they dont know ive been on them for 4 years? 1st i want to say hello and that i am new here and how impressed i am how supportive everyone is of each other. Everyone is so right-it is so scary to think of going through withdrawals again and what an embarrissing thing to tell people. I feel i got myself in the mess(because when i took Lortab or any painreliever the family would joke and say "u just want to take the med so u feel good" and things like that. Well, i took them because i have horrible migraines and end up in hostipal for 3 dyas etc, the hospital would start to treat me as a seeker-i was horrified-i dont like when others judge before they walked in your shoes-so i webt to a pm dr. and my life turned around. I was able to go to work and live my life without so much pain(i also have severe endometrisosis and chronic pancreatitisis. i just didnt want to be sick all the time and have my family see me that way-now after all these years i am considering stopping the meds cause i feel guilty(like im a fake) and sometimes i wonder how i would feel to be me again. Anyway, that is most of my story, thk u for listening.I do know and have done the Thomas Recipe but i end up back at dr. Sincerly, lost and confused...
You seriously have to remember that the way you will feel, the myself you are looking for, is a self full of pain. Stopping a pain med just because you feel guilty over the horrible way society acts with pain patients, has hardly a good reason. If you try to stop it, involve your doc. You should be weaned off of it. Then you own't have the horrible withdrawal symptoms.
Welcome to the site. All persons will develop a tolerance to short acting opiates if they are on them long enough. Don't worry to much about what your family will say, just think of you right now. The reason I say this, is those who have not walked in your shoes, have no idea how it really feels and they are often harsh and critical and will tell you,"I told you so," and you don't really need that right now. I have walked in your shoes and believe me, telling some people is a bad idea, so keep this between your dr and yourself for right now, unless you have one very tight lipped loyal family memeber you are positive won't tell, but I would advise against telling anyone right now. Tapering off is a great idea, sometimes people don't want to do tht and still need to function and if you are in that category, subutex or suboxone may be a good option for you.
Properly done as a treatment, including the recommended recovery therapy, a person can function and recover and gain their life back. Notice I said properly done, so many people try to wing subs therapy and those are the ones who have trouble with it. It is a bit expensive, and you will have to be in short acting opiate withdrawal first for 24 hours before you start th medicine. But it does ork very quickly, it has pain reliever qualities and I don't have any idea how many lortabs you are taking, but subs therapy is probably going to be easier on your liver and pancreas. It is normally once a day dosing so you would be comfortable and functional all day. It can work well to help someone get off pain killers, and you won't be high, just comfortable and able to think a bit clearer. The counselor will guide you through the emotional healing, and that is so helpful. We have a support group here for suboxone, subutex, opiate dependence and we can help some, but the therapy is also a great resource for recovery. Patti
Hello whome21. Its your privilige if you decide or not to let your family in on your private life. The withdrawals are a reality and as the ladies explained can be daunting. Welcome and hopefully you will support and comfort from the site. Many wonderfull members here. Regards pledge
Don't get off of your pain pills just due to guilt, because there is nothing to feel guilty about. Your family was NOT understanding about your pain. So you don't owe them any information about your pain pill history. If you want to get off of them for another reason, that's okay, but be very careful in doing so and follow your doctor's instructions for doing so. And if you think that your family will feel better knowing that you were hiding the pain pills from them for 4 years, you will just make it worse. So sorry that the world has a difficult time understanding pain just because they haven't been in the position themselves.
I think that Sara and Pledge have the answer to your question about telling your family-if your family isn't supportive-don't tell them, They're just going to nag you. There are lots of things that my son doesn't tell me. Sometimes, he'll tell me something and I say, "OK" We can choose our friends, but we're sorta stuck with our family-and people often wish they could divorce their siblings, children, etc. You should think of a support group wher you can talk-people understand you and not lecture. It's not like a movie I saw that I really liked. This addict was told to go to CA and get straightened out. "Hi, My name is Bill, am an addict and a hitman." They were never sure if he was in touch with reality, but in the movie we saw him go and whack people. They just accepted him for what he was. I think that you need to talk to people that accept you and understand you.
Welcome to the site you will find this is a Great site to find support & friends.
I just want to tell you there is No Reason to be embarrassed that you have some major pain issues you are fighting right now.
I have been in your shoes with the whole family thing. I was married about 12yrs ago & my Ex husband & his mom had the Exact same thinking as your family.. The thing is NONE of them have EVER had anything that caused then daily pain. So they have NO CLUE !! So I was like you I just stopped telling ANY of them what medications I took... Because there was no way they were going to understand & I was tired of hearing it.. So NO you Do Not need to tell your family anything.. Plus if it has been 4yrs without them knowing they will drive you insane because you didn't tell them sooner.
I do recommend that you put a Medical Alert card in your wallet so if something happens to you Emergency response will know what you are taking as it is very important.
I also suffer from Chronic Migraines & have for about 40yrs. Also I had Endometriosis & suffered from that for about 15yrs.
Finally they had to end up doing a Complete Hysterectomy as the Endometriosis had spread all over.
But I know the Intense & excruciating Pain that it causes on a daily basis & I also had the Severe Migraine pain at the same time as you.
If the pain medication that your Pain Management Dr. has you on currently is working then I would suggest you staying on the medication. If you think you may possibly can go down on the dosage ask your PM Dr.
But Please do not do it just because you feel Guilty. Because most Pain Management Drs. will not give you more medication than what you need & usually they are careful about what they give you.
I have sent you a friend request so we can speak privately off the boards if you would like. All you need to do is click on my Avatar with my name. It will put you into my profile & you can click were it says
"Ask Private Question".
I would love to speak to you as I think we have had Several Common things in our life.
Hang in there, Kathy
Hi whome, and welcome, I totally understand what you are saying. I have been through that, and after being in chronic pain for almost twenty years, STILL have to go through it, and actually, I really give you credit for NOT telling your family. My family thinks that I am a drug addict to this day!!! The hell with them. They don't have to live in my body, nor suffer the way I have suffered throughout the years. I started with migraines originally. Now they have wonderful triptans if you can take them, which get rid of 90% of the migraines and also botox that really helps cut down on the amount of migraines. Both have made the migraines manageable for me. With my back, that is another story completely. It is so messed up, and I am sick and tired of physical therapists, and doctors telling me that I am the most complicated patient that they have ever come across.
Like I don't already know that? I truly don't need to be reminded, LOL. What has really helped me cope is talking to a pain specialist psychologist. She has been the best thing that has ever happened to me, and helped me put the pain in perspective.
I strongly suggest that you see a pain specialist psychologist before you decide to go off of your pain meds. Look at you!! You are working, dealing with the pain, and living life!! Congratulate yourself!! What difference does it make what others think of you? Do you care if they don't like the way you dress, or the color or cut of your hair? Why do they have to know about the pain meds, if it brings you even more pain?
You need to decide to go off of the meds, because that is what you want to do, not what you are worried what others will think. One more thing to consider. In this climate, do you think that your PM doc would be giving you meds if you didn't need them? Trust me, they wouldn't!!
Take care of yourself, ok??
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