... i took an overdose last sunday eve after being found out of having an affair. i took 12 zapain, night in hosp came home. feel ashamed and not worthy. have odd panic attacks and dont like being on my own. hubby is being very supportive, but want to now if my emotional state is normal
Yes, your emotions are pretty normal. Each person works through these kinds of issues in their own way. Did they set you up with a psychiatrist to follow up with? You will need to follow up. You might even want to ask your psychiatrist about recommending some couples counselling-you are both going to need it. It is often very hard for couples to work this out on their own. There are feelings of shame and embarrassment, feeling foolish, also anger, jealousy, lack of trust and these all need to be worked through and are normal reaction in this kind of incident. Since your husband is supportive, this is a good sign that you both may be able to work through this and save your marriage but it often helps to have a "neutral" person as you work through things. This is one role of a couples therapist. You will also need to work through WHY you strayed in the first place. Usually it is because something is missing in your own marriage that you found with the person you had the affair with. These issues will still be there unless you work through them together.
Thank you for having the strength to post and share. I hope that the following days bring you and your husband the healing you both need. I found it very interesting that you said you don't like being alone. My daughter tried to commit suicide 5 years ago and THANK GOD was unsuccessful. She still has difficulty being alone and my other daughter and I always make sure to run to her side when she calls. I don't feel that she would ever do it again, we just understand and know she hates to be alone so we don't ever let that happen. I'm not sure how the whole being alone plays into it, but would greatly appreciate any input or insight you might have. It would really help me understand if you could be so kind. Thanks again for having the courage to post.
Hey PattyPuma. After reading your post I had to reply. Absolutely your emotional state is normal. Just a lil bit of fear,shame or guilt can be completely overwhelming yet here you are feeling all 3 on top of the emotional distress of an affair & a failed suicide attempt. Im thrilled you didn't succeed with that by the way but I comprehend the level of pressure you must be struggling with & have been for awhile. No worries take a breathe & allow yourself to feel whatever you need to cuz its normal & ok. Use your support as support & remember you don't have to carry the world alone
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