I am married to a drug addict. Not a day goes by that I don't think he has the ability quit. Most recently he quit for about 16 months on his own. He started up again and now is worse than ever. We have been married 25 years. Has anyone been married to an addict this long? I just left him for the second time and am away from our home. I need the strength to stay away. I feel like I am betraying him by not being there. We have been together since I was sixteen. He has never had professional help for this problem and refuses to get it. He is smoking PCP dippies and crack. Does anyone have experience with PCP?
I do not have experience with PCP but I am an addict and been married for 23 years. I can tell you that it is normal that when you stop that when and if you start up again you will pick up exactly where you left off or worse. I know that it is hard to stay away from someone who is in the middle of thier addiction but at this point until he seeks help you have to think about yourself and your safety. You are not betraying him. He will need to see that you are remaining strong so that he can not manipulate you back into the drama that comes from addiction. There are support groups in all areas of the country for addict family members. I would suggest that you locate one for yourself and even if he wont seek help, you know that there is a problem that he is not facing. You didn't say if when he quit previously if he did 12 step program or not but that would help you.
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