I have been struggling with depression and anxiety on and off for years now. My doctor recently changed my medication to Effexor as after 5 years of being on Cipralex it stopped working. I get so tired of being on medication and feel so defeated that I will need to be on meds all my life. I am having a hard time accepting it because although I know millions of people suffer from depression but I feel like I am the only one who has a mental illness in my family, circle of friends and even colleagues at work. I don't know how to accept this and "be ok" with taking meds for the rest of my life. I feel alone and just want to know if other people have felt this way and how they are coping with knowing they will need to take meds forever.
You are not alone, I started having anxiety depression and panic attacks 3 years ago and it bites. I too have to be on medication see a shrink and a therapist. As far as I know nobody in my family has this and none of my friends so I know what you mean when you feel like your alone because it feels like no one understands what your feeling or going through. I have excepted the fact that I need medication even after I begged to be taken off of them the dr said no point blank.
You have to get a grip on your life. Millions of people take a medication and will for the rest of their life. Depression is a chemical imbalance in your brain and you need to take something to balance it. Its no different then if you were diabetic and had to take insulin every day of your life. You have no idea about your colleagues. They could be taking something every day for some illness. This is life. You're not unique by any stretch of the imagination. In order to deal with life you have to accept what its dealt you and work to make it as good as it can be. Moping around about it is the worst thing you can do, it only adds to the depression. I have been on antidepressants since I was 25 yrs old and I'm 66. You have 2 choices, you can fold and become a victim of your illness or you can say its not going to beat you, you're going to live as good as you can.
If you're not comfortable with telling people you suffer depression that's ok, but don't let it make you a victim.
Being on medication is nothing to be ashamed about. Mental illness is a serious condition that needs to be treated, just as you would need treatment for any other diseases, like diabetes or cancer. Trust me when I say that you are not alone, and even though know one you know has admitted to having some type of mental illness, I'd bet good money that at least one person you're close to has been touched by mental illness in some way. I'm only 27 years old, and I've been on prozac, then effexor, for more than half my life. Waking up and taking my pill is just part of my routine now, I don't even think about it anymore. I've also been amazed by the number of people I personally know that are on, or have been on some type of medication as well.
Hi! I usually address people by name, but I refuse to call you *Defeated*!! You only are if you let yourself be.
I, too, have been on medications since I was a teenager ~ I'm 58yrs now. Many different drugs, many different dosages, many different combinations. I tried withdrawing several times and that's how I learned I would probably never be okay without medication.
To me it's just a way of life. Like mama said, it's exactly the same as being a diabetic or having a heart condition. Taking my meds regularly, on schedule, I feel happy, confident, I enjoy life, I'm productive. Without them I have trouble dragging myself out of bed, and taking a shower? Sometimes not for days.
You are not alone and you're not weird or defective. A lot of people around you are probably taking psychotropic medications ~ there's still a ridiculous bugaboo about mental illness ~ so it's still a hush-hush secret for many people.
Oh, and the people who don't take meds ~ especially the ones that make a big point of telling people about it ~ probably should! LOL!!
Best wishes, WCV
I'v been on antidepresents for over 20yrs. I to am sick of taking meds. It's something I have to do to function in life. I'm sure more people u know take something just don't want to talk about it. You are not alone. Don't think about taking them just do it and do what you noramlly do everyday. After a while you won't think ur different or alone. I'm here for u.
Your not alone that is for sure! You probably have people around you that feel the same they are just not talking about it! Trying to find a proper med for depression takes time and patience. I know it took me years to find the right one too! But once I found the ones to help me I have no problem staying on them for the rest of my life because I finally have my life and family back! It is hard on everyone when we have a depression. There is no easy fix for that like a cast on a leg. Try a new antidepressant if it does not work you need to wean yourself off with the doctors direction and try a new one until you find one that works with your chemistry.
I'm here if you want to Private message me. Just need to become my friend first so you can ask a private question.
Good luck and take care,
I have been taking medicine for 2years now. keep coming back to my doctor every month.i felt tired already however i was thinking that if taking medicine all my life would save me from dying and continue living with my loved ones then why not? always think that no matter how boring and tiring our life gives us, dnt give up.dnt forget to ask god's help if u feel alone.do something that will keep u happy and busy. love love love.
Please know that you are not alone. Most people don't talk about it when they have depression or anxiety, unfortunately because the stigma of having these disorders is still with us. It's unfair, but true. I understand your feeling of being so tired of being on medication. I had to start on medication because of severe panic attacks and then agoraphobia, and later, depression, when I was 25, and I'm now almost 64, and have had to be on meds every day of my life (except for the times I took myself off the meds and had a terrible time, or the times the doctors took me off it cold turkey - again terrible). Kaismama describes it perfectly - that many have to be on meds for diabetes, or for epilepsy, or high blood pressure their entire lives. Also, many of your colleagues at work might be on similar meds for depression or anxiety, but everyone keeps it a secret because of the stigma. Perhaps one day that stigma will no longer be with us.
A few times I have told colleagues who I had known very well about what I have and what I take, and have been harassed out of jobs. Unless they have it as well, or are very understanding, they aren't going to understand. So be careful. And I was a mental health professional between ages 35-62! and even then was 'harrassed' in subtle ways. So, sadly, even then, the stigma is there.
It is just something we learn to accept over time - to accept the fact that we have these problems, that we need certain meds, and that not everyone will understand. It is very sad that it has to be this way. So to answer your question - yes I've felt alone, and have felt the same way you do. And if we have to take the meds for the rest of our lives, so be it. Very often I an extremely thankful that I don't have Schizophrenia-talk about stigma! I also take 4 meds for high blood pressure, and I'm OK with that. You just have to 'work at' accepting it. The Serenity Prayer says it so well --- God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change... You will feel a little less depressed and anxious when you begin acceptance. Being on this site and joining other support groups helps. (And sometimes, as one gets older, the depression and anxiety symptoms fade... but I'm not counting on it!)
We all have struggles. Little or big sounding to another doesn't change the fact. If it hurts it hurts. That empty space is what we long to fill. It is not filled with wishes. It is filled with joy as we cease looking at ourself and start getting involved with others. May it be starting by holding open a door for someone or smiling at a receptionist doesn't matter. It can be helping a child to read at school or writing a letter an older adult needs sent. Volunteering at a food pantry or walking dogs. It is the giving and the joy you create in others that fills that hole. Though it may feel like it is as empty and large as the universe, it is really tiny and can be filled as often as you wish. For some having faith in a religion adds to it. For others it is seeing a bird build a nest or the flowers of spring.
I am house bound with a terminal illness. I was vibrant, involved in volunteering, teaching and enjoying life. Suddenly I was so ill I actually passed and came back. All within a few hours. Life changes and the blows we get, as they say, make us stronger if we learn from them. Yes, I know depression from many experiences. Yes, I have learned to reach out. So I ask you: what can you do for another person today? See what happens...
Continue to take your medication! Im bipolar and couldn't stand the thought that I had to be on meds. Ive gone off my meds in the past, and got sick again. Had to go back on them! Don't worry about what other people think! If you go off your meds, you will get sick and have to start all over again. Accept the fact that depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain. If people can't understand that fact, then they are ignorant and have no right to judge you for something they haven't experienced! What's important is that you take care of yourself and continue to get better and enjoy your life as God intended... Much Love and Light to you!
Greetings! First let me say, this may sound very bleak in the beginning, but hoping you too, will see the bright side, through what I have endured. 2nd, remember, that tho' our illness may vary, there are people who will listen without condemnation when the going gets rough, k? --Like me :)
I know all too well how you feel. I've gotten bullied, teased & treated like a freak since anxiety/depression set in with me at 14 & I'm now 48. Back then they did not know how to 'fix' me, nor do they really know much more now. They tried countless drugs, & combination of drugs on me w/o success. I was then put on Xanax & Promethazine to combat the anxiety, panic, phobia, depression & nausea. Much like a vicious circle with one making the other worse.
With psychiatrists/therapists I had no luck--- Mere anger at their lack of knowledge & "How does this make you feel?" or raking through childhood memories. There was no caring, just a simple "Take this & you'll be fine".
Before I go further, No, I'm not convinced that all with mental illness of any kind will, have to take meds for their lifetime, but I'm not your doctor...
After countless doctors upping my dosage, adding to it, or reducing the Xanax, I was forced into withdrawal with no help. No ER, doc, or treatment facility would take me. Depression & phobias they feared, it seemed. So after 45 days of hell & no medical help, 1 doctor finally stepped up to the plate. I only weighed 68 lbs. at 5' 8" & suffered a mini stroke. In the end he did tell me due to medical negligence I would be on a maintenance dosage of a drug similar to Xanax, so I chose Clonazepam & Promethazine tablets & inject. for nausea & phobias. For awhile I feared everything & depression was always on my shoulder, however I found a wonderful psychiatrist, whom told me upfront he could not 'cure' me, but could give me meds to make my life more than just existing. As the years passed, I became one that he relied on to do 'talk therapy' while he did med checks. I still have a long way to go on my journey, but in many ways it's ok, ya know?
My current physician & other medical professionals still give me a hard time, cuz they can't 'see' the illness I carry, so once again I sometimes let them get to me & it hurts like crazy, & I feel all alone, other times, I've learned to laugh them off. I've learned a lot from what I went thru & some of what still rears it's ugly head, but there are many days I even forget to take my meds. I won't lie, cuz when the bad days hit, I feel very unworthy, & not 'normal' & hate myself even more to be tied to some medication, but then a good day will come, or I'll run across one who needs a friend or listening ear & then it doesn't seem so bad to have to be tied to them, cuz my depression/anxiety seems to dissipate & I don't need to rely on them as much.
My apologies for the lengthy reply,& there are a few websites I can give you, if you'd like. No offense meant here, but American doctors don't seem to stay updated as much as they should concerning anxiety & depression. I don't know much about you but you sound intelligent, caring & sensitive, which will be the very things that will pull you thru this, crazy as it sounds.
In America, I also Iearned much from Rick Springfield & Craig Ferguson, & use their tools, like pets being 'furry Prozac" or playing with kids, etc.
Each person is different in what helps them, but I know that as they thought "fame, fortune, sex or alcohol" would cure them, it won't, for it has to come from the inside, & I've worked with many who struggle with phobias, anxiety & depression.
I wish I had the magical words to heal you, but I don't. I only know that the answer lies within you & often if you are able to find one whom will truly listen, whether it be a friend, one on here, or a therapist, I have the faith you can overcome much of this 'defeated' feeling. For you, are never 'defeated'! Hang strong, & gain strength from others whom have been where you are... Even if it's only on here :) Give me a shout if you'd like to chat more...
Hey there Defeated. I say we start with changing your name to UNdefeated because you are not defeated. You still wake up each day with the chance of a better day & you're still willing to reach out to ppl. You ask your question on here because you hoped to hear someone tell you your not alone & maybe even tell you their stories sharing what improved their lives. So you still have hope & if theres hope theres still a chance for anything in life. If there's hope you are not defeated!! I understand your feelings though. Especially about the meds. I've known for 13yrs that im going to have to take a lot of meds (24 prescriptions) for the rest of my life & I still struggle with it & it doesn't help I come from a family of ppl who wont even take aspirin for a headache. You just have to do it. This is your life you can fight it & be miserable or you can accept it & try & make it as great as you want it to be.
Either way its still your life. You were dealt a negative hand but you can choose to fill it with positives. At least that's how I feel & try to live. Good luck Undefeated ;O)
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