better. It is a battle with yourself that needs to be won. We survive the darkness and hopefully learn enough not to let the pain return.
The process is simple. ,a good therapist will help you. They are the guide who leads us out of our inner darkness. A confidant who helps you find the solution and calm your need. You need certain tools to be successful in therapy. You must be able to gain insight so you can change. We call that living a good life. You must stop judging yourself so you can stop the dialogue in your mind. We call that confidence. You must trust that you don't have the answers but will find them with help. We call that an adult. No magic wands, no magic pills. It takes work to rebuild that which is not working. Don't forget that you came into the world with everything in place. It will go back in place by being aware, changing, and embracing life. We not hurt ourselves with our thoughts. Our actions hurt all around us. Feeling suicidal is foolishness. All that ever does is hurts people for the rest of their lives. A very selfish act. Just remember that tomorrow will feel different no matter how awful today may seem. It is all in the mind. The world remains beautiful, inviting and loving. You are simply out of step. Get a good therapist and get off the couch. There remains much for you to give the world. Tutor a child for reading. Help deliver meals to shut ins. Write cards for those who can't. So many things to do. Time to start. Wishing you happiness, Karen
Hi Ashton Last Christmas I just gave everyone money (not like me at all). This year I am shopping again and enjoying it. Anxiety and depression are real problems and I needed help, so I got it. I see a psychiatrist for medication and a counselor to help me with self talk, etc. It took both, three years of it, but I am feeling pretty darn good. Why don't you want to take meds?
Obviously the Valium is not helping. You need to try another benzo like Xanax or Ativan along with a different antidepressant. After battling the same issues as you for 40 yrs now, I'm doing well on Tofranil, Atenolol and Ativan. The racing thoughts have calmed way down and I'm not nervous about getting out away from home. I am certainly empathetic and also have trouble during the Holidays. I am able to keep busy doing projects better now too. If you're lonely get a pet - that can really help in many ways. Just know that you're not alone. There are so many of us battling the same things each and every day. Keep in touch on here whenever you need to. That's what keeps us connected - helping each other make it through the bad days.
Dear Ashton Jean - I am so sorry for the way you are feeling. I can relate so much!! I, too will be alone for Christmas & New Years and that makes me even more sad. My housemate will be out of town, and my family is in another state. Medically, I am not doing well at all. Very determined to NOT spend any of this time in the hospital. Due to my divorce and soon after, total disability, I have very little left, so I know where you are coming from. Sorry I don't have any "quick fixes" for you, but, you are not alone. As KM mentioned, i will probably be on here most of the day Christmas if feeling well enough to do so. Somebody is always around, so, if you need us, we'll be here for you.
Have thought about PTSD? Some where some how all this started with one thing and it hasn't been taken care off. Holidays always makes things worse. It's time to focus on you and no one else. Yes a pet will be helpful. Try and find a local therapeutic riding center with horses. They are your best therapist. Sounds like you have plenty of meds on board. Now it's time to get you healthy again. What vitamins are you on? What foods are you eating? That's the way I'm turning now is to healthy food fruits and veggies have so much good energies. Also idk what your spiritual beliefs are but have you concidered a chakra cleanse. Or something over that line. Just ideas and a concerned friend.
Hi Ashton we have talked about this several times,I say you should stick with the therapyst medications is i think what you need to get through all you have on your plate at this time and holidays for me even doubles my symptoms but it is a matter of the doctor getting the right mix of meds..you can't continue to worry about the car and other things just focus on you.when i get the rushing thoughts i force good ones in my head no matter how hard they are continue to think of things you enjoy beautiful outdoor things im a nature lover You are being much to hard on yourself and you must remember most of the meds you well get some kind of side effect when you start and you have to stay on them long enough for those to subside my dear,how long were you on the zoloft?
Just keep in mind you are as strong as anyone in tthe store and think of good things block out the negitive thoughs it brings on the anxiety and rapid heart ect you can contorl those but it takes some time to learn what works for you... mine is breathing when i start having problems it is most the time i am breathing shallow you have to breath so that your stomach pushes out a bit this means you are breathing deep.shallow breathiing is what brings on symptoms of panic for many and just remember this is going to go away or at least be maintained honey go slow practice your breathing on the couch so you know what you are doing in the store or drriving or whatever.this helps me as a agoriphobic i fight through everything i do even with medications please see your theapist that is the key for now and finding something that helps you there are more medications for use stay positive force good thought in your mind... good luck dear
Just concerned how you're doing now?
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I suffer from severe depression/anxiety and have since I was a teenager. I have tried EVERYTHING I've been pushed around from doctor to doctor and I have finally found my saving grace ... well maybe. I suggest lorazepam (ativan) I'm on 2MG 4 times a day as well as diazepam (Valium) 2 5 mg a day. I am at 200MG of Zoloft and to be honest it doesn't work as well as the others BUT I've tried cipralex and all these other medications and nothing worked. I actually think I may talk to my psychiatrist about getting rid of the Valium all together and get her to up my lorazepam as I find better results ... I hope this helped in some way?? I'm sorry I didn't even ask, have you tried ativan? You may need both together or one or the other!
I heard from this guy that not talking about things that bother you leads to mental illnesses. I have been watching His YouTube serious for a variety of things to think positive and learn self esteem and how to control your thoughts. Seriously check it out. Hope we both get better!
I sympathize with you. I know exactly how you feel. I have racing thoughts all the time. I can't concentrate and can't sleep. It's so weird about the racing thoughts. They just come out of nowhere. I left my husband two hears ago and moved to a different state, and am now living with my daughter. I feel frozen, like I can't move forward. I have tried antidepressants, Paxil was the last one and didn't seem to help very much. I had trouble paying my doctor bill, so they wouldn't refill my prescriptions until I came in, which I can't afford. Anyway, I hope you can find the help you need. Prayers to you.
Same thing here with me. I know how you feel. Nothing works and it seems like no one cares. I too am looking for a new doctor of psychiatry. I also take fentanyl as a patch for chronic pain and cannot exercise due to pain. I was taken off my medicine due to the CDC opioid prescribing guidelines but was stable on diazepam with opioids for years.
Anxiety is like pain, to fully understand it one must experience it. Choose an older doctor is what I am thinking.
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