My ex has done alot of drugs. He left me because now he wants to go back to school and doesnt want a distraction. I didnt talk to him for a week and then he called me again. I didnt know what to do so i talked to him. I feel depressed and sick when i talk to him and i feel so guilty. He is getting worse and I want him to stop. As i said before that he has done drugs in the past and went to rehab but now he is smoking a pack of cigarettes a day and he did two lines of coke the other day, he also smokes pot.I dont know what to do because i do love him but i cant let go because im scared something will happen to him. He went to rehab again when we were together but he left two weeks in. When we were together his drug problem was never this bad. Things between him and i are kinda weird now and he wants me to wait until next summer and then we can get back together. Part of me wants to wait but i want him clean for him self before anyone else. I still talk to him. Should i not? I miss him so badly and want to take him back. Please help. (Sorry its so long.)
I am 41, I was an addict for 20 years similar drugs, been clean for 9 years.
Well, you love him, but he is an addict, and they lie, cheat, and can not be trusted at all.
You see addicts, fall in love with drugs and you come second, his priority is to get high.
If he truly loved you he would not postpone you until next summer... you would be his priority, but it seems like you are not.
I was married twice, have two kids. First I loved drugs, then my wife and kids. And finally left them. Big mistake with my second former wife.
Do not feel guilty, but move on... I know it will hurt you but in due time you will be ok.-
Relapse , the tendency is that eventhough he was in rehab, chances are he will, I was in rehad for one year, and relpased once, so what I am trying to say is that you are not prepared to face all this, although you love him... you will go through hell with him, is it wofth it? and love sometimes is not enough... from my experience.
You deserve better, you have to find a guy who is not a user and his priority is you. I know it is hard, very hard because you have very strong feelings for him, but let´s face it, he wants to stop seeing you because he does not want to get distracted..that is a lie, he wants to party, and have no one to control him or stop him from using drugs... been there.
If you are scared of something happening to him, it is his problem , not yours... there is a saying ... do not make his problems yours.-
I suggest you stop talking to him, that will only make you think about him more..it is his life, his actions and the consequences he must resolve(pay).
You seem like a very nice person... so once again you do not want to be involved with an addict, even if you love him.
Things are strange between you and him, it is because he is on something.
Do not waste your time he did coke ( two lines), I was addicted to coke, pot, E´s , acid, booze ( which goes hand by hand with coke) and many others.
I lied, cheated ... etc
Please follow my advice, you seem young, you have a full life ahead of you, be smart about it.-
Take care, ... and I hope you take my advice... please.-
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